Is this fair of the school on my friend's daughter.

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My friend's child (not mine, honest) has attached herself to one girl in her class. They are both year 1 and age 5. When the other girl is in class/at line up etc. my friend's child is fine and goes into school and lunch and play time etc. happily. However, when the other girl is not in school, for example, illness, my friend's daughter cries hysterically. At lunch time, if her friend isn't there, my friend's daughter sits in with the teacher or TA in class as she is so upset and won't settle down.

This behaviour went on all last year in Reception. The mother of the other girl has decided that my friend's daughter is 'suffocating' her daughter's social development. That the clingy nature of my friend's child means that her girl isn't 'free' to play as she wishes. For this reason, she has asked the school to move her daughter into a different class (there are 3 year 1 classes). The move started this week.

However, my friend's daughter has been so upset and hysterical that she actually vomited at school line up this morning. My friend understand's why the other mother felt the way she did, but the other girl wasn't being hurt or damaged in some way.

I just think the school were unreasonable.

This happened to my dd when she started school. Another child because dependant on her and the teacher told my dd to play with her and be her partner etc. my dd said the other girl cried if my dd wanted to sit next to someone else.

I told my dad that she did not have to do what the other girl wanted all the time and then I went to see the teacher and to,d her that I didn't want my dd to be responsible for the other girls happiness.

This was written about on an education blog a few months ago.

themodernmiss.wordpress.com/2013/06/11/damaged-children-emma-molly/

I think the school and the parents of the othe child are absolutely right.
Whilst you demonstrate alot of sympathy to the feelings of the child who screams/vomits,you show no consideration for the feelings & wishes of the other child who clearly has a problem with the situation. Why is your compassion so one sided?
In the shoes of the parents of the other child I would be very upset with the school & the other parents if they felt it was acceptable for my child to haver to deal with this situation.

We had to break all contact with one of DD's friends and her Mother (my friend) because of this. The girl suffocated DD and would sulk or fall out with DD if she as much as spoke to another girl.
In the end enough was enough, I told this girl's Mum what it was doing to my DD and she was furious with us. We are no longer in contact.
The school have done the right thing IMO.
Your friend's DD needs some help socially.

Is your friend's DD Autistic/Aspergers? Either way, the school was right to do this but needs to help your friend's DD settle.

This happened with my twin brother. We were in the same class and I answered everything for him etc.

We were separated and we got over it quickly were 44 now!

This is very sad for the little girl but unfortunately I don't think it's the fault of the school or the other child's parents.

This girl obviously has some anxiety / social skill issues and her parents probably need to look at to help her. This will eventually be the best thing for her - she needs to mix more with other children as relying on that 1 friend isn't healthy for anyone.