Idontknow, yes, she should have been there, but tbh had form for being snooty at weddings. At my nieces, she arrived, moaned about my hair being messy (!) ate her dinner and left. Instantly. Before the dancing!
She refused to allow her grown up dc to come to my wedding as well. I think I would have broken mn had I mentioned it on there! She was already upset I had had a baby boy ( that accolade was for her, thanks)
Btw- NOT curry.., kids won't eat it, old folk might not like it, it it doesn't go with most drinks, and is either too spicy or the rice is crap. Plus curry puke is revolting. I am aware I am becoming overly involved:)
But a chip van! Check out any fish and chip people, google on the net and ask around to the ones you talk to. The ones who do shows and stuff, at county shows. They might come along for you, and do you a deal. Will there be rolls with lots of butter? ( wistful) even the kids will be happy- your wedding is going to rock:)
All dc were given a teddy bear at one lovely wedding I went to, they just choose one from a basket. They all had wedding ribbon in a bow, even my newborn ds got one:)
Have you tried asking the WI if they have any contacts, or the BL themselves?
When we got married, the day after, we had a lunchtime barbecue hosted by mil ( cleverly arranged to keep her out of wedding arrangements) and as it was so relaxed and informal, everyone talking about the wedding, it was a lovely add on, like a Boxing Day party:)