To not want to sit in silence to watch someone's wedding video?

[Mittensonkittens]

Our niece got married three weeks ago. We attended the wedding. Dh's family have been OBSESSED with the wedding, especially bil and sil.

Today we were at my pil's when they popped round (niece, her husband, sil and bil) with the wedding video so we could watch it (great, would not have gone if I'd known). They kept calling it the "greatest film of the century" and laughing, but I think they may have been serious.

So they put it on and then we had to sit and watch it and every time someone spoke bil would say "shhhh shhhh this is a good bit coming up" and glare so eventually everyone sat in silence for two and a half hours. We tried to make a break for it twice but both times bil was all "no stay stay there's a great bit coming up." Yes, we were there only three weeks ago, Im fairly sure i can remember what happens next. The only time we were allowed to speak was after Bil's speech when we were encouraged to bestow lots of praise and astonishment at how brilliant it was. Bil rewound parts of it twice

We also had to listen to all the guests saying congratulations at the end as they filmed a personal message from each guest, which basically went "congratulations niece and dh, we hope you'll have a great life together." It went on for quite some time. Lovely for them I'm sure but given that we had no idea who most of these people were it did get slightly monotonous.

Aibu to not want to spend two and a half hours watching a wedding DVD in silence, especially since I attended the wedding only three weeks ago in person? Or am I just mean?

Where was the new husband during this lovely get together with the in laws? How did he manage to escape? I'd be getting tips from him

I remember after my wedding (20 years ago - where the feck has the time gone?) that my mum was driven nuts by my dad watching and rewatching the wedding video pretty much continually. My dad isn't given to big displays of emotion and looking back we think it was some kind of therapy for him - his wee girl leaving home,etc, esp we then moved 200 miles away.

Or maybe your BIL is just trying to come to terms with the huge amount of dosh he's spent on one day

I couldn't even sit through my own vows on the video... I liked the dancing bits though

I had to sit through my friends it's was about half an hour spoilt by ds who kept shouting out there I am look mummy :)

why would anyone think other than those directly involved would be in the slightest bit interested amazes me how self absorbed people can be

Panpipes rarely improve anything

I feel for you!

There probably will be an anniversary screening.
So far on FB bil and sil have wished Niece and her new husband a happy one week, two week and three week anniversary. I want to comment and say anniversary means annual. As in a year. You cannot have a one week anniversary.
I wonder if they will do it for the entire year until it really is a proper anniversary?

You're a better person than I am. I would have said 'Yes. I was there. Have a nice day.' And leave.

Hideous! And FWIW I hate it at weddings when videographers or well meaning friends force you to give a message to the couple on video!

I wonder if they will do it for the entire year until it really is a proper anniversary?

If the marriage lasts that long.

No not in an ironic way at all!!!

YANBU I haven't even watched the DVD of my own wedding

Oh gosh, WHY do people think you want to watch their cringey wedding videos?!

My friend had one made from her wedding abroad; and it was really badly made and cringeworthy. The groom looked awkward during the whole thing, which immediately makes you feel you're watching something inappropriate! They're normally a very private couple who do not display affection at all, so watching them get into poses with the photographer, kiss for ever, him swing her around on the beach etc, felt like we were intruding.

The whole thing was set to Lion King-esque music, drums and tribal singing going on and building up when they walked down the aisle, reaching a crescendo when they reached the vicar. It then backed off a bit to some light bongo tapping whilst they were doing their bit, only to wildly take off again into a sort of wild celebration of drums and singing after the vicar said 'you may now kiss the bride'.

I felt rude after watching it

YANBU. I don't interest myself enough to watch a 2 1/2 hour video of me and DH. I think it's just about OK to show drastically edited highlights (about 3 mins) to people who weren't actually there but anything beyond that is verging on narcisissm.
And I am actually allergic to panpipes < fact>

thats almost as bad as the time I had to watch all star wars movies

In german

Eurgh, I'm glad I didn't have a video.

I have a USB of pics people flick through on the TV when they pop round, much more relaxed.

you do sound a bit weddingscrooge

All the best bits of a wedding are the bits that can't be shown on the wedding video ime
YANBU and not mean at all, sounds like the definition of tedium!!

Panpipes howling panpipes.
Panpipes can surely make the most ardent of wedding lovers weep.

2.5 hours? I think you've earned some seriously good karma for sitting thru that graciously, OP.

I feel your pain. I had to sit through a birth video once. Complete with camera angle from the .... urhmmm... business end. Set to 'Isn't She Lovely' on repeat for three FECKING hours.

HowlingTrap even if you were my best friend I wouldn't want to look at your wedding pictures, beyond one that was framed on the wall.

Oh god I missed the last post.

BIRTHING VIDEO?!!!!!?

I hate looking at other people's photos. No one wants to see your wedding photos howling, except perhaps your mum.

mittens - there is no earthly way I could have sat through that.

Sound like my idea of hell.