or is my DH?

[spacegirl81]

First time poster here so please be gentle!

So we have agreed to sell our house and buy a larger family house, which we are hoping to be our forever house.

I contacted 3 EA to arrange meetings, and after discussion we found one we were happy with if they could match fixed fee. Contacted them, they could so after a weekend of sorting/cleaning/tidying house they came to do measurements/photos today.

Prior to meeting we were informed (at initial meeting) of their fees, t&cs etc so we were up to date on this. DH wanted to see paperwork first before we signed to them (even though we had nominated them on the phone). Worth mentioning that house/mortgage is in DH name, but living together 9 years, married 4 with 2 kids.

Today the EA came round with paperwork to sign, take measurements and do pictures. The paperwork set out exactly what we already knew and agreed to over the phone so I signed it on our behalf. DH is pissed off because I've gone against him and our original decision to look at paperwork together. I explained that if was the same so I made a decision and signed it so we could get the house up for sale ASAP. He's still not happy and is now being grumpy. So was I unreasonable to make an informed decision and sign as it was what we knew and agreed to?!!!

So why wasn't he home for when the EA came around.

It would of been a waste of the EA time, because without the signature the photos and measuring wouldn't have been done.

I agree that the op should have waited though as agreed.

Could have been at work maybe?

It was wrong to sign paperwork to agree to sell something that doesn't legally (forget morally) belong to you. The silly estate agents are also to blame. You can't always believe what they tell you; believe me, I have worked with them for the last ten years!

My partner and I jointly, on paper, own our property and even I would wait until we had BOTH read the paperwork before signing, regardless as to what had been verbally agreed. People often change minds or at the very least would want to check that what had been verbally conferred was the same in writing.

You absolutely should apologise.

The OP mislead her DH??? How is that? By going ahead on something they had agreed to do?

And she disregarded his pov? How often dies it happen in a couple where both partners trust each other that they both agree on what to do, and one gets on with doing just that? Normally quite often for little things and for bigger things.
I mean he agreed to the T&C. He agreed with using said EA. That's not a huge deal. Not the same than agreeing the selling price if the house for example.
And also said 'I want to be in charge and check everything myself'. Well I would to know why? Because he is a control freak? Because he doesn't trust the OP? Because it's his house? Because ???!
Until the reason why he is choosing not to trust the OP's jugement I am struggling to see why she would be unreasonable or why she had to do as she is told for something not so important.

After all that our house is sold! Excepted an offer today!