to think this is very disruptive??

[macdoodle]

I probably am being unreasonable and am prepared to hear it.
My DD1 has just started secondary school, she is in the "more able class" (this is what its called by the school ).
In this class, of about 20 odd, there is a boy with SN. He has an assistant for every lesson, and from what my DD tells me I guess he must have some form of autism.
But every single day, she is coming home with stories of what "X" has done. Thinks like having tantrum, which takes 20mins to calm down disrupting the lesson, shouting at the teacher, grabbing or hitting another child (and once a teacher), throwing all his books and stuff on the floor (numerous occasions), storming out of lessons etc etc.
Now the kids all seem to think this is hysterical (and great fun that almost every lesson is disrupted by "X"), but every day I am a bit , it just sounds very disruptive, and DD is starting to sound more annoyed than thinking its funny.
She does however say that is is clearly very bright indeed.
I know he has just as much right to be taught, but at the cost of disrupting a whole class of children? AIBU?? I can't quite decide TBH, and so far it doesnt appear to be affecting DD1's abilities, but we are only a term in.

Anais hope you're feeling better soon. And that things go a bit smoother with your DS. DS1 has meds to sleep, so I get a bit of time to myself - until the wee hours of the morning anyway.

polly - where do you suggest the child with SEN goes? Or doesn't it matter as long as he's out of your son's classroom?

It won't be acceptable pollyandroxy because your son can help it, he can choose not to say it.
You seem very angry with this child.
Has he hit your son? Is your son's own learning being badly affected?
Do you know his parents, could you speak to them, ask them about him?
Have you spoken to the school, what do they have to say about this?
Has this being going on for a long time?

(I'd like to apologise once again if the term has changed from SEN, I've seen AEN - additional educational needs, I'm guessing? - used a couple of times. If people prefer that/it's the widely accepted term, please let me know) :)

I read most of it and then got fed up at posters having a go at someone who was just concerned about their daughter. Probably have missed something if so sorry, but the first 8 pages were enough for me to want to stick up for the op

I am not angry at all, I just don't think it's fair on the other kids

zzz, pag, everyone else who's posted good/well-thought-out/not-fucking-ridiculous posts on this thread - I've only ever seen most of you on this thread, and even I can tell you're all absolutely fucking marvellous

thank you.

I actually have some leftover wine due to this and other things. You are very welcome to it.

I'll ask again polly - where's the boy supposed to go? Or doesn't it matter?

There is a weird groundhog day thing going on here.

Zzzz I never said I found a child with a disability unacceptable, I think the situation is unacceptable, don't twist what I am saying please,

Sadly a lot of teacher friends tell me that they resent having to spend their lesson time doing anything but..

We resent having to spend ten hours writing a risk assessment just to hold a dance lesson in the gym.
We resent pages of reporting for not apparent benefit.
We resent having to justify to Mrs-the-sun-shines-out-of-my-kids-arse why we told her child off for stealing someone's lunch money.

We resent four hour meetings on a Friday afternoon.

We do NOT resent spending our time supporting the children in our care.

well, at least if it's groundhog day, there'll be more again tomorrow, right?

Every thread about people with disabilities/additional needs goes round in circles like this (disabled parking spaces, prams in wheelchair spaces on buses etc). These damn pesky people with disabilities, expecting to be able to use public transport, go to the toilet, be educated.

Unfortunately I think government rhetoric has been successful on this topic. People with disabilities/additional needs are classed as entitled scroungers and many people seem to believe this and it feeds into their thoughts and actions.

Polly I agree it would not be fair at all for any child to be attacked at school and also not fair for them to put up with ongoing mayhem in a class. How could anyone think that was fair?
Is that what's happening here? Can I ask how you know about this boy's behaviour?
What have you done about the situation?

There's a phrase somewhere about leftover .. something about there's no such thing as leftover wine - just wine that sits there while you enjoy the anticipation of drinking it, or something like that.

I don't understand what all this "leftover wine" is about. Who leaves wine unfinished?

Well I'm clearly not going to get an answer from polly... surprise surprise! Clearly it doesn't matter what happens to children with additional needs, as long as their own NT kids are fine.