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To not want to sit in silence to watch someone's wedding video?

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Mittensonkittens · 27/10/2013 20:30

Our niece got married three weeks ago. We attended the wedding. Dh's family have been OBSESSED with the wedding, especially bil and sil.

Today we were at my pil's when they popped round (niece, her husband, sil and bil) with the wedding video so we could watch it (great, would not have gone if I'd known). They kept calling it the "greatest film of the century" and laughing, but I think they may have been serious.

So they put it on and then we had to sit and watch it and every time someone spoke bil would say "shhhh shhhh this is a good bit coming up" and glare so eventually everyone sat in silence for two and a half hours. We tried to make a break for it twice but both times bil was all "no stay stay there's a great bit coming up." Yes, we were there only three weeks ago, Im fairly sure i can remember what happens next. The only time we were allowed to speak was after Bil's speech when we were encouraged to bestow lots of praise and astonishment at how brilliant it was. Bil rewound parts of it twice Hmm

We also had to listen to all the guests saying congratulations at the end as they filmed a personal message from each guest, which basically went "congratulations niece and dh, we hope you'll have a great life together." It went on for quite some time. Lovely for them I'm sure but given that we had no idea who most of these people were it did get slightly monotonous.

Aibu to not want to spend two and a half hours watching a wedding DVD in silence, especially since I attended the wedding only three weeks ago in person? Or am I just mean?

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 28/10/2013 09:44

OMG camera down the goal end midnite? Shock Isn't she lovely as a soundtrack? Shock

QueenArseClangers · 28/10/2013 09:55

ziggy I've just swallowed my porridge the wrong way thanks to your lightly tapping bongo video story! Ha!

Sparklingbrook · 28/10/2013 09:57

I am loving these especially the musical accompaniments. I wish I had a story to add.

UsedToBeNDP · 28/10/2013 10:07

Yanbu, it sounds heinous

Howlsmovingcastle · 28/10/2013 10:08

My parents kept on trying to make me watch my own vows. I watched a few times and then said 'Why do you keep re-running this? I was THERE fgs.'

They put their phones away yes they were phone videos muttering something about how they thought I'd like them.

Every so often I would still come across my mum sitting there watching them in a corner somewhere weirdo

friday16 · 28/10/2013 10:12

They put their phones away

If only they'd done that at the wedding, eh?

diddl · 28/10/2013 10:12

My dad has got our wedding video-a friend did it.

Don't think anyone has seen it yet.

We had our 18th WA this year!

Guess no one is that bothered about reliving it!

GladitsnotJustMe · 28/10/2013 10:20

Jeezus that sounds excruciating - surely the only thing that would make anyone's wedding vid bearable is if you're encouraged to laugh and reminisce through it all "haha, look at Aunty Maude's dancing", "oh granny looks a bit drunk there" etc... to do it in revered silence is just.. weird

Thank you LifeofPo

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 28/10/2013 10:22

oh god, FIL got a video camera years ago and at every visit you would look up from picking your nose or something and there he would be with the fecking thing pointed at you, no warning or anything. we have never yet seen any of the years and years of footage he must have. made a comment once about getting it onto DVD's we all ignored him. god that will be interminably boring if it ever comes to light.

MrBloomsMarrow · 28/10/2013 10:45

midnite are you serious? Who would seriously think that anyone would want to watch 3 hours footage of their fanjo? How did you react?

mrsjay · 28/10/2013 10:50

My own wedding video bored me to tears and tbh I have no idea why we got one done a friend of MILs offered to do it he was doing media or something at college and we said yes, yanbu but maybe the inlaws were trying to be funny with the shushing IYSWIM , just wait until you get an invite to watch the 4d scan video Hmm

mrsjay · 28/10/2013 10:52

OP you will get the DVD photo disk to look through soon of which pictures you want and if it is like DH nephews there was 3 hundred to chose from Shock i am so mean sometimes

Tinklewinkle · 28/10/2013 10:53

YANBU

We've got a wedding video - a friend did it for us, videoed the whole thing, edited it, set it to cheesy music and gave it to us as a belated wedding preset.

I've never seen it, let alone subjected anyone else to it

mrsjay · 28/10/2013 10:56

my friend invited me to watch hers I was bridesmaid we sat down with alcohol and nibbles about 10 minutes in friend had this Hmm and said do you fancy watching dirty dancing Grin

Howlsmovingcastle · 28/10/2013 12:00

friday16 well yes, quite! Grin

liquidstate · 28/10/2013 12:24

My dad made a slideshow of my wedding pics and set it to music. Even I found it dull. Not sure about the Daniel O'Donnell soundtrack though Hmm. Needless to say my mum loved it.

BeCoolFucker · 28/10/2013 12:29

ha ha ha ha - OMG I'm so sorry OP but your pain is making me wince and laugh all at the same time. It must have been fucking dreadful and you deserve a big shiny medal. I could not have done this.

Some people have no idea do they? OK play it if you must but in the background FFS!!!! To insist full attention from all is full on narcissism ins't it???

You are my saint of the day!!

friday16 · 28/10/2013 12:30

To insist full attention from all is full on narcissism

Anyone who insists on full attention is probably on glue.

BeCoolFucker · 28/10/2013 12:32

We also had to listen to all the guests saying congratulations at the end as they filmed a personal message from each guest, which basically went "congratulations niece and dh, we hope you'll have a great life together." It went on for quite some time.

Grin
ziggiestardust · 28/10/2013 12:43

Anyone who insists on full attention is probably on glue.
Grin hahahaaaa!

5Foot5 · 28/10/2013 13:09

The only point of having the wedding recorded is in case something goes hilariously wrong like the groom fainting face first in to the cake or the bride getting her dress stuck in her knickers, and then you can send it off to You've Been Framed or whatever it is and claim your £200 prize.

I feel for you OP - I really do.

We were given a copy of BILs wedding DVD because we couldn't be there. Thankfully they didn't expect to watch it with us so we were able to FF past the boring bits (most of it)

Gatekeeper · 28/10/2013 13:16

light bongo tapping

limitedperiodonly · 28/10/2013 13:29

A friend inflicted her wedding video on me. She was divorced, but it had been her big day so...

As if that wasn't self-obsessed enough, she also complained that her dad had spoiled it by walking out for a little cry in the car park.

She'd wanted it held in a particular synagogue but the rabbi insisted her uncle took her dad's part because her dad was a Jewish convert so not worthy.

She went along with it. Nice girl. We're not in touch any more.

mrsjay · 28/10/2013 13:35

oh i forgot i had a wedding dvd sent to me by them of the 300 pictures with a thankyou note for their present, have not watched it

Dobbiesmum · 28/10/2013 13:38

You can all come round and watch my wedding video, it's 10 minutes long and consists mostly of my Mum bossing people around, it didn't even get as far as me walking down the isle! The person who was supposed to be videoing it (even though we weren't bothered) left his camera in the church for the rest of the day so we didn't get anything else.
We can watch it while talking and drinking then get down to watching Strictly Grin