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AIBU?

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to think that DF should not be upset by this.

62 replies

Rhobarb · 14/10/2013 18:49

So I'm supposed to be driving up to London to meet up with an old friend over the weekend - coming back home Monday morning (about a 4 hour drive), I offered a friend a lift as she wanted to go to an exhibition in London. She was delighted and went ahead and paid for her entrance ticket and a cheap hotel room. Now the old friend would rather meet me the following weekend so I have told the friend I was giving the lift to that I can no longer help her out. She is a bit off with me - she's out of pocket for the ticket (non refundable and exhib is ending this weekend) & hotel as public transport is not possible and she has no car. Tbh I think I am perfectly entitled to suit myself - she is often strapped for cash and I try to help out when I can as I am comfortably off but I was doing her a favour in the first place so she should not be off with me. AIBU?

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kinkyfuckery · 14/10/2013 18:52

She booked her ticket and hotel because you said you were able to give her a lift!

YABU.

Teeb · 14/10/2013 18:53

Yabu

BoundandRebound · 14/10/2013 18:53

She's out of pocket because you offered her a lift and then said nah not going, and you don't see anything wrong with that?

I'd be miffed too

Mckayz · 14/10/2013 18:53

Of course YABU!!! I would be very off with you if I was your 'friend'

Jan49 · 14/10/2013 18:54

This is a reverse AIBU, isn't it?

WhoNickedMyName · 14/10/2013 18:54

This has a whiff of a reverse thread.

Yes YABU.

Justforlaughs · 14/10/2013 18:55

Actually I think YABU, it's not YOUR fault that your friend has cancelled on you, but your other friend will be significantly out of pocket and you OFFERED rather than her begging for a lift. I'm not saying you are wrong for cancelling the offer of a lift but I can understand why she would be upset - I would be.

Habbibu · 14/10/2013 18:55

Lord, I hope it's reverse...

MintyChops · 14/10/2013 18:56

YABU and not a very nice friend.

Ilovexmastime · 14/10/2013 18:56

Yes, YABU. You are entitled to suit yourself but you can hardly blame her for being 'a bit' off with you can you? Especially if she's strapped for cash; it must be gutting for her to waste that money.

MoominsYonisAreScary · 14/10/2013 18:56

Hmm yabu

CoffeeTea103 · 14/10/2013 18:57

Knowing that she is cash strapped you can expect her to be a bit miffed. Your attitude is horrible by the way

AnyoneforTurps · 14/10/2013 18:57

(If this is not a reverse thread), YABVU but can't you just drive her to the nearest station, so she can go by train or coach?

pippitysqueakity · 14/10/2013 18:58

obv reverse.

Ifcatshadthumbs · 14/10/2013 18:58

I'm guessing this is a reverse (they're annoying don't so stop it)

Either way poor form to change plans and leave a friend out of pocket

JRmumma · 14/10/2013 18:59

YABVU. Id feel obliged to still go and give my friend a lift. Have you explained to the person you were meeting of the impact of their change of plan?

YonilyDevotedToYou · 14/10/2013 18:59

It's reverse. Come on OP, spill!

RoadToTuapeka · 14/10/2013 19:00

Yabu She is strapped for cash, accepted your offer which helped her out, then you backed out and she will have to fork out for travel now or forfeit the money she already paid for accommodation and exhibition. She prob wouldn't have gone had you not offered the travel. I'd be miffed if I were your friend.

JRmumma · 14/10/2013 19:00

What is a reverse AIBU?

zeeboo · 14/10/2013 19:02

Shock I hope this is a reverse too. If you are genuinely doing this to your friend then i hope she ditches you.

TidyDancer · 14/10/2013 19:03

Oh yes, has to be reverse!

No one would think they were right about withdrawing the lift in those circumstances.

fuckwittery · 14/10/2013 19:06

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Pagwatch · 14/10/2013 19:06

If this is a reverse Aibu can I just observe that people who do reverse aibu are dickheads.

If it is genuine, you are being really mean and not a friend at all.

MrsDeVere · 14/10/2013 19:07

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Namechangesforthehardstuff · 14/10/2013 19:09

It's always so bloody obvious when they're reverse. 'IAB really really unbelievably U, AIBU?'