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AIBU?

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To let dd 16 get a cab at 4am in morning

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Aroundtheworldandback · 11/10/2013 23:25

Dd16 has 'told' me she is getting up at 4am tomorrow with a friend and has booked a cab (she's paying) to take them to London to catch a glimpse of her boy band idol's GIRLFRIEND arriving at her hotel.

I have used the cab company before but am still worried. Am I being paranoid? She seems to think now she's 16 she's an adult...

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Annunziata · 11/10/2013 23:26

My DD would be told to get back to bed and not even think about pulling such a ridiculous stunt.

YANBU.

Annunziata · 11/10/2013 23:26

Oops. Wrong one. YABU.

CocacolaMum · 11/10/2013 23:27

it doesn't sound like a very grown up thing to do to me?

WorraLiberty · 11/10/2013 23:28

What on earth are her reasons for wanting to look at someone's girlfriend?

That's just odder than odd

Onesleeptillwembley · 11/10/2013 23:29

Why would a 16 year old want up do that?

WorraLiberty · 11/10/2013 23:29

Unless she intends to throw eggs at her or something?

SaucyJack · 11/10/2013 23:29

I had my own bedsit when I was 16. Pretty sure I used taxis without my mum's permission.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 11/10/2013 23:30

I know I ABU just wanted confirmation.. Thanks off to book my assertiveness classes.. It's so hard when they're still children inside but taller than you and look like adults!

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lessonsintightropes · 11/10/2013 23:30

Err think YABU for letting her out of the house at such an unearthly hour for such a daft reason. What's to say she'd be safe during the stalking of the boyband girlfriend stakeout?

WilsonFrickett · 11/10/2013 23:30

She's booked a cab, she's going with a friend, she's paying.

Yes, I think it's bonkers but I remember being a fan girl and don't think you should try and stop her. It's one of those things you do when you're 16 and cringe about when you're 32, IMO.

Mind you, I would not be facilitating it, ie if they sleep in I wouldn't be waking them

WorraLiberty · 11/10/2013 23:31

I'm not sure why you're focussing your worry on her using a taxi service though?

Shouldn't you be focussing on her presumably hanging around the streets at that time of the morning, outside a stranger's hotel?

Finola1step · 11/10/2013 23:32

Tricky one. So you know the cab firm? Is it a reputable firm in your area? If so, then your dd should actually be congratulated for making a sensible choice regarding safe transport. The alternative could be walk to local station and wait on deserted platform for first train into London.

But the big question is why us she going to catch a glimpse of celeb girlfriend? If its who I think it is, isn't the famous boyfriend away at the moment so there is zero chance that he will turn up.

So, is she really going to where she says?

lilola · 11/10/2013 23:32

ywbu to stop her. all part of being a silly teen growing up :)

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Aroundtheworldandback · 11/10/2013 23:33

She's just starstruck at the girlfriend too who's also a famous singer says she's amaaazing. I give up! At what age do you let them get away with such madness?

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IneedAsockamnesty · 11/10/2013 23:34

Bah she's 16 give her sensible info about protecting herself and let her get on with it.

All these 16 year olds are perfectly legally able to leave home and unless you can prove they are in a dangerous situation there is bugger all you can do about it.

Finola1step · 11/10/2013 23:34

Yep, the cab isn't the problem. It's the supposed hanging around the streets that is cause for concern.

AgentProvocateur · 11/10/2013 23:35

At 16, she is an adult. I was at uni, living away from home. If she's got the money and is willing to get up at 4am, let her. We all did daft things at that age, and although it seems ridiculous, it also seems quite safe.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 11/10/2013 23:35

Worra unfortunately they won't be the only stupid girls there, there's a lot more like that! And yes, unfortunately they will be exactly where they say they will

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defineme · 11/10/2013 23:36

It's something I would have done at that age. If she's paying, she's set the alarm and so on and as long as she's not harassing someone...then what's the problem?
I was travelling around the country to gigs and visiting friends at that age.
I know it's hard to understand why she'd want to, but that's not the point is it?
However, if she's got a history of being reckless or something, then maybe not.

lessonsintightropes · 11/10/2013 23:37

To be fair WilsonFrickett raises an excellent point. At 16 I was in a car with a bunch of boys a few years older than me and we drove 100 miles to see our favourite punk band in Wolverhampton. Still love them now but can't quite believe my Ma let me get away with that... however they are still together and I've seen them a tonne since. As Emma Thompson says about Janis Joplin in Love, Actually; "but my love for her is true love. And true love lasts a lifetime." even if it is for some crap like 1Direction, I still have friends who like TakeThat so maybe YANBU after all

Lj8893 · 11/10/2013 23:40

At 16 I was regularly going out and getting taxis home (not as late as 4am, more like 2 or 3am) and my mum knew about this.

I was also going to london on my own, coach or train, and travelling around london on my own going to various auditions. Again, not 4am but I was still very responsible at that age.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 11/10/2013 23:49

Thank you for all your thoughts, I am ott protective and this makes my (white) hair stand on ends! We may some of us have been independant at 16 but the world seems to me now a scarier place

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mrsjay · 11/10/2013 23:51

If my dd wanted to go and look at somebody at 4 am Iwould be like WTF behave yourself girlie

mrsjay · 11/10/2013 23:53

but on the taxi front i would be okish with it but really going to look at a girlfriend of a boyband member that is bonkers

MyNameIsWinkly · 11/10/2013 23:55

At 16, my best friend and I flew from Ireland to London to, er, do something really cool and not go to a sci fi convention.

She's got safe transport and will be surrounded by squillions of other teeny bopper super fans. She'll be as safe as it's possible to be and she'll have a brilliant time. The world seems scarier now because you're older, know what's out there, and it's your baby going out into it. It's no worse than it was when we were young.

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