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to not understand why you would put naked photos of your dcs on FB?

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mrsgremola · 03/10/2013 19:02

That's it really.Ex work mate regularly posts pics on holiday, in the summer, of DD trying on mummy's clothes. She is 4. Completely fully naked pics where you can see everything.

I might get flamed, I know there aren't paedos on every corner but why on earth would anyone put naked photos of their children on Facebook? I wouldn't do it.

Also, and I know I am a cow, I don't particularly want to see pics of her daughter naked. Which is why I have hidden her.

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pigletmania · 03/10/2013 20:01

Yanbu at all. Just because you don't agree with nacked chi,dren being posted on social media for everyone to see, does not mean you find nacked children repulsive Hmm

curlew · 03/10/2013 20:01

Because people don't realise that putting pictures on Facebook steals your soul!!!!!!

Sleepyhead33 · 03/10/2013 20:14

YANBU-it is about privacy. The child is entitled to privacy.
I would have hated my peers to have seen naked pictures of me at 4 or 5 when I was a teen and going through the 'everything and anything is embarrassing' stage. I am trying not to do anything outside of the normal mum stuff to embarrass my children!
I always feel sorry for the children when I see pics like this and wonder about potential name calling/bullying in the future.

TheCrumpetQueen · 03/10/2013 20:16

Once you put pictures on FB, they own them.

MummyofIsla · 03/10/2013 20:17

I have a strict no nude pictures of my DD on the internet (my mum recently put up a pic of her in her swim suit and even that didn't sit right with me) I just don't trust Facebook not to allow my pictures to be stolen. During my time at Uni we learned about how regularly perfectly innocent images of children appear on explicit websites and that was enough to terrify me.

Notonthisplanet · 03/10/2013 20:19

I have a friend on fb with a daughter the same age as my own (2) and she constantly puts naked photos up of her, I wouldn't dream of it. She has about 500 'friends' and if one of them comments or likes then all their friends will see it so hardly private. I really find it an odd thing to do, I think about what my dd would think in the future if I did that, you just don't flash naked pictures of your kids to strangers in the street and fb really isn't far off that

Opalite · 03/10/2013 23:54

Clothed/naked who cares? Naked children are not sexual and that's that.

Goofymum · 04/10/2013 00:10

Facebook/internet is public and permanent. If you are happy with that then so be it. I wouldn't do it. I just don't want any tom dick or Harry seeing naked photos of my children.

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/10/2013 00:14

Remember how embarrassed you were at 15 when your Mum would bring out the family album and there would be a couple of cringe-worthy shots and you would hate it.

Now, imagine that picture was on the internet and that FB owned it and could do what they liked with it.

I don't post pictures of DD at all, never mind naked ones.

ShakeAndVac · 04/10/2013 00:21

Nope, I really don't get that either. Don't get me wrong, I love FB and can spend hours on there. I'll never get why people put naked pictures of their DC up there though.
I have a FB friend who does that. She's posted pics on there of a row of her bare bottom babies in the park all enjoying their picnics.
Or pictures of said babies in baths. Why does the world need to see them?! They're mortifying enough when you're my age and see them in photo albums of yourself that only close family can see.
Imagine what it's like in the digital era and your mum sticks it onto Facebook for eleventy million people to see?!

DaleyBump · 04/10/2013 00:31

Exactly what MrsW said.

DaleyBump · 04/10/2013 00:33

To you, Opalite, but there are some very sick individuals out there who find young children sexual. Would you really want pictures of your naked children in someone else's possession?

DontPanicMrMannering · 04/10/2013 00:36

The moment I read about April Jones killer collecting perfectly innocent images of her and her sister from Facebook while trawling child porn the day he was triggered to abduct jet was the day I stopped updating pics of the dcs.

You just don't know and is it worth it?

Rosencrantz · 04/10/2013 00:46

My rule of thumb is 'would I want my naked pictures on Facebook?'

Of course not! So I won't do that to my kids.

fran28 · 04/10/2013 02:16

very wrong! awful invasion of a kids privacy! I don't care if it sounded prudish but there should be no photos like that on facebook! no matter what way you look it..there is always a chance someone could get there hands on a photo and could be doing something disgusting while looking at it!

