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To think the school have got a cheek

75 replies

PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 09:33

In the schools last newsletter it listed today as a non-uniform day and as per usual they requested an item in 'payment'. On this occasion it was a bottle of wine for the bottle stall at the Christmas fayre.

Last night we got a text saying, school uniforms must be worn today and dont forget to bring your bottle of wine Shock .

AIBU to think that its a little mean of the school to cancel non-uniform day but still expect the bottle of wine ? I have a good mind to drink it and send the empty round Wink

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Gileswithachainsaw · 21/10/2013 10:04

What the hell will they do with 300+ bottles of wine?

What about mums who have three kids at the school that's £15 at least Angry

Grabby bastards

Fakebook · 21/10/2013 10:05

What are they going to do with 200-300 odd bottles of wine? Confused. Our school asked for any kind of small gift for a children's or wine and chocolates for an adult's lucky dip in exchange for non uniform day. Why would your school specifically ask for wine? So strange.

LineRunner · 21/10/2013 10:05

It the great St Trinian's wine lake.

NipNaps · 21/10/2013 10:06

We do non-uniform days and the children bring in an item of food for our local food bank.

SoulTrain · 21/10/2013 10:07

How very odd.

What about the children who's parents don't drink for whatever reason?

ShadeofViolet · 21/10/2013 10:07

Our PTA have a bottle/smellies/chocolate tombola at the summer fayre, and again at the Christmas one.

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 10:12

Its only a small school with just over 100 pupils but you are right what on earth do they do with all those bottles of wine.

I have looked on facebook and lots of the parents just didnt bother with anything. I thnk theyve upset a few too many parents this time.

Thats what happens when youre greedy I suppose. A valuable lesson that perhaps they would like to share with the children. Hmm

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HappyMummyOfOne · 21/10/2013 10:14

Our school does this, non uniform in exchange for a bottle, chocolate etc. Its a win win, children love to dress in their own clothes and the PTA get stock for the fair. We dont specify wine just bottle but get a good mix, not 300 though as thats two thirds more than the number of children we have!

Cheeky to cancel day but no donations, moving day would have been sensible option.

CaptainTripps · 21/10/2013 10:16

Why on why oh why do you lot consider it inappropriate for pupils to take in (shock) wine? This is the bread and butter of all school fayres.

FGS - they aren't asking pupils to glug it on the way into class.

Precious is being taken too far here. Presumably the little darlings have seen wine at home.

We have a fucked up attitude to alcohol in this country!

RatherBeOnThePiste · 21/10/2013 10:20

Ours always do this - non uniform bring something for the Fair. Wine tombolas raise loads, especially if someone can get match funding through work.

Tis odd to cancel the own clothes bit.

Maybe they're expecting OFSTED or some such bolleaux.

BrokenSunglasses · 21/10/2013 10:21

Personally I don't think it's necessary to ask children to take in wine for a bottle tombola, but all the schools I'm involved in just ask for a bottle, which can be full of anything.

I don't really like the idea of them taking wine because I see things like Christmas fayres as being a children's event, so there's just no need for alcohol. Added to that is the fact that when I drink wine, I'd rather choose it myself rather than being expected to be grateful for winning a glorified bottle of vinegar that someone else has probably had in their house for six months because they don't want to drink it either.

catpark · 21/10/2013 10:27

I'd be making a wee call to the education department. I'm pretty sure that schools are not allowed to ask specifically for wine or any other alcohol.

As someone else said what are they going to do with all those bottles ?

BurberryQ · 21/10/2013 10:29

cheeky fuckers - just don't bring anything - sorted.

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Stravy · 21/10/2013 10:39

A handbag!!!!!

Shock
stripes1 · 21/10/2013 10:40

Maybe they had a last minute ofsted announced so they wanted the kids in uniform?
Normal in loads of schools to have bring a bottle for the tombola in my experience.

Fleta · 21/10/2013 10:41

When DD has a non-uniform day it is always for a donation of an "item" rather than a nominal amount of money.

E.g. They did one non-uniform day where they were asked to bring in a packet of seeds for the communal garden. As classes they chose what flowers they would like and then planted all the seeds together. I thought that was a lovely idea.

We've also done a non-uniform day in exchange for "a bottle" but it can be a bottle of absolutely anything. Things like shampoo, bubble bath etc were collected and distributed to the local woman's aid charity. Wine was used at the school fair on the tombola.

Great ideas I think.

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PottyLotty · 21/10/2013 10:43

Stravy has your school never requested a handbag ? Its become a bit of a joke now as they asked for them for the last few years, even my husband looks out for cheap handbags when he's out and about.

The bottle of wine isnt unusual either. Its more the fact that they still want the bottle but cancelled non-uniform day.

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NachoAddict · 21/10/2013 10:57

How rude to cancel but still expect donations. They must be having a visit from Ofsted or something.

WilsonFrickett · 21/10/2013 11:02

I think that is both grabby and cheeky as fuck tbh.

It also would have caused a riot at DS old primary where something like 30% of the families were Muslim.

'Please bring a donation for the tombola' eg bottle of bubble bath, sherry that's been stuck in the back of the cupboard since Aunt Jemima came round last year OR a bottle of wine if you want to/can afford it is fine, but to request a bottle of wine is really cheeky imo.

Captain I have no problems with the DCs toting the wine in though. Still have very fond memories of the litre of whiskey I won when DS was in primary one Shock

Bosgrove · 21/10/2013 11:03

We do bring a bottle for the school fete, but the bottle can be anything in date, water, wine, ketchup, bubble bath anything, so people bring what they can afford. it just makes the Bottle Tombola more fun.

MinesAPintOfTea · 21/10/2013 11:08

Captain ds isn't school age yet, but seeing how much stuff gets damaged by infants-aged children I'd be loath to send him anywhere with a glass bottle containing £5 of liquid which stains easily. That's without considering that Ira alcohol.

MrsCakesPremonition · 21/10/2013 11:10

If Ofsted were visiting, the school would have had to tell the parents. Ofsted supply a letter which the school distribute to all families ahead of the visit, explaining what the inspection is about and how parents can get in touch with the inspectors.

I think the OP would know about an Ofsted inspection.

soontobemumofthree · 21/10/2013 11:13

YANBU

Think not really appropriate to make buying wine compulsory for all parents. Ours have all been £1 and it was clear that it was a donation - (although it felt compulsory) but I was happy with that.

Strange to cancel last minute

insanityscratching · 21/10/2013 11:14

Dd's school asks for 50p per family so that those with a few children don't find it expensive when it's no uniform for charity fundraising. Today's no uniform is to raise funds for the school pantomime visit and so we have been asked to send in a bag of old clothes for bag2school. There is no way would I be buying wine to send in in exchange for no uniform.