Florence
I have no words, truly so these
will have to do :)
I came out of a similarish childhood - although nothing like as bad. There was no active abuse in our case (me & two younger sibs) just very, very severe neglect on account of my mothers hopeless alcoholism & my couldn't-give-a-shit father.
We were well known to all agencies who tried to support my mother but the upshot was that we were taken into care when I was four. They wanted to keep us all together, but no foster carers could be found for us all so it was children's homes until we were eventually split up and fostered individually.
When I left care at 18 it was with a £5 goodbye and a see ya. I had no one - literally no one & inevitably went off the rails with no safety net of any kind. But I muddled through and came out the other end.
I agree with Friday, for what it's worth. The problem is that when something like this happens, we want revenge....entirely understandably. We want to see that woman and her execrable boyfriend HURT for what they did. But justice and revenge are not the same thing. We cannot punish a crime by committing a state sanctioned crime in return - which is why I'm against capital punishment.
The punishment is prison and they've got that. They are members of our society and are to be judged and sentenced according to the law and it's provisions. They were not found guilty of murder, so cannot be punished for that - the punishment they got was in line with sentencing guidelines and we can't expect anything more.
Boyfriend got life for the rape with a minimum sentence. He won't be allowed anywhere near children ever again - and I cannot believe that if he ever did father anymore a man still serving a life sentence for the rape of a toddler (which he would be if he was out on licence) would be permitted any unsupervised contact at all.
Connelly's children should NOT be forced to see her. No way. But we don't know what's going on with them & how they are feeling. It might be that their social workers & psychologists are willing to support contact for their benefit if that's what they want. It's NOT for us to say that that should not happen under any circumstances because we don't know what the circumstances actually are.
I couldn't give a flying fuck about that woman & her rights - but we should care about the rights of her children.
Having read a lot about this particular case, what shines through are two massive mistakes.....
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A kind of group think situation where everyone had decided that Connelly was basically a well-meaning but inept mother & all events were viewed that way.
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People not talking to each other when new information emerged because they assumed everyone else knew. An unrelated man coming into the family is a massive, massive red flag - just massive. But when people (and a few did) became aware of his existence, they didn't pass it on to each other so the social workers and police had absolutely no clue that this man was around.
Sorry, that was a bit long
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