AveryJessup · 04/10/2013 03:27

She shouldn't do it because:

A.)her daughter hasn't consented to having her image put up on FB presumably since she's only 4 and is too young to know what that means. If she tags her daughter's name in the posts it could come up in later years under searches for her daughter's name - I doubt the daughter would appreciate that!

And b.) Facebook own copyright to images posted by FB users so technically could use her daughter's nude image for any purpose they like, although they are 99.9% likely not to do this obviously due to the bad publicity it would bring.

ChunkyPickle · 04/10/2013 03:39

I don't personally have a problem with the occasional nudie shot of toddlers at the beach or whatever - after all, anyone could be down at the beach also taking pictures for their own use - but then I really don't understand this embarrassment at baby photos thing?

Why on earth would I be embarrassed about any photos taken when I was a baby/toddler/kid? I wasn't as a teenager, I'm certainly not now, I just don't get it. (although there are some taken when I was a teenager that make me cringe, but I'm still not embarrassed by them, just by what passed as fashion back then)

Fakebook · 04/10/2013 03:47

My dd would've been mortified if I'd shown people naked pics of her at age 4. That's not cute baby territory.

Stealmysunshine · 04/10/2013 04:05

I wouldn't put naked pics of my dc on fb, or would I let them run naked on the beach/pool.

I wouldn't do it myself so I wouldn't subject my child to it. Nakedness is not for the public.

MistressDeeCee · 04/10/2013 06:20

If a parent said 'shall I put naked pics up of my DCs on the Net?' there'd be shock horror. But putting up on FB seems to be ok Confused. FB is as public as anything. As 1 poster mentioned, April Jones' killer collected plenty of innocent looking pics of her from FB, to aid his obsession. Some will always think thoughtful parents are over-reacting that a random paedophile may be lurking. Well, they arent always random, are they? As several cases prove. You dont know who is looking at your DCs. Your DCs dont have to be in provocative poses to elicit weird interest. Can nothing be private anymore? & if one values privacy, then theyre somehow 'strange?'

Even if not for fear of paedos then how about the irrationality of some being so desperate for their 15 mins of fame even pics of their naked DCs must be paraded as a matter of interest (!). The family album is no longer good enough, everything has to be hugely public. Social media has really caused some to lose the plot and blur the line between virtuality & reality. However if people want to do that and feel its fine, all well and good..but the notion that its a pretty normal thing to do strikes me as odd.

kelda · 04/10/2013 06:30

Respecting your children's privacy is nothing new. There are no naked photos of me in the family albums. My parents (in their 60/70s) were horrified when they saw the photo of our friend's little boy - and that was full frontal.

Just because you may only have good friends on your FB doesn't mean that only they will see the photos.

Privacy setting on FB are not trustworthy and besides, my computer is always on, logged onto FB and whoever is in my house can see it.

pigletmania · 04/10/2013 07:23

Opalite to a lot f disgusting individuals they are, especially nacked ones, don't be so naive, thats the problem. Nacked Child pictures are fine, kept private in an album, not on the world wide web, where one has no control over what happens tothem or who sees them!

gnittinggnome · 04/10/2013 10:06

Agreeing with MrsW as well - the child cannot consent to having their photo posted up forever, and has no say over where/how it may be used.

thebody · 04/10/2013 10:14

well I don't go frolicking naked on a beach Grin and so never thought it appropriate for my own children really and little costumes are so cute.

I respect my children's privacy and have always brought my 4 up to respect their privacy/ keep their bodies safe and precious.

still each to their own.

ohmymimi · 04/10/2013 10:38

Not many Naturists on MN, then. There is nothing wrong with nakedness, other than in the mind of the beholder. This squeamishness about the innocent nudity of children has almost destroyed our ability to allow children to enjoy the freedom of innocence in childhood. As for fb, it's a private a you want it to be. Personally, I find the many alternatives to the ever-present stealth boasting on fb preferable.