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First world problem- Christmas related [title edited by MNHQ]

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 00:19

So, today I saw a thread on here about the iPad air, released 1st nov. I have had the iPad 1 since the beginning, it is slow, clunky, and throws me out of various websites because you can't update it past iOS 5 and the technology is too old.

Last year we bought DS a 3 and then DD a 4th generation one. DH knows I love my iPad but it is coming to the end of its natural life. So today, after inspecting the Air online I text DH and said,if he was wondering what to get me for Xmas, Apple are bringing out this new iPad.

So tonight, after a beer or two, he tells me he has already bought me an iPad for Xmas, not only that, he has had it inscribed with my name love from....

So, I am very grateful that he has thought about it and ordered me something that he knows I would like for Xmas, but I am the tinsiest bit disappointed that it's not quite what I actually want, in fact the same as DDs gift last year. He actually has his head in his hands as he thought he'd done so well and now I've spoiled it ( only by suggesting something when he'd already bought something.)

So, is he BU for buying the Xmas gift so early or AIBU to be a bit gutted and should I say no more and just smile on Xmas day? Yes I know- smile- but.... Bugger!

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Batmam · 25/10/2013 00:24

FIRST world problem mateyWink

Boardingblues · 25/10/2013 00:27

Taking into consideration the irony of your mistake in the title (as pointed out by Batman), YABU! BIG TIME!

ICameOnTheJitney · 25/10/2013 00:27

What Batmam says.
And YABU

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 00:29

OMG. I am such an IDIOT!

IABU IABU IABU.

I have had wine, and I meant FIRST!

I so deserve to be flamed

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Bubbless · 25/10/2013 00:35

I think your do bought too early.. Who buys a gift already?!
;)

Bubbless · 25/10/2013 00:36

And by do I meant dp.. Stupid autocorrect!

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 00:37

Peaked too soon. Bless him.

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IneedAsockamnesty · 25/10/2013 00:38

Yabu.

Thank you is customary in these circumstances

BeeMom · 25/10/2013 00:39

U... and selfish! He was thoughtful and got your gift early, to be certain he had it, AND he took the time to have it personalised.

Even moreso, because you, by virtue of it being newer (and the fact that you have to one-up your DD) seem to have to have something better.

And holy hell - HOW MANY electronic devices do you have in your home?

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 00:45

No it is the same as DDs. I am not "upping" anyone.

I've never asked for anything, ever before. It does DH head in that I won't say whati want and now I've said what I want and spoiled it!

I now feel bad for asking because he already bought one and it is sitting on his desk, all inscribed, he can't even return it. I feel bad for him!

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BeeMom · 25/10/2013 00:50

I am the tinsiest bit disappointed that it's not quite what I actually want, in fact the same as DDs gift last year.

The one he bought, that you have said you DON'T want, is the same as DD's - you want the newest flashiest, best one - and that, my dear, is "one upping".

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 00:50

And my DS is grown up and does not live here. DD is away studying with her iPad.

I have an iPad and a pc at home.

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 00:55

I should have put lighthearted in the title.

I'm actually more upset that he is upset. Yes, I would have liked the newest one, because it's the same price as he paid- so why not? I had no idea he had bought it already.

I have not told him I am disappointed.

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thepig · 25/10/2013 01:09

Yanbu.

The tiniest bit of research would have told him the new ipad was out in november...just like every year.

Of course he couldn't have know that this update would be the biggest in years.

I feel your pain. The thought is lovely, but actually it's a silly thing to get engraved because it's worthless to anyone else.

Even if it was the new one you'd be unable to sell it and upgrade in a year or two to a newer version like lots of ppl do.

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 01:19

Thanks for understanding thepig.

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Sunnysummer · 25/10/2013 01:37

YABU. He may not have thought through the new release but the iPad air is not really a revolutionary new product - and he probably bought so early because he was excited by coming up with a good present.

It is sometimes annoying when people get you a present that is expensive and not 'right', but I'm pretty sure that this is why we teach our kids that it's the thought that counts. If you can afford for all your kids to have tablets, then presumably he can always add something small and fun like earrings or a couple of books?

Boardingblues · 25/10/2013 02:01

I almost feel sorry for Downton - almost but not quite! Don't try an back track that you feel sorry for your DH... Own it! You had a spoilt brat moment, now deal with it and move on. And no, you don't need earrings or anything else. You have been naughty and have until December 25th to redeem yourself!

loveblackcats · 25/10/2013 02:19

So,

YABU.

WaitMonkey · 25/10/2013 06:09

YABVU.

Roshbegosh · 25/10/2013 06:41

How much thought have you put in to his gift?
He tried and you whined and spoilt it. Next year he might not bother.

PumpkinsPieEyed · 25/10/2013 07:24

Do you think he could be winding you up?
If not he is still vey thoughtful and yes you should receive the gift and love it with Grin face.

WhoKnowsWhereTheSlimeGoes · 25/10/2013 07:46

It is frustrating when a present is not quite what you would like, especially an expensive one (the engraving would bother me more than the exact model TBH, I would feel really embarassed using it, although I suppose it can be hidden by a cover). DH gave me yellow gold earrings last year - it seems that in 16 years he hasn't noticed that I never wear yellow gold because it really doesn't suit me and I was a bit disappointed. Haven't said anything, but I was tempted, if only to stop him doing it again.

I think all you can do is accept gratefully, but maybe next year get in even earlier with a discussion about something you'd like to buy for him but that you want to consult him over getting exactly the right thing to avoid any expensive msitakes.

Trazzletoes · 25/10/2013 07:54

The engraving is pretty small and not something necessary to be embarrassed by as you only see it if you are purposefully looking for it. Or having it waved in your face.

I think its sweet that he had it engraved. But then I'm a bit soft.

YABU.

ssd · 25/10/2013 07:55

seriously are you my 12 year old? he whines about stuff like this too

BlackholesAndRevelations · 25/10/2013 07:56

Yabu