...to ask this mother to wash DD's jacket.

[MamTor]

DD just come in, soaked through and with no jacket.

Said jacket, is, apparently, languishing in a piss filled puddle.

Story goes, boy 1 pisses in puddle, boy 2 takes jacket of DD and throws it in puddle.

What. The. Actual. Fuck?

One of the boys lives opposite us, I've never met his mum or dad. But I guess I am about to.

It's not the first time we've had trouble from him.

She is refusing to wash the jacket according to DD.

Oh dear, I fear this will not end well.

It was at the local park, just round the corner.

I know how you feel wanting to march over there but I can almost guarantee you'll be the one to get the hassle in the end. Wash the jacket and cool off first.

The jacket itself is not really the issue so you can always have a go at the mum later if you still want to (although I would recommend dignified silence instead).

She saw the pee, but not the penis!

Thank you Closer wise words indeed. (As they all are).

Said jacket is now in the washing machine.

Will wash it on a 60 cycle.

Why do some people say "Can't you contact the school" - WHAT has it got to do with them if it is outside school premises and hours. FFS.

Oh, well done.

I was going to say: don't engage. Take the high road.

Wait for The (justified) Rage to subside and you will be glad you did.

I'd just wash the jacket myself. If I threw out pissed on clothes potty training ds would be wearing clothes once for five minutes!

I understand your ick. Just get plastic bag to handle it dump it in other plastic Bag & then wash it on its own.

Try and go round & have a sensible conversation with the parents about their ds bullying behaviour. & report it to school. They have a responsibility to take bullying seriously.

One can always rely on MN to bring one back down to earth PDQ!!

oh this happened to dd2 I got the jacket home from school in a black bin bag stank of piss some boys thought it was hysterical I did not just why I did phone the school and asked what was going to happen to them , they were kept in at playtime to be near a toilet i presume,

op I wouldnt go anywhere near them wash it yourself stick some white vinegar in with the wash in the prewash bit and wash as normal will get the smell out

Depending on how you're doing money wise, I'd chuck it and get a new one. It's always going to be the 'piss coat'.

I don't think the school can (or should IMO) do anything about horrible behaviour outside of school hours/grounds, but if this is an ongoing problem with the same children I would let them know about it in case this kind of thing happens at school too.

How are you enjoying the air up there on the High Ground?

If you can afford it I would throw it away and let your DD choose a new one. And tell her to keep the hell away from that boy.

I wouldn't give it to the mother to wash. She'll probably just shit on it instead.

Do have a word tho- at whatever volume your PMT considers acceptable. No sense in letting the scum get away with it completely scot-free.

What a disgusting thing to do. Glad you took the high ground OP, but something in me would want to take the lowest of the low ground and pour piss through their letterbox.

I agree jack - washing it yourself but having a word with the mother is what I would do.

Say that next time this happens you will be reporting said boy for exposing himself.

Flap - I am an assistant head teacher.

I would ABSOLUTELY deal with this if a parent rang up about it. It's got everything to do with the school because it's bullying. Schools that say "nothing to do with us, not on school grounds" perpetuate bullying and mean that children who step off those premises are not safe. Distressing for the child beyond belief and mean that the school looks poor in the local area. Both good reasons to step in.

I'd try to talk to the boys parents myself. Imagine your child did something like this. Wouldn't you be horrified to think everyone else knew and thought you were a bad parent when you were actually completely oblivious? If they turn out to be complete nightmares then at least you know what you're dealing with. Just try to stay calm as difficult as it may be.

Could be worth talking to the police. They won't prosecute, but this is criminal damage and they might get a community police officer to go and have a word with them.

That's good to hear needtotalk,

Though I wonder what you, as a school could actually do.

Flap jack-or head would absolutely deal with something like this!x

I agree with the posters above. The child's mum is probably as unpleasant as her son. Even if she agrees to wash the jacket, which is doubtful, she will probably do a half-assed job of it on purpose. Better to wash it yourself and know it's been done properly.

Get a couple of nappies post through the door saying you son obviously doesn't know where to piss so put a nappy on him so he doesnt piss on the street.
If a 9 yr old to me to fuck off either direct or in direct he wouldn't hear the end of it.....