why is mumsnet so unfriendly and shit compared to netmums

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Ive changed my name as im peeved off. I asked for a genuine bit of advice about dd2 school, and i got abuse. Everyone is so unfriendly and jump down ur throat. Its very clicky in here and they all stick togethet. At least on netmums u get a fair hearing and gd advice, its crap here.

People come on here for an ego trip and im sick of it. Have a bit if respect and decency for peoples feelings!!! Grrrrr wish it was properly monitored

At least here you can swear in your thread title OP. Over there you can't swear at all. If you don't like it, don't post here. It's that simple.

Oh, i wondered if it was a foreign body thing - try not to worry, like you say, you caught it quickly so less time for infection to develop, which means she will make a good recovery. Bloody dogs - you need eyes in the back of your head, and then some I hope she feels better soon and it isnt too much of a dent on your wallet!

Mumsnet is the most intelligent, funny, thought-provoking, sometimes outrageous, supportive, news-making, liberal site on t'interweb by far (I'm an ancient Mumsnetter with a new nickname btw) - and I LOVES IT.

^^ that, exactly that. I've had a flaming or two. Still love it here.

Sorry, that was quoting HowSuper's post

Thanks LEM - I am a bit of a wet mess at the moment - I am way too good at thinking the worst. But you are right, and I will think positive.

Oh is it another "you're all bullying biatches" thread?
((sigh))
must be the weekend

SDTG it's allowed, idiot dh gave Hully rawhide. Thankfully that was just the shifting off the blood that caused panicky vet trip. No op but a £90 bill for antibiotics etc.

Now, I have a big bottle of pro biotic, and if I suspect she has eaten something she shouldn't I give her a good dose after the first vomming. It seems to help her tummy process horrible things through better. Like discovered mouldy ancient abandoned egg sandwiches in the park and partially eaten mice in the woods dirty bastard dog

all this banter tsk tsk

SDTG RandallDog is an 'eater'. She has eaten a seemingly unending list of things that aren't food. (She has ishoos)
She once had to be 'unzipped', as the vet put it, to remove over 10cm of fabric which was festering nicely in her intestines.

She was only 9mo at the time but she'd recovered absolutely fine. Apart from a hefty scar, which is still bald 3 years later for some reason, you would never know it happened.

She had to wear the cone of shame for a while and we had to keep her very calm whilst it all healed. We were told strictly no running, no jumping, no walks and even to put her on a lead in the garden to do poos whilst all the stitching heals.

RandallDog had other ideas of course. The cone came off almost immediately as the thrashing around it was causing was likely to burst her open within seconds! Luckily she didn't worry at the wound at all and despite the facts that our efforts to containin her jumping were largely futile she healed very quickly and with no problems.

It is quite a big operation but it's also very common and recovery is a lot quicker than you think. for you.

Bitter apple spray AROUND, not on the wound areas stops nibbling in idiot dogs that cannot wear the cone due to constant panicked "Aaaaaaaaargh something EATING my actual head" circling due to the come.

Cone. Not come. That would be gross. And very very wrong.

My dog did tge same at 6 months old. He had ate stitching from a blacket and it wrapped around the far base of his tongue then wrapped around his intestines. The vet did emergency surgery and said he was lucky, basically it was like cheese wire cutting through cheese (the cheese being his intestines) He had cone collar (elizabethan collar) on for 2 wks then was absolutely grand. We had to separate him from his 6 month old brother for a week till stitches healed slighly as they were(still are 5 years later) very boisterous.

Its a real worrying time, my 3 dogs are like my kids.

Good post Randal you summed up the no jumping part well.

We had a rescue dog that stole a load of cupcakes and ate them. Not so much of a problem, but the silicone cupcake cases he also ate opened up inside him, and caused a spectacular blockage.

Silicone cupcake cases are dangerous. The vet did a piece in the local paper after Idiot Dog's mishap, to warn people. Idiot Dog made a full recovery, after surgery, and I threw out all the silicone stuff.

Wow, I never thought of silicone cases for cake!

Its some mad idea confused, probably by Cath Kidstone!

YANBU, it's all true - and the not as bright comment just highlights it really. Mumsnet is a bitchy place. I also often don't agree with the advice given, it's not v open minded. I tend to read mumsnet for entertainment, and netmums or babycentre (sometimes, although that can be bitchy), for actual parenting advice!

Mumsnet is honest, no tickers here, snakes not unicorns!

I think the most unfriendly person here is the OP actually.
If she had been less irrational and aggressive, people might have responded differently. She could have said 'AIBU to feel a bit upset by this?' or 'I think these responses were a bit unfair' or even 'Some of these people have been a bit mean'.

Instead she just basically said indiscriminately that we're all a bunch of bitches. Well of course responses are going to be defensive! As someone else said, please look at some of the amazing support given on this site before you make any generic statement about people's attitudes.

I am a NM evictee, but was a member here before my NM ban.
MrsDV had it spot on earlier up thread. Netmums IS a melting pot if PA, simmering racism, disablism and bashing if any vulnerable grouping. The mods will allow posts to stand which portray any of the above. I remember one time when a poster was so clearly mentally unwell and actually said so herself, and she was ripped to frigging shreds and I sat there stunned watching her being eaten alive. After jumping in to defend her, my posts were swiftly removed. She ended up being sectioned and came back months later to tell us if her ongoing positive recovery. She was ignored from then on.
They banned me for "personal attacks"...AKA defending bigoted attacks on vulnerable people. They even made me change my signature which was a fucking work of art.

OP, stay away from there. They will shrink your grain and make your thumbs fall off

shrink your grain

good one.

Brain....see, no thumbs

I disagree with you baba

Mumsnet is where you go if you want advice, netmums is where you go if you want your head patted and told "your bubba, your rules, hunny" .

You are right though, mnet VERY entertaining and i tend to just read AIBU and chat - however i have received invaluable support here over the years - yeah you don't always hear what you want to hear and that can be difficult, however its real advice and support. I post on the mental health board a lot and no one is going to wade in with bitchiness and "home truths" over there.

I can't navigate netmums, it is just too busy and i really really dislike being called hun - its patronising, im a 43 year old woman! and what is it with all those bouncing emoticon things?

Horses for courses but i did hvae to pick you up on the "serious advice thing" as this site has probably saved my marriage and possibly my life

When I lived in Australia our neighbours dog went onto the beach and ate a dead jellyfish, had to have part of his stomach removed because of the acid and was in 'doggy intensive care' for a month. Very nearly died.

Came out of his doggy coma, got better and then did the same thing again!

He is still alive sans a third of his stomach! Silly doggy!

I use both. I like both. However I don't like everyone banging on about 'hun this hun that' when slating netmums on here. It's just a word, it doesn't make someone thick or anything if they use it occasionally, in their eyes I think they just use it to make their post sound a bit friendlier, some people aren't comfortable at the thought that their actions may have upset someone else, others don't care. Everyone is different.

On Mumsnet I like how blunt and to the point some people can be and how it doesn't ban the most pathetic of 'swearwords'! it's what is needed on certain posts, not necessary when someone clearly wants advice though, that is what these sites were created for, if you have nothing helpful to say may be an idea to just not comment.

silicone moulds are brilliant!

I have a giant silicone cupcake case and used it to make a fucking awesome ice cream cake for DD's first birthday!