To be upset about my wedding venue?

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Basically have a tiny budget. We were going to cut our guest list but we don't want to. We love everyone on it.
Have been offered The British Legion as a venue for free. Best man works evenings there.
We have decided to take it so we can afford to give everyone a nice time. Its bloody ugly inside. Has lovely big field though/n pretty outside etc.
I know I chose this, and I am not wanting to save up for few years as I just want to marry dp and have all our friends and family there. And would be stupid to not accept such a generous offer.
Just venting I guess... and wondering what to do about the fading carpet, chipped paint, arcade machine...

It's only recently that people have started to use forks with cakes, continental custom. Just get pretty paper napkins. No one will care unless they are oozing cream. And even then it would break the ice...

I think I might leave a collecting plate at the BL place for people to contribute to if they want to.

Sizes, yes, of the bows. Sometimes things that look good on internet come out tiny.

I think it would be lovely for your Ds to walk you down and then support his non biological but real father. I know I would weep buckets as it makes the point that he is not just yours alone, but both of yours.

Oh yes I do like the idea of DS1 walking me down the aisle. I wonder if I could get the reverend to change the words from Who gives this woman away?

The giving away is symbolic anyway so I really like the idea of your asking DS to do it.

::sniff::

anchient Ok so hands & pretty napkins.

I will speak to DP about DS walking me. I bet he'll think it's lovely.

I don't see why you couldn't have a little poppy jewellery.

I love the idea of DS walking you down the aisle. Check with the Rverend obv. but I don't see why she'd object (it wasn't that long ago women weren't allowed to be priests).
So - are we going with fish and chips?

I just thought the poppy might be a nice idea. They do cufflinks or brooches etc

Or I could have poppies as deco?

Unsure about the fish & chips vs ploughmans tbh. Ploughmans would obviously be cheaper (we are scraping the money together here) however chip van is such a good idea.

Yes, poppy cufflinks for the ushers and brooches as bridesmaids'gifts are a lovely thought. But if you are really cutting down on cost, they'd be in my nice but not essential.

You'd need paper poppies as deco, real ones don't last more than about an hour. I think its quite remembrancy, but if combined with white wedding stuff and perhaps a few red roses could be striking.

Any way, we have girl best men and girls giving away girls, so why not Ds doing both...

Yes, I've just checked the prices and perhaps a bit of cost I should do without tbh. I am making a brooch bouquet anyway so they wont go really. Am hoping to get brooches in charity shops etc.

They have some nice jewellery in one of our local charity shops so I'm sure you'l find something.

Brooch bouquet sounds fab!

Someone PMed me links to how to make them. I thought they looked really good, and will hopefully save money

If your having a brooch bouquet, then having a poppy brooch in it would be a nice touch. Perhaps someone will have one spare (even a small pin badge) seeing as Remberence day has just been

Ok so DS to walk me down the aisle and brooch bouquet style decided.

Next I need to do DC outfits. And make final decision on transport

Just out of interest, who out of you did the something old/new/borrowed/blue thing at your wedding?

Me.

I wore old earrings, new dress/shoes/veil, borrowed tiara, blue ribbon sewn into dress (dressmaker does that for all her brides).

The final line is "lucky sixpence for your shoe" and I had one of those too. After my wedding it went to my bridesmaid for her shoe (got married within a few months) then she passed it on again. I like the idea of a travelling sixpence bringing luck to all those marriages

You can get them on eBay etc.

OP

I have just come across this thread and am storing ideas for my never really going to happen wedding at some point in the future I wish

You ?? favours upthread. My cousin did a pack of seeds in tulle/netting as her favour, with a net/tulle of about 10 mints (like mint imperials) for the kids. As you have mentioned popies, what do you think about this:

The tulle/netting as linked upthread

Envelopes 75 sent first class comes to under £6

Seeds

Labels which you can print on with a poppy design like this and planting instructions.

The whole lot will, I think, come to under £20, and will give a nice favour, if you would like to do them. Obviously you don't have to use poppies, any seed would do (my cousin used herbs).

Will also be doing that then. Like the idea of the sixpence travelling.

AGlassHalfEmptyNoLonger Thats a fab idea! When is your never going to happen wedding?

I had:
New - dress
Borrowed - underskirt (was v hot & cotton underskirt stopped dress sticking)
Old - my glasses & the cake topper had both my parents &. Inlaws wedding cake decorations in it
Blue - flowers ( bouquet & hair)

I didn't do the whole veil & tiara thing as it wasn't my style, just had flowers in my hair

Flowers in your hair sound lovely.

Thank you - they were much more me if that makes sense (and cheaper too!)

This thread has been so helpful! I'm getting married next September and we're having the reception in our local Army Reserve Centre.

Like you, we are getting the hall for free and it's incredibly cheap drink! Our guests will be so pleased :)

I'm having a red and grey theme so will be having poppies, either paper or real depending on the cost.

Undecided on our food choices as of yet, I'm keen for a hog roast but my fiancé wants a sit down, waiter dinner.

I've just finished my nursing degree so a lot of what we'll have for the wedding will depend on me finding a job!

IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow At this moment in time, never! DP and I live an hour apart, and family commitments on both sides mean we cannot see that changing anytime soon (and by soon I mean it's not likely to change in the next decade :( ) And I have always said I am not bothered about being married. However that hasnt stopped me planning my never-ever wedding

BistoBear It's a fab thread, isn't it?