To find this a little odd regarding a night out.

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Not the most outgoing person, but started a new job and got chatting to someone and in conversation we both said we loved Indians and so do our partners, she casually mentioned we will all have to go out for a meal one day. Good I thought, so we arranged it for this Friday, got a text from her today and she said, "do you mind if I invite another couple, they are friends of ours"?

TBH I was really looking forward to going out the 4 of us, as its the first time I hardly know her and thought it would be nice to get to chat, also DH is incredible shy when he first meets someone new.

I text back that's fine as did not want to come across as (cant think of the word).

But AIBU in feeling this is a bit odd.

Except the OP accepted an invite on the basis it was the 4 of them.

She is trying to be friendly and to introduce you to other friends. A curry for 6 will be much more fun than a curry for 4. Enjoy yourself and don't sweat the small stuff!

YANBU. Was recently invited to 'getting to know you' type lunch with 2 other families as we are all new acquaintances. But one family dropped out on the day so the 'inviting' mum took the chance to invite a different family who were their good friends already.

I took ds1 to the loo on arrival at restaurant, only to find when I returned that we'd ended up sitting at one end of the table, the two other couples were at the other end and all the kids were in the middle! Replacement family weren't very interested in talking to us, only their friends!

Can't be bothered to feel offended about this behaviour, after all I had a nice meal with my family, but i won't be putting myself out to get to know them or indeed help them settle in to our area, which is new to them but not to me.

I sympathise with this. I don't go out many evenings, but meet various friends for coffee and occasionally lunch. There is one relatively new friend I love having one-to-one chats with, but these are invariably few and far between as, when I arrange a date with her, she usually turns up with other mutual acquaintances or ... her 17 year old daughter. So you don't end up with any proper conversation, really, just banter about people we all know in common ...
It's the fault of texting - too easy to spread the word!

Thanks for the replies. To clarify, we were chatting talking about the weekend we had, both mentioned indians, she mentioned about the 4 of us going out for a meal sometime, I said yes that would be nice. A few days later she approached me and said her dh is on holiday and gave me 2 dates that she could make to see if any was good for us, I picked this Friday.

I did speak to her at work yesterday, and she mentioned that she had told her friend about going out for a meal with someone from work and her friend kind of invited herself !!!

Anyway we shall go and see, hopefully we will have a lovely evening a meet more people.

Well it wasn't a disaster but wasn't great either. We met up for a drink before hand and dh and work colleagues dh were chatting well. Other couple turned up and the 2 men chatted about work and stuff and dh felt a bit like a spare part, my work colleagues friend also talked about things they had done, but my work colleague kept stopping her to fill me in so I could follow the conversation.

They were nice enough (the other couple).

Although DH did say to my work colleague and her dh about coming round and having a meal. They both seemed up for it, well at work today I was given the available says for the next month, so hopefully we will be able to get to know each other better.

Glad it was pretty much a success OP! :-)