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First world problem- Christmas related [title edited by MNHQ]

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 00:19

So, today I saw a thread on here about the iPad air, released 1st nov. I have had the iPad 1 since the beginning, it is slow, clunky, and throws me out of various websites because you can't update it past iOS 5 and the technology is too old.

Last year we bought DS a 3 and then DD a 4th generation one. DH knows I love my iPad but it is coming to the end of its natural life. So today, after inspecting the Air online I text DH and said,if he was wondering what to get me for Xmas, Apple are bringing out this new iPad.

So tonight, after a beer or two, he tells me he has already bought me an iPad for Xmas, not only that, he has had it inscribed with my name love from....

So, I am very grateful that he has thought about it and ordered me something that he knows I would like for Xmas, but I am the tinsiest bit disappointed that it's not quite what I actually want, in fact the same as DDs gift last year. He actually has his head in his hands as he thought he'd done so well and now I've spoiled it ( only by suggesting something when he'd already bought something.)

So, is he BU for buying the Xmas gift so early or AIBU to be a bit gutted and should I say no more and just smile on Xmas day? Yes I know- smile- but.... Bugger!

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GillyBillyWilly · 25/10/2013 08:11

YABU and you have too many iPads in your house IMO.

One is enough. Share it between the family. For the kids and you to have one each is OTT and quite spoilt.

Each to their own.

Your husband sounds sweet and he did a nice thing and now he feels shit for it? Shame Sad

noddingoff · 25/10/2013 08:11

Bit harsh, Roshbegosh. OP didn't whine. She said, "Tell you what DH, if you want to know what I'd like for Christmas, I'd really like an ipad Air"and he said "Oh bollocks, I already bought you the other one" and she did not say "You heartless thoughtless bastard, I am leaving your sorry arse immediately", she plans to smile on Christmas day and like it.

TEErickOrTEEreat · 25/10/2013 08:14

You can send any unwanted iPads to me. PM me for my address.

I don't care whose name is inscribed on it.

GillyBillyWilly · 25/10/2013 08:16

It IS annoying that you're getting the older model when a new one is out for the same price though.

I'd also be a bit miffed its engraved because that reduces its value if you ever , in future, want to sell it.

Actually I guess if it wasn't engraved he could get a refund and buy the newer one or sneakily sell it on bday and get you the new one... But it's engraved so that's going to be tricky.

I understand it's annoying on a few levels but there's nothing you can do now!

And I still think you have too many iPads in your home!!

GillyBillyWilly · 25/10/2013 08:16

eBay not bday!

WhoKnowsWhereTheSlimeGoes · 25/10/2013 08:20

The OP has said that the other Ipads are with DCs living away from home, so this one is to replace the only Ipad in the house.

Trills · 25/10/2013 08:28

You know how on MN people say "I buy things throughout the year, aren't I clever?" and everyone says "oh yes" and then when one person says "why don't you just save up and buy stuff at the end of the year?" they are accused of not understanding?

Trills · 25/10/2013 08:28

Up to and including one ipad per person is a perfectly reasonable number of ipads.

ovenbun · 25/10/2013 08:38

Poor DH, you already admit that you never say what you would like, so its common sense that he didnt wait to ask you. Maybe he didn't realise the new ones were coming out...YABU because he has tried to do something thoughtful, and it is spoiled. If I were you when the air comes out I wold google peoples complaints and then say to him, I'm so glad you didnt get me that one, I've heard it's got this bug etc....to smooth over his dissapointment.

If your family has a car, and a roof over their head (even rented) you are in the richest 5% of the world, so perhaps try to enjoy the things you have a little bit more. Thats the third world problem.

shewhowines · 25/10/2013 08:45

I think there is a lot of jealousy in this thread. Of course it is annoying. YANBU. There's not much you can do. He tried his best bless him, but I would feel like you. That's not too hard to understand is it, jealous people?

TEErickOrTEEreat · 25/10/2013 08:46

Also, who decides how many iPads are too many?

jellyboatsandpirates · 25/10/2013 09:03

YABU and a tad ungrateful. I was always taught "it's the thought that counts." You've got a lovely expensive present with a thoughtful inscription.
It's still something to moan about though. Hmm
I'd be really pleased with ANY Ipad, not huff because it's not the 'right' one!
Same goes for any present bought for me. If I was him, I'd be thinking "she's getting a box of bath smellies next year and that's her lot. If she's lucky, that is." Smile

Batmam · 25/10/2013 09:03

There might be someone else called Downton who wants to buy a brand new (but not the newest model) engraved iPad?

