On a scale from 1-10 how unreasonable is my husband?

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With 1 being not at all unreasonable and 10 being extremely?

I am going away for a week. Leaving tomorrow 6am.
I work part time, he works full time (but can be flexible) and long hours. He often go back to his study and work from 9 pm till midnight after the kids have gone to bed. Usually he finishes work at 6pm, so he has a 3 hour break then.

He just said "I will really catch up on work and get ahead while you are away."

Really?

I said to him "Do you really think that me being out of the house will allow you to get more work done when you have to pick up ds2 from school at 3.15, cook their dinners, clean up, take ds2 for his activities, do all their laundry, ensure their homework is done, that they have what they need in their pe kit bags, swimming bags, etc?"

His reply?

"Sure, I will just work an extra hour in the evening. Will be fine."

I thought after a weekend away the house and kids would be in total ruin.

I can back and the house was spotless, kids bathed and in pj and he even got on top of the DIY.

I have never lived it down.

Op he may surprise you

It would be nice if he were to prove me wrong.

However, I will never be able to moan/complain ever again, when he goes away with work!

I bet he gets a cleaner in the day before you're due back for a once over.

Hee hee hee.

All those household-child-rearing type things that you believe to be important? He doesn't give a rat's arse care.

Bless... Clueless... I think they think that 'fairies' descend on the house and do those gazillions of small/essential things (including secret MNetting time of course ) that need doing... Whenever I go away, I always come back to a house that resembles a skip with a festering fridge/laundry basket and bathroom... At least I know I'm needed...

When I've left DC with DH for a week, I've warned the school! Seriously, but only in a jokey way. I made sure they knew he was in charge and might not be familiar with rules and routines. DC were mid-primary. Probably just as well. PE kits were incomplete and homework diaries not signed. I'd've hated DC to get in trouble for that.

To be fair,if I left DP and the DC for a week,the house would be spotless and they would eat well,the laundry would be done,the kitchen would be clean.

but...

DD would turn up to school late and in odd socks/peculiar uniform,he'd never remember to fill out forms or get her homework done,DS would be half wild,completely filthy and be dressed on the same clothes I left him in.

This house looks absolutely bombed a day after it has been spotless.

I dont know how it happens. I feel I am on a constant cleaning mission.

In a week, they will have problems finding the front door! I bet they will start using the garden gate to get in and out of the house!

I have packed TWO swim kits for my 8 year old. And instructed him where to find them, and said he needs to try remember what days he needs them. I fear I will have to call dh every morning at 7 am to ensure both children take the right kit to school.

DS1 needs to check the daily bulletin board on his school, along with the sports fixtures board every morning for vital information for the upcoming day.

The next week should be very interesting.

In addition, I have volunteered dh for a role on the PTA that will take all friday evening (kids can be present)

I work for myself and get more done when my husband isn't here, because I work whilst eating dinner etc, stay up later, don't take breaks to chat to him and generally get things done more efficiently if I don't have to take him into account. It's a bit depressing that the majority of people seem to think that men cannot possibly be as good as women at keeping the house running. Whenever I am not here I come home to a spotless house, and on one memorable occasion a new bathroom suite, so I wouldn't be too sure that he will fail. Unless he gets sucked into reading posts on AIBU - then he's doomed...

1 lol

On one memorable occasion he had gone to India with work quite last minute while I was visiting my parents (before we had children, but I was pregnant), and a friend of mine dropped by to put some milk, eggs and bread in the fridge, and she ended up phoning another friend to come and help her clean my house.

It is terrible. He is a lot better now, but still not great.

DH would have the house sparkling, everyone fed but no one would be talking to each other for months
( I went away for a week once, they all fell on my neck when I got back in tears, including DH)

I reckon a 2, they'll all have fun, the house will be a shit tip though!!

Top marks for confidence, got to be better than having a hubby panicking all over the place!

I fear I will have to call dh every morning at 7 am to ensure both children take the right kit to school.

No. Absolutely do not do this. It is the only way you can ensure diamonds for every birthday and Xmas for the forseeable future!

You only get respect for what you do when you stop doing it. Tell him before you go, suggest he might like to write it on the calendar and leave him to it. If he calls say "Didnt you write it down like I suggested?"

And incidentally, if you organise the kids too much then they will never remember what they need. I remind mine for the first 2 weeks of term, and then after that I expect them to remember. And they do.

Op will you promise to come back and tell us how it went. Can someone call Paddy Powers so we can bet on the DH? Hahaha

He is certainly deluded, OP!

on very very rare occasions DH does the school run. once he came home , last day of term, without DDs lunch box. and managed to lose a wheel off the buggy and not even notice.

"Can someone call Paddy Powers so we can bet on the DH? Hahaha" lol lol!

In the good old days, he forgot ds2 in the nursery when he picked up ds1. His excuse? "I am not used to pick up more than one child"

I drove down to pick up ds2, took ds1 with me in the car. Our conversation went like this:

Mum, do we have to pick up baby brother.
Yes.
Why?
He will be lonely? Who is going to put his pj on tonight, and sing to him?
Buuuuhuuuuuuu I dont want brother to sleep alone without his pj and no song. Hurry mum, hurry before they close!

Bogeyface I take your point. I will not call. Their time tables are on the notice board. They can all check it.

In addition, I have volunteered dh for a role on the PTA that will take all friday evening (kids can be present)

Evil genius!

But it also means he cant clean the house before I get home next Saturday....

Priceless.
Although you will be gutted and impressed if he does manage all that and you come home to a tidy house.

Then I will go out to work full time and let him continue.

Beamur

That worries me too.

A whole swathe of women across the UK will be absolutely gutted if she comes home to a spotless house, perfect kit every day, a freezer full of meals and him way ahead of himself with work!

Quint if that does happen check his credit card bill for payments to a Nanny agency and a cleaning company :o

And I laughed out loud at this!! men! Not a clue! Yes, maybe it would be easier for a part of a day but boy, just smile & let him go on his merry deluded way!!