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To let dd 16 get a cab at 4am in morning

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Aroundtheworldandback · 11/10/2013 23:25

Dd16 has 'told' me she is getting up at 4am tomorrow with a friend and has booked a cab (she's paying) to take them to London to catch a glimpse of her boy band idol's GIRLFRIEND arriving at her hotel.

I have used the cab company before but am still worried. Am I being paranoid? She seems to think now she's 16 she's an adult...

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Cooroo · 12/10/2013 08:12

Well done you. Hope your DD has a great day - it's all part of growing up. Mine is going to see Avenged Sevenfold soon. Will be just 17 and assures me she will hang out till she has seen them in person so god knows how she'll get home. Will look up trains, but this means so much to her I'm not interfering !

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 08:32

Cooroo just wondering what they get out of it- know I sound like a killjoy but even at 16 although I loved music I would never have wanted to do anything mad like this. I look at her sometimes and think.. the wonder of genetics! Wishing your dd the complete experience with The Avenged!

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Unexpected · 12/10/2013 09:04

They're in the queue???? What queue???? A queue in which they wait to be introduced to this singer whom none of us have ever heard of when she will chat with them and offer them some tea? No, didn't think so! More likely she will be whisked in the back door and they will spend the day getting cold and wet on the pavement shouting her name. When are they planning on coming home?

Pompomfairy · 12/10/2013 09:08

She TOLD You? Hmm

She is 16 and lives under your roof TELL her she's not going anywhere!

curlew · 12/10/2013 09:15

Why do I always cringe when I hear somebody saying "under my roof"?

It's like when people say things to kids like "I pay the bills, so I call the shots".

urghh.

goingmadinthecountry · 12/10/2013 09:20

I'm finding parenting teenagers hard but wouldn't have a problem with the taxi/London trip. Would probably tell them to get a bloody grip though and do something more exciting when they got there! Independence is very important.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 09:29

Yes there's a queue- there are others like dd apparently- lots. Of course they won't get to see her. They are due home around 1pm.

Half of me agrees with the 'living under my roof' thing but how far can you take that- how much control should I have over the next few years over how she spends her time because she's 'living under my roof', when we both know I'd be just as worried if she wasn't! It's about choosing your battles and getting them through this nightmare age coming out with a sense of self worth and self reliance.

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goingmadinthecountry · 12/10/2013 09:46

I'm not a fan of taking "living under my roof" too far - she hasn't said she's having friends round to get drunk and do drugs!! Young people need to start to make their own decisions while in a safe home environment, before they are out in the big wide world by themselves. Seems like she organised the trip sensibly and had a plan she's told you about. Even if it's not what I'd choose to be doing on a Saturday morning! Keeping dialogue open, respecting other people and talking/being open seem to me to be the key to getting through teenage years. At least, it's what I try to do most of the time. Some of the friends of my 3 teenagers lie to their parents constantly about where they are because the parents are so over protective - that's the thing that frightens me the most. Disclaimer: I'm fully aware I don't get the whole story from mine........

NotYoMomma · 12/10/2013 09:54

cringe

Finola1step · 12/10/2013 09:58

In the queue! Ah bless. Reminds me if the days when at 13 we used to bunk off school to go and stand outside the family home of Matt and Luke Goss from Bros in the hope of catching a glimpse of their mum! And how my sister bunked off school for a chance to be in a Wham video. By 16, I was going to all night squat raves around South London. I'm sure your dd is having a good laugh with her mate. And yes she will cringe in years to come but so what?

PrimalLass · 12/10/2013 10:03

I had loads of freedom at 16 (went on UK holiday with friends, went from Scotland to London with boyfriend at 17, etc) so would just let her get on with it.

flipchart · 12/10/2013 10:11

To be honest, it's something I would encourage.

Ds1 has done daft things to get to see bands he likes (the rizzle kicks being one)

If you are part of the action in this case being fully aware what's going on, rolling your eyes a bit, and have some banter it makes life less stressful. She's having ( bonkers to us) teenage fun. Like I said it makes an embarrassing funny story in years to come.

If I was you I would google the singer again and get some trivia to drop in conversation like you have known about her for ever!
It always stops teenagers in the tracks that one with disbelief that you actually know something!

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 10:20

I haven't said how at odds this is to my own upbringing- I was sheltered to the extreme, and not even the rebellious type! At 15 I wasn't allowed to the local club disco unless my mum came along too to 'see what sort were there'!! Needless to say I didn't go!

I'm somewhere in the middle- think it depends on the child not the age. This one is scatty, mad, vivacious but senseless.. I would feel more confident about my calm, sensible ds 13 pulling a stunt like this.. except he wouldn't!

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 10:22

We can only look forward to the time when our teens are parents- and hope we're around to see them get it all back!

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flipchart · 12/10/2013 10:25

Exactly OP! And that is the time you pull out the 'remember when....' card!

hardboiledpossum · 12/10/2013 10:35

at 16 I had gone to glastonbury with friends and gone abroad for a week with friends. I am shocked that parents would consider not allowing this, it seems so tame and innocent.

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 10:35

Absolutely

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 10:47

I meant absolutely to Flipchart's comment!

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 10:56

Anyway, they met her, she said she liked dd's top- and best off all, Nathan was like "I love you" to her.. Yeah sure, with his girlfriend next to him! He should know dd by now.. She 'bumped into him' in New York last year on hol and been following him ever since.. Anyway all's well that ends well

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MyNameIsWinkly · 12/10/2013 10:59

Hooray, I love a happy ending :)

littlewhitebag · 12/10/2013 11:56

It sounds like they had fun and now they can talk about it endlessly for days and days and days on end......Grin

Lj8893 · 12/10/2013 12:12

Aww see it was all worth it! She's fine, she had an amazing time and now you will get your ear burned off with her talking about it for the next few weeks Grin

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Aroundtheworldandback · 12/10/2013 15:31

Yes and thank you all so much for holding my hand!

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Cooroo · 12/10/2013 21:31

Result! It's good to have a passion and follow it. She'll grow up and love something more worthwhile but at least she's had a good adventure today.

SlangKing · 12/10/2013 22:14

Kewl. Rock on DD. \nn/

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