Clutching at straws hereWink

I'd be annoyed too, despite that making me a spoiled brat. He's spent so much on a present but then not getting the right one in the end. Especially as you already have an older one so the whole point would be to get the newest model.

It's the engraving that's most annoying, I'd never do that for the reasons already said. But I 'spose it was you who started that trend by getting your daughter's done...

Trills · 25/10/2013 09:05

"Too many" iPads is when you don't have enough plug sockets to charge them...

Or when you are tripping over them because you don't have anywhere to put them.

Or when you can't afford the electricity bill.

:o

Other than that, people can spend all their disposable income on iPads, or golf clubs, or lattes, or Xbox games, or tennis rackets, or horses, or first edition books, or whatever they like.

TEErickOrTEEreat · 25/10/2013 09:14

Exactly Trills!

We had too many gadgets when we were in the States this past summer because we forgot to bring plug converters for all of them!*

*Definition of first world problem, really.

MsVestibule · 25/10/2013 09:41

I wouldn't care because I'm not particularly bothered about having the newest technology but DH is bothered about that sort of thing, so if I was buying something expensive like that for him, I would always make sure it was the latest/best model.

I think I would feel exactly the same way you do - a bit disappointed that I hadn't got exactly what I wanted but then guilty because I knew I'd spoiled the surprise that DH was probably quite excited about.

gobbynorthernbird · 25/10/2013 09:55

YANBU

A couple of years ago I asked everyone for money or John Lewis vouchers, for Xmas and birthday, in order to buy a really good food processor. Yes, I know it's boring, but I cook a lot and it'd be really useful. OH decided he'd just buy me one. More expensive, with fewer features, but it looked snazzier. And it just wasn't what I wanted. £300-odd quid was too much money for something that was not right.
Luckily, I could swap it, but it was bloody awkward over Xmas when I was avoiding using it, and also trying to not hurt his feelings.

GillyBillyWilly · 25/10/2013 09:56

I only said it's too many iPads ....IN MY OPINION! Grin

My household is full of all sorts of crap so, as I also said in my post, EACH TO THEIR OWN Wink

Personally I just don't think its necessary to have multiple iPads in one household!

I'd rather have one iPad and spend the money that would pay for the other iPads on something else that's cool and fun for the family like a new computer or a holiday!

Anyway people spend their month differently and that's fine. Just my opinion!

As I also said, I do understand why you're annoyed OP but not sure what you can do now that it's engraved as well. Tricky.

Onebuddhaisnotenough · 25/10/2013 10:04

Yabu.

'Wanders away wondering if 2 x6 socket extension leads at our gadget charging place means we have too many gadgets.....'

TantrumsAndBalloons · 25/10/2013 10:08

I didn't know you were only allowed 1 iPad per house.
We have 3. Shit, I better call the electronic device police.

GillyBillyWilly · 25/10/2013 10:21

Yes call them immediately.

livinginwonderland · 25/10/2013 10:24

Really!? YABU!

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 10:27

Oh dear.

I posted this last night after we'd been out and I had had wine. Blush

I am not annoyed with him. In fact we were laughing about it and he was saying "I dont bloody believe it!" because we could both see the funny side. He will be more upset than me because he is a bit of a perfectionist and the surprise is spoiled now- which is what matters more to him. He is also clueless about technology and I know he will have researched which iPad is best and will have bought the biggest memory etc. he did this a few weeks ago and there was no mention of the iPad air coming out on the Apple site. I don't think they had announced it then.

Of course I'm really pleased to be getting a new iPad anyway. That's great. But as others have said its a shame when you're spending that much money that it's not quite right. Obviously not a third world problem, putting that in the title is really embarrassing. Blush

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GillyBillyWilly · 25/10/2013 10:30

Lol the thread title made me laugh... Grin It's quite obviously a mistake!

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DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 10:36

I did report it to MNHQ and ask them to change the title because it obviously gives a completely different impression to what this thread is about.

They obviously don't see fit to change it though. Probably they think it serves me right for B so U Grin

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