To want us to think before we post?

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Just that really. Not a thread about a thread but a thread about thread content.

I'm not particularly a delicate wallflower but it does get tiresome reading posts on threads where posters seem to be taking their issues out on the op. Especially when the op has admitted they're being unreasonable and yet the pile in continues, or gets transferred onto someone else.

I know some op's are difficult to engage with but it seems certain posters are unable to discuss things in a reasoned way without getting incredibly defensive and/or rude. I've probably done it myself but I am really making an effort to think about what I write and have deleted posts before I've added them to a post as I've realised what I've said is too heavy handed.

I suspect I'm being unreasonable and shall have my arse handed to me on a plate.

You're assuming everyone is self aware enough to reflect. Not everyone is. Some people don't ever think, they just react.

I regularly disagree with OPs but I like to think I try and disagree nicely. Even if I vehemently disagree I think it's best to reply helpfully rather than just attack the OP. If the OP is faced with a barrage of criticism they will just turn off and stop listening I have teenagers, can you tell

I just find it awful when someone is clearly upset and vulnerable that some posters think it's ok to attack them again and again and again.

Well hopefully those people who aren't self aware will be told by others that their words are unnecessarily harsh and they might gradually start to think maybe it's not everybody else.

It makes me raise an eyebrow when I see posters jump on others with 'how dare you say that' about a questionable op and then you see them on another thread gleefully laying into that op for the most innocuous thing.

Lisad - now that would be hypocritical.

Yes, Scarifying - I agree with your disagreeing. Or something.