To get fed up of people judging women for going out with men who are worth millions?

[Lighthousekeeping]

That it can only be for the money? All the time I see/hear it. No-one ever says Kate Moss's husband must be with her for the money. Or any other female a list celeb with a bloke in a band or a bloke that has an ordinary job. Just seems to me that women are easily seen as gold diggers. Why would that be?

Agree Lighthouse I was just reading the Trinny thread too.. when ppl use the term gold digger they are usually referring to a woman.
Two years ago i thought there was no wording for the male equivalent and then i joined MN and discovered the word cocklodger I use the word in RL whenever someone uses the "gold digger" terminology.
They soon change tack

Disagree actually, think Kerry Katona and what's his name taxi driver bloke.

Well I dont disagree with you, but on the Trinny/saatchi thread people are trying to work out what her motivation is for starting a relationship with an alleged wifebeater. That's hard to understand, so people search for other reasons - money, power, social cachet etc.

So while I would agree that society does judge women for going out with rich men, I'm not really agreeing that is what's happening on that other thread if this is a thread about a thread

Kerry is bankrupt

Peaches Gelolf is another one. Judging by her new house in the country daddy must've spent millions. Her bloke is in a band that's had no success I don't see anyone calling him a god digger though.

Gold even

Yes think it was taxi driver bloke what's his name that made her bankrupt.

What about Britney Spears and her ex...what's his face?

Kevin? What I mean is that it's not as often that you hear people saying that a bloke is a gold digger compared to women. It's just actually been said on Chelsea Lately my guilty pleasure

Didn't people call Amy Winehouse's guy a gold digger?

My DH's Ex wife called him a gold digger when he met me. Apparently there wasn't anything about me that he could possibly like apart from my money.

I earned £8000 more than him PA.

Fed up with.

And no, you aren't.

Gold digger works either way... For either sex.
I bet it's no fun to be on the receiving end of the accusation whoever you are. And that means famous (splashed all over the papers for a few days) or just normal folk (reputation and chat around the playground which lasts for years and years)...

Let's paint a picture: you meet someone you like, they like you, they are richer then you - ipso facto - you are a gold digger !
Doesn't really add up does it?

But try this difficult challenge:
Twin one is great looking, caring, witty, charming bright and funny - works now and then as a night porter in a prison.
Twin two is great looking, caring, witty, charming, bright and funny - runs a multinational and has limitless personal wealth.

They both like you.
Choose...
Are you a gold digger?

And what if you are on the other end of this ?
What if you're a fabulously rich bloke - should you only be "allowed" to date women as rich as you for fear of any female you get involved with being labelled a "gold digger"?

Difficult to scream around about women being in the boardroom, in government and in positions of power if those same women can't accept "gold digger" men who will be attracted to the money and lifestyle.

Gold Digger works both ways and I LIKE IT because I see nothing wrong with anyone looking to hook up with someone who has deep pockets.

My sister is a gold digger, & proudly refers to herself as one

(ok, she's a senior exploration geologist in Oz gold mining industry )

I don't think the Trinny thread is a great example tbh.
I think the thread was 'wtf would a seemingly mature intelligent woman play gooey eyes with a man who grabs his partner by the throat or places his hand across her mouth to silence her.

What would the attraction be? The lols?

Tbh I get irritated that women on here almost to a man (hahaha) see me as living off my dhs salary.
It rarely occurs to anyone that I might have my own money.

Ah, but who did you get that money from, a man or a woman?

I earnt it. So a woman, I think. >

Yep.

I think they do say it quite a bit about men too. Liz Taylor's last husband got a lot of criticism for being a gold digger. Or it might have been her last but one.

So, Pag, a lesbian gold digger!

guilty...

This does all remind me of the 'what attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels' question to Debbie McGee

Why is it seen as so terrible to be a woman who is a gold-digger but not to be a rich man who treats beautiful young women as lust objects to be used and discarded?

I know which I think is worse.