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To be FUMING at this text...

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GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 02:45

My neighbour, who stays in the same block as me text the following message to me, I am friendly with her and often chat, but I am not best friends with her, I am 38+3 weeks pregnant. I havnt spoken to her since last Thursday and tonight/last night she sent the.following random text

"Omg while a remember a had a really bad dream last night that your lost your baby!!! It was horrible"

WHY THE HELL WOULD SHE SEND THIS??????!! I'm feeling very anxious now and cannot sleep, I'm so near the end of my pregnancy, why, why would anyone send that? I'm not close to her, and even if she did dream this, why tell me?!?

AIBU to be so wound up? And what do I reply? BlushAngry

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Tuppenceinred · 22/10/2013 09:23

Why not go with your first reaction? "Why the fuck would you send me this?"

mummymeister · 22/10/2013 09:29

whatever you reply end it with " and I am blocking you from my phone as I do not ever want to receive such a horrible inappropriate text from you again..." she clearly thinks this is acceptable behaviour and will do it again. don't let her. block her number.

oldgrandmama · 22/10/2013 09:30

Stupid woman - please don't let her get you down. Dreams are weird ... in my time, I've had them involving awful things happening to all my loved ones (apparently sign that I am an anxious person). But I would NEVER pass on to anyone details of a horrid dream about them. By the way, none of the ghastly things I've dreamed have ever come true!

expatinscotland · 22/10/2013 09:32

Text back, So sorry to hear you have verbal diarrhea. Did you mean to be so insensitive?xx

SugarHut · 22/10/2013 09:35

1 - it's an unbelievably stupid thing for her to send

2 - you posted at 2.45am and say you received this last night/this morning? So did she send this at, say, 2am? Because if she did, whilst it's still wrong, we do daft things when we're half asleep.

Maybe she woke up with a start from her horrible dream, thought in her half conscious state, ooh I'll text Green and tell her.

I apparently woke up with a start the other night and starting patting the bed down like a thing possessed. DP "Babe???!" "Shhhhh!" "What are you doing?" "Looking." "For what?" "Fruit." "Fruit??" "SHHH. You'll wake the baby."

I remember none of this. And we have no baby :)

DoYourKegels · 22/10/2013 09:42

I would block her, tbh, because if she does this sort of thing art to a pregnancy just imagine how awful she'll be when the baby comes. All kinds of horror stories about things that happened to her friend's friend's nephew's cousin, etc. none of which will be helpful.

plentyofsoap · 22/10/2013 09:45

Thats awful. I have a relative that goes on about dead babies and brings it up immediately after I have given birth, both times. Strange behaviour and shows they obviously have issues. Ignore ignore ignore.

PatoBanton · 22/10/2013 09:45

I'm stuck on th use of 'a' for 'I'.

who even texts like that? Surely I is quite easy to spell?

Branleuse · 22/10/2013 09:46

just text her and say "what a fucking awful thing to say, I cant believe you actually said that.

PatoBanton · 22/10/2013 09:47

as is 'the' HmmGrin

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GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 10:00

I am still feeling pretty annoyed I have replied;

"Why would you text me that? It is completely inappropriate and it is not something I appreciate you sending me. In future keep your 'dreams' to yourself, I am somewhat baffled as to why you would even send it, it's not something I even want to think about!"

What a bloody bitch Angry I know this 'dream' won't come true, it's just shocking.

Completely cutting her off, I don't want to even be polite to someone who has the audacity to send something so lowConfused

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DoYourKegels · 22/10/2013 10:05

Well done, OP. She will no doubt manage to be offended by your rudeness! She was only showing she cared after all! Hmm.

Original poster
GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 10:16

Yes I'm sure I will either get no reply or an offended one, we will see... Hmm

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GreenGiant3 · 22/10/2013 12:38

She read my text at 10.30 and has not replied, guess I won't receive an apology for her stupidity, Hmm oh well washed my hands, will not dwell on it any longer.

Thanks for opinions Smile

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DizzyBlonde80 · 22/10/2013 13:02

I showed a 'friend' my 12 weeks scan and the first thing that came out of her mouth was 'oh, that reminds me, X lost her baby'
She isn't my friend anymore!

tiggerpigger · 22/10/2013 13:08

Good reply. What a nasty bitch. I was going to suggest putting a petrol bomb through her letterbox but not the best idea if she's a neighbour...

Ifcatshadthumbs · 22/10/2013 13:11

Silly cow, hopefully she is sat at home feeling like a total twat.

Mim78 · 22/10/2013 13:15

She was really insensitive to send you this, but it means nothing. You must just forget it and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, or if not possible at least relax. You are not going to lose the baby.

Purple2012 · 22/10/2013 13:25

People just don't think sometimes. Try to not dwell on it. You are doing the right thing by cutting contact.

Buglugs · 22/10/2013 13:31

The mind boggles how anyone could be so thoughtless! Glad you replied and hope you can now relax.

tumbletumble · 22/10/2013 13:34

Any chance ahead meant lost as in couldn't find, rather than lost as in miscarried? Still a bit weird but slightly less insensitive??

Madeyemoodysmum · 22/10/2013 16:38

I dreamt once that my friends daughter drowned, it was horrible, I have never told her. What a horrible women.

Topseyt · 22/10/2013 16:46

Your neighbour sounds spectacularly thick to me. Those are not the words or actions of an intelligent person.

Even if I did ever dream anything like that, I would never dream of telling the person involved.

AgentZigzag · 22/10/2013 16:56

Some people think the dreams they have make them psychic and they want to prove it to other people, that they're somehow more special than anyone else for having such an insight.

It's the only reason I can think of that she didn't think of all the worries you have normally when pregnant, especially at the end of it, wondering how the fuck are you going to get the baby out (well, I did anyway).

Everything will be absolutely fine, you'll soon have your little baby snuggled up - and be able to leave them with someone else while you go for a bath Shock woohoo Grin

BlingBang · 22/10/2013 17:13

Probably best without her tbh. Had a good friend who was on the phone telling another friend how she had just miscarried. Other friend , "oh that's sad, blah, blah, blah - oh did I tell you you was pregnant!."

Same girl commented to me how she was so surprised that I was dating my now husband as he was quite a catch (meaning how did an ugly boot like you do it. Some folk are just cows.