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Original poster

To think the school have got a cheek

75 replies

PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:33

In the schools last newsletter it listed today as a non-uniform day and as per usual they requested an item in 'payment'. On this occasion it was a bottle of wine for the bottle stall at the Christmas fayre.

Last night we got a text saying, school uniforms must be worn today and dont forget to bring your bottle of wine Shock .

AIBU to think that its a little mean of the school to cancel non-uniform day but still expect the bottle of wine ? I have a good mind to drink it and send the empty round Wink

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HSMMaCM · 21/10/2013 09:35

Pretend you didn't get the text

CackleCackle · 21/10/2013 09:36

Shocked that they expect 'payment' for this. Surely things for the christmas fayre are willingly donated.

What happens if you don't send wine FFS?

NipNaps · 21/10/2013 09:36

If they have definitely cancelled it and it wasn't just a typo then YANBU!

If it was a typo then they've caused massive confusion and missed out on the wine! Grin

Lj8893 · 21/10/2013 09:39

Yanbu!

When I was at school, all they asked for on non-uniform day was £1 which all went to charity. Some people paid more, and I'm sure there were some kids who didn't pay due to parents having no money or saying no etc.

A bottle of wine for a non-uniform day is fair enough I guess but why should you give a bottle of wine for no reason now!!!

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:39

CackleCackle I havent sent the wine yet, its sat here on the side. No-one was in unifrom but there were the odd parent carrying a bottle at school this morning.

I may just forget I hadnt sent it in. Ive donated tonnes of stuff for their other stalls anyway so im a bit cross thatt a bottle of wine was requested, theyre not cheap Hmm

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SpringFlowers · 21/10/2013 09:39

I don't know if it's that great that the school want children to take alcohol in...

BrokenSunglasses · 21/10/2013 09:39

That sounds really bizzare! Why would they cancel a non uniform day? I think I'd want to understand what was going on before making a judgement, but either way, they are being VU to expect payment for something they aren't allowing.

If they were postponing the non uniform day but still needed the donations sooner rather than later it might be understandable, but then they'd make that clear to you surely?

NoComet · 21/10/2013 09:40

Our PTA have a non uniform day and ask for a donation to the bottle stall, but we certainly don't specify a bottle if wine. A 35p can of pop for the kids one will do just fine (and no one checks if you have sent anything at all)

holidaysarenice · 21/10/2013 09:40

Wine? For non-uniform day!!! Unreasonable.

Its a donation to charity - usually 50p or a pound in my day!

By any chance is it a private school raising funds?

I think alcohol into a primary is completely inappropraite.

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:41

Sorry meant to say everyone was in uniform, and no-one was in normal clothing. Its the wine going to my head Grin

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Retroformica · 21/10/2013 09:41

That's a bit mad asking for wine. I hope you buzz Buck's Fizz or blue nun

GhostsInSnow · 21/10/2013 09:42

Wonder if someone messed up on the text and it should have said 'must not' be worn?

MrsCakesPremonition · 21/10/2013 09:43

Non-uniform day should cost a maximum of £1 donation to a charity. If someone wants to give more - lovely - if they can't afford £1 - fine.
Demanding a £5 bottle of wine (minimum) is cheeky.
Continuing to demand the wine, even when the fund-raising event (non-uniform day) has been cancelled, is beyond cheeky.

LineRunner · 21/10/2013 09:43

It all sounds quite barmy.

CherryLips1980 · 21/10/2013 09:44

Say, whaaaaaat?!!

  1. I wouldn't be happy with my child taking in a bottle of wine/alcohol
  1. I wouldn't be happy at being told what to give
  1. Back in my day non uniform day was A Big Thing, discussed for weeks beforehand so to have it cancelled it the day before would annoy me

YANBU!

I hope you send in the empty bottle ;)

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:44

No holidaysarenice its not a private school, just a standard primary school.

They usually ask for a dontation to a specific stall for one of the school fayres, whichever stall has the least donations. Last year they wanted handbags. I managed to dig out an old one I had never used but to purchase a handbag specifically was really a bit OTT given the price of them.

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BrokenSunglasses · 21/10/2013 09:45

My curiosity is going slightly crazy here OP, I think you should call the school and ask why they cancelled non uniform day.

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:48

BrokenSunglasses I couldnt even get into the office this morning with all the parents in there complaining about it. Im hoping they will pick another date for non-uniform as loads of parents seem a little miffed as I am.
Wine anyone Wink

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exexpat · 21/10/2013 09:50

Specifying wine only is a bit odd. DD's school does the 'bottle for the tombola as payment for non-uniform day' thing, but does not say it has to be wine:the tombola has lots of non-alcoholic drinks, olive oil, bubble bath etc. Part of the excitement is seeing whether you'll get a really rather decent bottle of red (one year the bottle I won had some hand-written tasting notes sellotaped to it...) or a bottle of Tesco value shampoo.

And cancelling non-uniform day but still expecting donations is even odder. Any rumours going round about why?

BrokenSunglasses · 21/10/2013 09:51

I'm not surprised parents were complaining, there will have been a lot of confused and disappointed children this morning, they least they deserve is a decent explanation.

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:55

exexpat I havent heard anything yet as to why its been cancelled, not even on facebook which is odd to say the least Shock

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Poledra · 21/10/2013 09:57

How odd! Our school specifies that bottles for the bottle stall should not be alcoholic - it's not considered appropriate for primary children to take in booze (though possibly safer than giving your 15-yo a bottle to take to school...). I usually give naice cordial and have won bubble bath, olive oil etc from it.

MissStrawberry · 21/10/2013 09:57

Non-uniform day is a great idea for the kids and a really easy way of getting something for the school.

My secondary school child was the only one in his class in uniform on his as he hadn't told me and he forgot Sad. He didn't have to take anything in though and neither did the ones who did wear their own clothes.

My younger children do non-uniform day and it is a £1 each.

kinkyfuckery · 21/10/2013 09:59

How many kids are at your school? That's a lot of bottles of wine!!

We had a non-uniform day at the DCs new school a few weeks back. They asked for a donation of non-perishable food for the harvest collection that the older kids deliver to the local elderly. I thought it was a fantastic idea!

ShadeofViolet · 21/10/2013 10:04

Ours always ask for wine/toiletries/chocolates.

Unless its the ones for CIN/RND and then its £1.