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To be upset about my wedding venue?

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 13/10/2013 16:16

Name changed
Basically have a tiny budget. We were going to cut our guest list but we don't want to. We love everyone on it.
Have been offered The British Legion as a venue for free. Best man works evenings there.
We have decided to take it so we can afford to give everyone a nice time. Its bloody ugly inside. Has lovely big field though/n pretty outside etc.
I know I chose this, and I am not wanting to save up for few years as I just want to marry dp and have all our friends and family there. And would be stupid to not accept such a generous offer.
Just venting I guess... and wondering what to do about the fading carpet, chipped paint, arcade machine...

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 22:29

Actually maybe ancientbuchanan has a rather good idea there. Would it be weird if I asked guests to bring their favorite dish along, with the recipe? So that I could stock my freezer & create a new recipe book?
Or would people be worried about my state of mind?
That way I could supply the people that asked what we wanted with something but it wouldn't be to much for them?

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 22:41

I think I will ask in another thread. I could do with a few opinions as I don't want to seem mad as a box of frogs. I just love the idea.

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HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 22:45

I think that's slightly awkward because of the container issue. Party food for the day can be brought on eg foil platters or paper/plastic plates, but casseroles for the freezer ... trickier.

Also it makes it sound like you'll be too busy having rampant newlywed sex to cook for yourselves for some weeks to come Halloween Grin

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 22:48

Horry Oh No!! Should of waited for a reply, shouldn't I? I've just posted a thread with this on! Blush

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 22:50

Why did I think it was a good idea to post this? I just thought I would like lots of opinions.

{slinks away until it's all over}

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HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 22:52
Halloween Grin

I'm not the Oracle, you know. Other people might not have as mucky a mind as me.

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 22:57

You must be. Some one else said the sex thing too.

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 22:58

I didn't even think of that. Halloween Blush

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HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 23:09

They all like the recipe card idea though. You could have a scrap book and a few Pritt Sticks. Another thing for people to do in the evening, like a guest book?

We had a guest book. I think I've looked through it about twice. If it had recipes in it I'd look at it all the time.

How does that sound? Something like this with recipes stuck in and people's good wishes written underneath?

RaspberryRuffle · 22/10/2013 23:11

I thought that was the plan, just leave your bedroom for long enough to heat up a prepared meal and devour it for more energy for your newlywed frolicking!
Sorry Grin

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 23:16

Raspberry Grin No! Horry did warn me people would think this though!

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 23:17

Would hate for our guests to hand us their lovely home cooked dishes, whilst thinking they were supplying our sex food

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HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 23:18

sex food

[snort]

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 23:51

Thats a lovely idea Horry

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 22/10/2013 23:57

Yes, that's what I think I'll do. Maybe put a pic in their of them too.

Ok so wedding gift.. recipe card. Thats ok right?

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HorryIsUpduffed · 23/10/2013 00:03

I still think some people will want to buy a physical object, so the list should/could still have on it things like sheets, towels, naice teapot, etc for, shall we say, the more traditional or elderly guests.

But yes, if I got an invitation that asked me to bring a copy of a recipe I liked to stick into a scrapbook for you I'd be very excited and happy to do so. If it involved a particular utensil or ingredient to make it then I might sneakily wrap that up too - eg if someone gave you a spicy recipe they might bring one of those Tabasco gift sets too.

WaitMonkey · 23/10/2013 00:09

Grin at sex food.

WaitMonkey · 23/10/2013 00:15

Just read the rest of the thread. I don't think you've come across as grabby at all, you seem lovely. And people will bring gifts to a wedding. I would certainly bring you a recipe, but would also want to give you an actual gift, be it a present or vouchers not money. I think most people would do the same.

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 23/10/2013 00:18

WaitMonkey Wine

Horry They have Tabasco gift sets?

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HorryIsUpduffed · 23/10/2013 00:23

Here's a silly one.

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 23/10/2013 00:27

Ooh I like that.

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 23/10/2013 08:44

So maybe sending one of these cards out with the invites?

emmalinebride.com/shower/bridal-shower-recipe-cards/

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ProfondoRosso · 23/10/2013 11:45

Indeed I do know someone who had a Mario Kart Steering Wheel on their list, IfIDon'tKnow! I was gobsmacked.

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 23/10/2013 12:24

Profondo Shock Grin Did they get it?

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ProfondoRosso · 23/10/2013 12:31

I don't think so, IfIDon'tKnow, it was still there when I looked at the list a few days before the wedding! Grin

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