To not like non-family middle names

[Coffeeandajigsaw]

I'm of the opinion that middle names should be family names, or possibly something with significance, not names just chosen because you like the sound of it. Yes I know it's a free world and my own middle name is very much a 'vanity' middle name (ta, mum) but I just think it's a bit silly. Pick a dead relative, or even a living one, or if you hate your family, just don't bother with a middle name at all!

Especially hate filler names, too many Isla Graces and Jessica Roses!

Sorry if I'm being offensive, was just interested to know if this is just me?

Why does it have to be a family name? Why can't people choose what they like?

FYI, it's offensive to some culture to use your elders' names.

YABVU.

How do you know that Grace is not a family name?
My middle name is Jane, the combination of it and my first name have been used in my family since least 1550.

Just you.

My DDs middle name is Grace. I chose it as it has a deeply personal meaning but it is not a family name.

Yabu people can choose what they want.
This won't end well..

I never fail to be amazed at what bothers some people .

Why on earth would it bother you how other people name their children?

It's tradition in my family to give grandparents' names as middle names. I like it because it gives the name significance. But if others don't do that so what? Why does it matter?

how wierd.

what is it about this that causes you so much ire?

Why do you care so much?

My middle name is a random one. My sons are his dads name and my dead friends.

Of course you're not being unreasonable to not like it. Its a free world after all. I wouldn't go expecting anyone else to take any notice of your POV when they choose baby names though.

I hope this doesn't keep you awake at night.

How do you feel about geographical names?

My daughters middle name is after my Mum but sadly I am deemed a chav here on mumsnet for that - because my mum was called May and according to the rules of mumsnet any child withthe name May must come from a vile little chav family.

Ive used Grace, how would you know if it is a family name or not?

YANBU. And I know that actually we are both being unreasonable.

I just don't see the point of middle names unless they have some significance eg. family.

If I have a daughter her middle name will be Rose.

It's not a family name, it's not a filler name but it is after something very important to me.

Axl.

FlirtyGurty don't worry, only to those like OP. It seems to bother her that people uses middle names like May or Rose. It's not naice and proper in their narrow POV.

Are you Katie Hopkins?

My DC don't have middle names. But that's because to me they are a bit pointless.
DB has a weird family one that all the boys in the family had to have.

Just don't use them then. I have a non-family middle name, while my brother shares my dad's middle name. My mum refused to give me her middle name because she hated it and didn't want to "inflict it" on me. While I don't like my middle name, I like that she put thought into it. That matters way more than any tradition.

kelda you know it's very narrow minded.

Yanbu, but it's not an opinion I'd share with people in general. I used to assume I'd give my DC one, until I had a DC with a forriner and he didn't see the point so I didn't, and it's much simpler.

A "first world" sort of a thing to be worried about but FWIW I agree with you. I certainly think middle names are there to 'honour' family members. The first name should be one you both like. I mean preferably you'll like the middle names too but they should have meaning behind them.

IMHO of course.

Ehric have you thought about a foreign middle name? Something totally unpronuncible which their father's family can use?