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To not want to sit in silence to watch someone's wedding video?

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Mittensonkittens · 27/10/2013 20:30

Our niece got married three weeks ago. We attended the wedding. Dh's family have been OBSESSED with the wedding, especially bil and sil.

Today we were at my pil's when they popped round (niece, her husband, sil and bil) with the wedding video so we could watch it (great, would not have gone if I'd known). They kept calling it the "greatest film of the century" and laughing, but I think they may have been serious.

So they put it on and then we had to sit and watch it and every time someone spoke bil would say "shhhh shhhh this is a good bit coming up" and glare so eventually everyone sat in silence for two and a half hours. We tried to make a break for it twice but both times bil was all "no stay stay there's a great bit coming up." Yes, we were there only three weeks ago, Im fairly sure i can remember what happens next. The only time we were allowed to speak was after Bil's speech when we were encouraged to bestow lots of praise and astonishment at how brilliant it was. Bil rewound parts of it twice Hmm

We also had to listen to all the guests saying congratulations at the end as they filmed a personal message from each guest, which basically went "congratulations niece and dh, we hope you'll have a great life together." It went on for quite some time. Lovely for them I'm sure but given that we had no idea who most of these people were it did get slightly monotonous.

Aibu to not want to spend two and a half hours watching a wedding DVD in silence, especially since I attended the wedding only three weeks ago in person? Or am I just mean?

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Cerisier · 28/10/2013 13:48

limited that is such a sad story, poor dad Shock

pigletmania · 28/10/2013 13:51

I would Rather stick pins in my eyes. Self absorbed much. I would have inched closer and loser to the door, then say gottogo now and make a dash before anyone could protest

Pinkpinot · 28/10/2013 13:53

Oh no
That sounds awful
And a bit funny

TheHeadlessLadyofCannock · 28/10/2013 13:56

Grin Thanks for the laughs, OP. I do sympathise though; how awful!

Store it up to use in an article/stand-up routine/short film so you at least get some £££ out of it.

TheHeadlessLadyofCannock · 28/10/2013 13:56

PS Celine Dion pan pipes Shock Grin

Viviennemary · 28/10/2013 13:57

Why do people put others through this torture. At least you knew the person. Somebody expected me once to watch a video of somebody I didn't even know getting married. From the bridesmaids getting ready. I made my excuses and left. The same with endless photographs especially on computer screen. With an explanation for each one and only 799 to go after you've already seen loads.

pigletmania · 28/10/2013 14:01

Well if it hapens again, I woud tell tem thanks but you've already seen it, make excuses and go

WhereYouLeftIt · 28/10/2013 14:08

"So far on FB bil and sil have wished Niece and her new husband a happy one week, two week and three week anniversary."
Maybe because they're pleased the marriage is lasting so long? The cynic in me thinks that the more important the wedding is to someone, the less important the marriage.

BalloonSlayer · 28/10/2013 14:09

I had to watch a 4D scan video a couple of months back.

"Would you like to watch it? It's only 20 minutes!" was the cheery question.

What could I say?

"No, I would rather crawl up a Hippopotamus's arse," - too rude,

"No I think they are bloody creepy" - too honest and also too rude
"Good Gracious is that the time? We need to get off!" - blatantly a lie

Sigh.

It was every bit as creepy as I had thought. Which was a shame because I was madly excited about the baby in question and did not wish to view anything that made him seem repellent.

Then I was told that the 4D scans actually don't show you what the baby actually looks like. They only pick up the "bare bones" so to speak of the foetus, and the computer fleshes the image out. Ah! So that's why it looks so creepy.

Using the last dregs remaining at the bottom of my social skills tank, which had been already been run almost dry that afternoon, I managed to refrain from saying: "Well if this isn't what the baby actually looks like then WHAT'S THE BLOODY POINT??? And did you say it was 300 quid?????"

Baby is here now and breathtakingly beautiful and all-round gorgeous, and I would like to say to him: "Who's a gorgeous baby den?! Who's so much better looking than that fecking awful scan video den?! Who had Balloon worried he was going to look like a monster den?! Yes! You!!"

Notafoodbabyanymore · 28/10/2013 14:11

Genius! This has really made me laugh OP, thanks. Some people just have no idea, do they?!?!?

AnyChippednailvarnishfucker · 28/10/2013 14:26

Had a flatmate who listened to panpipe music, we're no longer in touch.

