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To be FUMING at this text...

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GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 02:45

My neighbour, who stays in the same block as me text the following message to me, I am friendly with her and often chat, but I am not best friends with her, I am 38+3 weeks pregnant. I havnt spoken to her since last Thursday and tonight/last night she sent the.following random text

"Omg while a remember a had a really bad dream last night that your lost your baby!!! It was horrible"

WHY THE HELL WOULD SHE SEND THIS??????!! I'm feeling very anxious now and cannot sleep, I'm so near the end of my pregnancy, why, why would anyone send that? I'm not close to her, and even if she did dream this, why tell me?!?

AIBU to be so wound up? And what do I reply? BlushAngry

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Greendove · 22/10/2013 02:50

Some people have no filter for what they should keep to themselves. You must not dwell on her silly dream. You must forget it - if it comes into your head remind yourself she does not have special dreams that come true.

Greendove · 22/10/2013 02:52

And try to relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy Flowers Brew

AdoraBell · 22/10/2013 02:59

She doesn't know what the word 'boundery' means, which makes her react like an idiot instead of thinking. Ignore the text. We all have Dreams about all sorts of things and I've never heard of one actually coming true.

Try to relax and rest. Do you have some kind of routine, soothing música, warm bath etc that you could do?

Original poster
GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 03:00

Thanks green, I just cannot comprehend why anyone would text that out of the blue.. Why anyone would even tell someone that, what is she gaining from saying that... Honestly some people HmmShock

I will reply in the morning, need to calm down first.. Not impressed

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Original poster
GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 03:02

I know this won't come true.

I'm just disgusted at her telling me this information that is horrible and irrelevant. Half wit of a woman

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SourSweets · 22/10/2013 03:13

How awful! She's an idiot, ignore it.

ellietheelephant1 · 22/10/2013 03:16

Could you reply that you dreamt that she turned into a giant spider and was eaten by a fly? People have weird dreams all the time; I remember dreaming vividly that my grandmother died... she was very much OK and lived on for another 4 years after my dream!

ellietheelephant1 · 22/10/2013 03:19

I do, however, think that she is a bit weird to have told you about it! Please try to look after yourself and think of this as something to remind her of on your baby's 18th or 21st birthday. :)

AveryJessup · 22/10/2013 03:24

Reminds me of a toxic 'friend' I had in college who rang me up one morning and said. 'Oh my god, Avery, are you OK?' I said yes and she started telling me how she'd had a bad dream where I was walking near our college after studying at the library and a car full of guys pulled up and abducted me. I mean WTF???? Thanks for scaring the crap out if me for the rest of my two years in college!

Needless to say her mental dream didn't come and your nutty neighbor's won't either, OP. Some people just love to create a bit of drama for themselves...

MidniteScribbler · 22/10/2013 03:24

Text back:

"OMG I had a dream that you sent a really inappropriate text to me. It had to have been a dream because I can't believe anyone could be that thick, could they?"

Driz · 22/10/2013 03:25

Your neighbour is an idiot. Tell her that it is 'completely inappropriate to send such a stupid text and you are not interested in her ridiculous inane comments. And one last thing fuck off'

RedorBlack · 22/10/2013 05:11

What a stupid inconsiderate thing to say. I had something similar said to me, just ignore ignore ignore - permanently!

MokuMoku · 22/10/2013 05:25

Text back "OMG, that's so funny. I had a dream that you were fucking a horse and couldn't get enough of it."

Chottie · 22/10/2013 05:36

You will be fine, ignore her text, she is obviously one of those people who texts before she thinks. I love Moku's rely, but not sure i would be brave enough to send it, but it would make your neighbour think twice!!!

CoffeeTea103 · 22/10/2013 07:07

She's just beyond stupidity. Pls don't let this affect you. I think keep your distance from her. If she doesn't think this was out of order who knows what types of things she might say.

beatofthedrum · 22/10/2013 07:11

That is beyond stupidity I think, totally unacceptable and you are well within your rights to be rude. I would answer 'I did not appreciate that text and don't understand why you would send it to me'. She must be an absolute idiot. I remember the stress of those last few weeks and that is really an unbelievable text to receive. I would be livid too. Put her out of your mind after sending a cutting reply, don't waste your energy or peace of mind on her.

Fakebook · 22/10/2013 07:17

What a cow. Stupid stupid woman. You need to tell her what an inappropriate thing that is to say to a full term pregnant woman.

I have an aunt like this who likes to tell everyone about her bad dreams like she's a clairvoyant or something. My dad hates it and I remember him telling her to shut up

Fakebook · 22/10/2013 07:19

Sorry pressed too soon....he told her to shut up, and she's never done it again (infront of him anyway)...

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 22/10/2013 07:19

midnite's reply is spot on.

Notafoodbabyanymore · 22/10/2013 07:27

Moku, I bloody love that reply. I'd be tempted to just write back something like "So what?"

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 22/10/2013 07:34

Reply 'oh I had a dream you were stupid! Oh, no...wait...'.

She clearly has no boundary setting.

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GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 07:57

Thanks for everyone's replies, she is not a friend, clearly, you just don't say these things, she has basic social skills, I need to think more about a reply, but I will definitely be sending something, loving everyone's replies Grin might take a price of each one Wink She deserves no less HmmConfused what a daft woman Sad

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29chapel · 22/10/2013 08:04

I agree with midnite too!

Justforlaughs · 22/10/2013 08:16

I'm sorry that you were upset by this woman, but I would probably just reply with something honest, like "I was really upset by your text and don't understand why you thought to appropriate to send it, please keep your dreams to yourself in the future"
I dream about winning the lottery on a regular basis and frankly that has never happened and I don't expect it to either (I'd have to buy a ticket first!). Seriously, don't worry about this silly woman and her dream, she just obviously send you the text before engaging her brain. We all have dreams about random things and events.

DoYourKegels · 22/10/2013 09:21

midnite you are a genius.

What an AWFUL woman. She is a twat.

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