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Original poster

On a scale from 1-10 how unreasonable is my husband?

107 replies

QuintessentialShadows · 04/10/2013 14:48

With 1 being not at all unreasonable and 10 being extremely?

I am going away for a week. Leaving tomorrow 6am.
I work part time, he works full time (but can be flexible) and long hours. He often go back to his study and work from 9 pm till midnight after the kids have gone to bed. Usually he finishes work at 6pm, so he has a 3 hour break then.

He just said "I will really catch up on work and get ahead while you are away." Hmm

Really?

I said to him "Do you really think that me being out of the house will allow you to get more work done when you have to pick up ds2 from school at 3.15, cook their dinners, clean up, take ds2 for his activities, do all their laundry, ensure their homework is done, that they have what they need in their pe kit bags, swimming bags, etc?"

His reply?

"Sure, I will just work an extra hour in the evening. Will be fine."

Angry

GrinGrinGrinGrin Wine

OP posts:
Retroformica · 12/10/2013 13:44

Update? All on tender hooks

MortifiedAdams · 12/10/2013 13:49

ten!

ConsideringTheFuture · 12/10/2013 13:52

Df is very hands on but still needs instructions on a daily basis.

He will forget that homework needs to be done by Monday (dc are 3 and 5), pe kits, book folders, forgets spare trousers for dc2 at school (a bit iffy with toilet training) and so on. Won't remember that they need fruit money on a Monday and football subs on Friday.
He just doesn't plan.

I think it's a man thing tbh.

mayorquimby · 12/10/2013 14:42

1

I would have said 0 but it wasn't included on the scale

rosieposey78 · 12/10/2013 15:42

8

Amy106 · 12/10/2013 18:14

I really want to know this one ends!

RandomMess · 12/10/2013 18:17

Can't wait either Grin

jasminerose · 12/10/2013 18:26

You get more stuff done when one is out as no tv ir talking. He is probably right.

AaDB · 12/10/2013 18:29

Dh coped by putting ds in the same manky uniform for a week, doing no homework and living off toasties, fish and chips and pizza. House was tidy but not clean. They had a ball.

talkingnonsense · 12/10/2013 19:11

I hoped there was an update! Hope ok op!

TheQuietCricket · 12/10/2013 19:17

Perhaps the OP is frantically cleaning and tidying......

HRHLadyG · 12/10/2013 19:20

Book a cleaner for your return!!!! x

FrogsGoWhat · 12/10/2013 20:54

Update!

LondonInHighHeeledBoots · 12/10/2013 21:08

Update!!! or are you still digging one of the dcs out of the pile of washing? Wink

QOD · 12/10/2013 21:14

She can't get in the door!

ThePinkOcelot · 12/10/2013 21:19

Lol, can I come with you? See how my dh manages!

Bless him!

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 12/10/2013 21:28

Clucking bell, I love my DP. When I am evilly hungover having a lie in, he cleans and tidies the whole downstairs and detangles the girls hair. Then he rewires the shed. And builds a hot tub. Then he goes to Sainsbos for chocolate and crisps.

I do the cooking, the laundry and the DCs. Anything else and he gets worried.

Original poster
QuintessentialShadows · 12/10/2013 23:24

Well well well.

Blush

He picked me up from the airport, had gone to Asda to get all the items I texted him this morning for our dinner party. (Jules favourite stew)
He dropped us off home. The house was tidy!

The boys have done their home work. No detention! They have done their activities.

I got straight on to cooking. He went to pick up our friends. I just had some finishing touches and to mop the floor.

When he arrived back with our guests 45 minutes later, the kitchen was clean, the stew was cooking, and all was ready!

All well, until I opened the laundry cupboard..... I have a week worth of washing...

So, I am pleasantly surprised! Shock

OP posts:
Loopylala7 · 12/10/2013 23:28

Bless! He is very naive, and will probably have changed his mind by the end of the week. He, however may not admit this, and I know so many men who would just ship their mums in for that week!

Loopylala7 · 12/10/2013 23:30

Just read your update. Did he ship some help in?! Kidding!

oliveoctagon · 13/10/2013 10:48

Why are you surprised? Its not that hard unless he is a complete idiot Im sure he can look after 2 kids for 1 week Hmm

Original poster
QuintessentialShadows · 13/10/2013 12:33

He did not ship help in.

I have just found ds2s homework, it was not done/handed in.
The homework was hidden under a pile of letters from the entire week - they were all unopened.

The contents of the kitchen cupboard is totally random.
It is amazing how you can live somewhere, and not discover where things are kept to the point where you can put it back again.

Now washing uniform to ensure the kids have clothes to wear for school tomorrow.

Although I did not expect a lot from him, I was pleasantly surprised the house was not a total tip, disappointed homework was not done and letters piled up.

I just dont get how it is possible for a grown man to be so inept.

It is not sexy. Sad

OP posts:
FrogsGoWhat · 13/10/2013 16:13

Did he get all his extra work done though?

Original poster
QuintessentialShadows · 13/10/2013 16:19

Nope.

OP posts:
YouTheCat · 13/10/2013 16:57

You know why some things weren't done... because he knew you would do it when you got back.

I'd be getting him to get that washing done and getting him mucking in with any other tasks he's been slack over.

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