MiaowTheCat · 28/10/2013 14:30

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Mittensonkittens · 28/10/2013 14:34

Heartening to read that my in laws aren't the only self obsessed people in the world when it comes to making others watching life events on video.

They've just had the pictures back and sent us a link, had a quick look. There were 16 of the Bruce's shoes artistically arranged. 16.

Panpipes are unforgivable in all circumstances and should be outlawed.
The scene of the bride swinging back and forth whilst her new dh pushed her on a child's swing and set to the power of love (in panpipes) nearly tipped me over the edge.

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Mittensonkittens · 28/10/2013 14:34

No one wants to see their employer's fanjo miaow

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Notafoodbabyanymore · 28/10/2013 14:50

Grin at the Bruce's shoes.

Too many funny things in this thread to mention...

TheGhostofAmandaClarke · 28/10/2013 15:01

I will happily watch other ppl's holiday pics/ vids (probably not in silence) but OP's situation would have made me want to scream.
I think I would have jumped up, yelled "shit, I left the gas on" and go home/ to the pub/ supermarket/ dump......
But I don't really enjoy actual weddings much either Halloween Blush

ZingWantsCake · 28/10/2013 15:07

I'm guessing you had to watch in silence and concetrate because they are showing it to everyone and there will be a test later.

the exam will be sophisticated - put events in chronological order, match people to well wishing phrases, spot the difference, spot the red herring, yes/no answer, multiple choice and essay.

when the results are out the winner will get a treat (a copy of wedding dvd) and everyone else has to rewatch the best bits (and will get a copy of the dvd).

moogy1a · 28/10/2013 15:09

The scene of the bride swinging back and forth whilst her new dh pushed her on a child's swing and set to the power of love (in panpipes) nearly tipped me over the edge
No, I'm sorry, I refuse to believe that ( though I hope to God it's true!).
Please let's have someone else on here admitting to this sort of shenannigans

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Mittensonkittens · 28/10/2013 15:13

It's true moogy - is that a good or bad thing? It was in slow motion too.

I hope there isn't going to be a quiz zing although I wouldn't be at all surprised. There was a quiz at the wedding about the bride and groom.

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moogy1a · 28/10/2013 15:15

Sweet lord. Slow motion as well? Don't suppose there's any way we can get to see this? It sounds the most awesome thing I've ever heard of.
And you managed to watch this without pissing yourself?!!

ipswichwitch · 28/10/2013 15:21

am literally dying laughing here at pan pipe "love will tear us apart" friday you could make a compillation of highly inappropriate songs redone in panpipes - rage against the machine anyone?

and also remember Helen Daniels died watching Kylie and Jason's wedding video on neighbours, a warning to us all about the dangers of tedium

i'll go into labour early at this rate!

kiriwAnyFuckerwa · 28/10/2013 15:21

Having said I never want to see anyone's wedding video, I really do want to see the bride on the swing in slow motion. And Bruce's shoes :o

moogy1a · 28/10/2013 15:23

They must surely have posted highlights ( of which the slow mo swing would be one) on some social interweb type thing.
Please please point us in the right direction

limitedperiodonly · 28/10/2013 15:26

Cerisier it was really sad. But she and her mum didn't think they'd done anything wrong.

Her mum was a nice woman but steely in pursuit of what she wanted. My friend was the same, but minus the humour that softened, or rather masked, her mum's attitude.

They made him trot the story out to me once as well and it made for a funny anecdote the way he told it. But I suspect it was as uncomfortable for him to tell as it was for me to listen to.

My friend later dated someone her mum deeply disapproved of. He wasn't Jewish and he wasn't a doctor or an accountant so there was no point him converting Shock.

He was a chippy and her mum once had a stagey conversation with me to try to spell out to my friend just how unsuitable that was.

I listened and then said in my most pious voice: 'But Audrey, Jesus was a carpenter.'

At least Audrey had the grace to say: 'Touché.' Grin

BTW he was no Messiah but she might have been a Mary Magdalene. They were using each other for hot sex Grin

moogy1a · 28/10/2013 15:27

Is it anything like this?
footage.shutterstock.com/clip-2356226-stock-footage-bride-and-groom-play-on-swing-at-their-wedding.html
but of course with panpipes.
Which power of love was it?
Frankie goes to Hollywood or Jennifer Rush?
In fact no, I hope it was Huey Lewis and the News ( made more famous by being used in a murder scene in American Psycho!)