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AIBU?

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To think the school have got a cheek

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:33

In the schools last newsletter it listed today as a non-uniform day and as per usual they requested an item in 'payment'. On this occasion it was a bottle of wine for the bottle stall at the Christmas fayre.

Last night we got a text saying, school uniforms must be worn today and dont forget to bring your bottle of wine .

AIBU to think that its a little mean of the school to cancel non-uniform day but still expect the bottle of wine ? I have a good mind to drink it and send the empty round

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BlackbeltinBS · 21/10/2013 11:18

Also, I don't know why a non-uniform day would bother Ofsted. Some schools don't have uniforms at all, and even if they do I'm sure Ofsted are familiar with the concept of a non-uniform day.

That's cheeky a) to expect wine and b) even when you're not doing the non-uniform day anymore. I have no problem with the concept of giving wine for the bottle stall though - I worked on our infant school bottle stall at the summer fayre and we made a fortune with people who were determined not to stop buying tickets until they'd won a bottle of alcohol (we had all kinds of bottles).

FalseWidow · 21/10/2013 11:18

I am also [shocked] at the handbags!!

Is the PTA run by some loaded mums by any chance??

Nanny0gg · 21/10/2013 11:35

It's a daft system anyway.

Our school asked for cake. Unfortunately, few had the time to make cakes, which is what sells, so everyone went to the local supermarket and cleared out the shelves and the school was so overwhelmed, they had to sell the surplus after school in the playground for a week!

redskyatnight · 21/10/2013 11:43

Must be an affluent area? Can't imagine DC's school asking for wine, too many families just can't afford it.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 21/10/2013 12:31

Our school asked for gold/silver jewellery a few years back. They even sent padded envelopes home with the kids. Now that was cheeky. They haven't asked since.

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 12:46

redskyatnight this area is considered one of the more deprived areas in the country. We have very high unemployment rates and a significant number of the children have free school meals.

At least I can say we have never been asked for gold/silver jewellery although they have requested old mobile phones in the past but not for the school fayres.

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ChessieFL · 21/10/2013 12:49

Never mind the wine - what does the school do with 100 handbags?!

bigbrick · 21/10/2013 12:51

I wouldn't have my kids take wine into school or anything like this.

MrsDeVere · 21/10/2013 12:53

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CharlotteBronteSaurus · 21/10/2013 12:54

we have Bring a Bottle for the tombola on non-uniform day
can be any bottle though - 20p value cola if you like.

samithesausage · 21/10/2013 12:56

My school asks for bottles for the tombola. They have an adult one and a children one. With 3 kids at the same primary I tend to send in 1 lidl bottle of perry (1.50 but posh looking), a bottle of coke (on offer) and cheap lemonade. Totalling 3 pounds :). I couldn't afford. to give away3 bottles of wine.. Even on a 3 for a tenner deal!

teenagetantrums · 21/10/2013 12:58

No way would i giving my wine to the school, can only afford the odd bottle for myself at the moment and i love a glass of wine at the weekend.

I always gave the money when i had it, but a bottle of wine is at least £5 now.

butterfliesinmytummy · 21/10/2013 13:03

Apart from the attitude of the school, why does your school allow alcohol on the premises? It's illegal here - can't imagine why children should be encouraged to bring in alcohol

HorryIsUpduffed · 21/10/2013 13:04

Ours is chocolate tombola for infants and bottle tombola for juniors. Part of the fun is that you don't know if you're going to get nasty value ketchup or nice gin.

Cancelling own clothes day with no notice is shitty. I don't wash/iron every day so I could quite possibly have been doing an emergency load with lots of swearing. And that's with a child who can cope with last minute changes of plans - plenty of SN and NT children aren't that flexible.

AndHarry · 21/10/2013 13:05

Yes I think it was cheeky to cancel the event but still request payment in kind.

Our family's religious practices include being teetotal so they would only have got a bottle of Schloer or some such from us anyway :o

teenagetantrums · 21/10/2013 13:05

butterflies my kids secondary school used to sell glasses of wine when we had to sit through the many concerts and plays was very much appreciated by us adults, .

butterfliesinmytummy · 21/10/2013 13:23

OK, fair enough, wine in concerts I can understand (and slightly envious having sat through Fiddler on the Roof last term). But asking kids to carry alcohol.... hmmm... didn't they just seize a load of alcohol from school kids in the UK? Would it be OK to ask kids to bring in cigarettes? Don't get it, sorry...

Catnap26 · 21/10/2013 14:11

YANBU what a cheek.

Katnisscupcake · 21/10/2013 14:28

Maybe the text was completely wrong and should have read 'Don't forget it's non-school uniform today and do NOT bring wine!'. It does seem very odd...

But if you have to take some, Home Bargains have some of those little bottles of wine for £1... I'm assuming they didn't specife the size of the bottle...

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/10/2013 15:13

CaptainTripp - I wouldn't have a problem with the dses taking in wine (though I was a bit po-faced when ds3's Year 3 teacher told them all to bring him cans of Fosters for christmas - we gave him a joke book instead). What would rankle is the school cancelling the non-uniform day, ^but still insisting the children bring in the wine (or whatever item had been requested as 'payment' for the non-uniform day).

I also think a bottle of wine is a pretty pricey item to ask for - at the point when my three dses were all at primary school, this policy would have cost me at least a tenner! Donations for the bottle stall would have been a better thing to ask for - some parents would, I am sure, still send in wine or spirits, and those for whom money is a bit too tight for buying wine, could send in a bottle of something else instead.

Helspopje · 21/10/2013 15:17

random question, but has anyone every heard of this being called a 'mufti day' as that's what they call it at my daughter's new school and I've never heard of such a name before?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/10/2013 15:23

Mufti is a word that used to mean the off-duty clothing worn by people in uniform, principally military uniform, and comes, apparently, from an arabic word - because the dressing gowns and tasselled caps that officers wore off duty had a vaguely middle eastern style.

It has been expanded to mean any non-uniform attire, I believe.

exexpat · 21/10/2013 16:11

Mufti is the traditional name for non-uniform clothing at private schools, but it is not used so much in state schools, I think.

BurberryQ · 21/10/2013 16:39

used to be called mufti day at my state school but that was yonks ago

elliejjtiny · 21/10/2013 17:38

My DC's do something similar but you can either bring 50p or chocolate for the chocolate tombola at the school fete. DS1 was convinced the chocolate was for the staff Christmas party

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