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AIBU to think this was worst dinner guest ever

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AlleyAlleyO · 03/10/2013 16:42

DP's friend C came round last night for dinner, with his new girlfriend, F. We have only met her briefly, in the pub.

We invited them over last night, I did a slow-cooked pork and apple thing, with blackberry tart and whipped cream for dessert.

Initially I'd done the whole 'we're having this for dinner, hope that's OK' and C had gone 'ooh lovely', no objections from F.

When I served dinner, she just sort of looked at her plate and said 'actually, I'm a bit fussy. I'll have a bit of the sauce though, and a slice of bread to dip in'.

Cue apologies from me, are you sure that's all you'll eat etc. She maintained it was fine, she'd just have a bit of bread. I was pissed off, but whatever.

I brought her the bread and continued my own dinner. Two minutes later, F asks if there is any butter as she now doesn't want to dip the bread in sauce, she just wants bread and butter.

I go and get her the butter. She eats bread and butter.

Long story short (C looking embarrassed, DP shocked, me fuming) when dessert comes out, she seems pleased and asks what kind of tart it is. i say blackberry. She says she's sorry, but she doesn't eat anything picked from the wild.

I ask her does can I get her anything else, she ends up eating mini jammie dodgers from the biscuit barrel. They leave soon after.

I am still not over the shock and have told DP she's never coming round for dinner again- or if she does, I'm not counting her in Grin

OP posts:
Iloverusks · 03/10/2013 19:05

How rude!!

Made me chuckle tho! Many of times I have grimaced through food I don't like that has been made for me, but I could never not eat it!

expatinscotland · 03/10/2013 19:05

Then why go to a dinner party? If there is stuff you don't like, don't go!

ReviewsOffers · 03/10/2013 19:05

I love these threads

More please!

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 03/10/2013 19:05

Horry: any specifics, I'd love to try it! And you, OP?

Department · 03/10/2013 19:06

Maybe I was brought up odd, but I don't think there's any excuse for not making a very good effort with whatever you're offered when visiting.

I remember going for tea to new neighbours with my mum and sister when I was about 9. They were Italian (very exotic!) and she'd made a "special" Italian cake. I've no idea what it was, but it was vile. I knew it must be bad because when the lady went to the loo my mum stuffed all three of our pieces in her handbag. The first time ever we'd been allowed to say we didn't like what was offered, but even then there was no way we were going to tell our host. Never before or since have I experienced cake I couldn't eat Blush

In the case of the OP I do wonder if there might be a serious underlying issue. You say you invited them the night before. Was the invite actually given to him? Did he accept without consulting her? Did she even know before they met that evening what their plans were? If it was dropped on her like that and she has food issues, she coped very well!

Original poster
AlleyAlleyO · 03/10/2013 19:15

She was knocking back the wine like there was no tomorrow, so I don't think she's pregnant. To be honest she seemed like a fairly friendly and normal person before the bread and butter fiasco.

She's 32.

The slow cooked pork and apple is simple, rub your pork loin/chop/whatever with a little bit of honey and mustard, stick it in the slow cooker along with one or two onions and about 4 decent sized apples (I judge it as an apple per person) and cook for 8 hours.

It's lovely too. I was all excited because as well as having recurrent anxiety and depression, I'm dead common Grin and not in the habit of having people round for dinner (parents thought a chippy round at my uncle's was the height of sophistication) whereas DP's lot are a very dinnery bunch. Oh well, I tried.

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AlleyAlleyO · 03/10/2013 19:18

Oh sorry, by 'last night' they came round last night, we invited them last week when DP bumped into his friend. So she did know in advance.

I think I'll give her the benefit of the doubt though, maybe she was sickening for something Grin

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Crowler · 03/10/2013 19:20

Rude. As said before, at least you have a "worst dinner guest ever" story.

May I just suggest, though, that a lot of people I have an aversion to fruit and meat together. But they should just deal with it.

ThePuffyShirt · 03/10/2013 19:29

I would hate pork & apple & I really dislike pudding, but I would've eaten everything served to me & praised it too.

Your guest was really impolite, OP.

happyyonisleepyyoni · 03/10/2013 19:34

Silly bitch!

Threalamandaclarke · 03/10/2013 19:49

Poor thing. She obviously has issues with food. Try to be kind.
All I can think of is blackberry tart and whipped cream.Envy

Original poster
AlleyAlleyO · 03/10/2013 19:52

There was more blackberry tart left for me

I was happy Wink

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TheSydenhamSet · 03/10/2013 19:54

I made a lovely sponge cake with blackberries picked from my garden. My uncle was enjoying his slice til my brother said "cat wee" ala Harry hill Hmm lol!

quoteunquote · 03/10/2013 20:00

Can I come around for dinner, I promise to eat everything you put in front of me,pleasssssssse?

She was rude, badly brought up and will have a limited life, at least you found out before you wasted any more energy on her, I wonder if she went to MaccyDs on the way home, lots of safe processed food.

ZingWantsCake · 03/10/2013 20:02

Ams go and have some then!

HorryIsUpduffed · 03/10/2013 20:10

TwoAndTwo - have sent you a pm

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 03/10/2013 20:18

I would hate pork and apple. I don't like sweet and savoury together, it's just wrong to me. I would however eat it to be polite.

Not eating anything picked from the wild? Wtf? Isn't that everything then?

Tavv · 03/10/2013 20:25

The food sounds delicious OP. But in any case, everyone knows you smile and eat what you're given at a dinner party, don't they? So one explanation is that she was being rude. But there are also other possibilities such as eating disorders or phobias etc. And with that situation maybe she'd usually say no to a dinner party but was persuaded by her OP.

Tavv · 03/10/2013 20:25

OH not OP Grin

vj32 · 03/10/2013 20:29

This thread makes me feel much better. I'm a vegetarian and have been in fairly cringeworthy situations several times (mostly when I was a child although the most recent was a very posh wedding this summer) where I have to explain that that particular dish isn't vegetarian and can I just eat the sides instead. These stories make me feel very normal in comparison.

lljkk · 03/10/2013 20:30

It wouldn't have bothered me at all what she did or didn't eat. Confused
Obviously I am not one who belongs on the dinner party circuit.

friday16 · 03/10/2013 20:32

If you haven't picked them yourself you could be forgiven for worrying about dog pee and diesel fumes.

I made four kilos of blackberry jam with fruit from the park last week. Lovely.

ZingWantsCake · 03/10/2013 20:41

vj but wouldn't a boyfriend of yours know you are a vegetarian and bring it yo the host's attention when asked if a pork dish is ok?

unless of course you only met that day and this is your first meal together! Grin

CMOTDibbler · 03/10/2013 20:43

Sounds like my nephew (who is 19, and has no SN) - he basically only eats beige food, and makes a fuss about it. At christmas dinner he will have 7 roast potatoes and 1cm of beef. Oh, and pick the inside out of a roll while making yuck noises at the veg, and won't eat anything that has touched things he doesn't like.

Drives me insane - I don't mind what people eat, but I hate the making a drama out of it

MissDD1971 · 03/10/2013 20:50

I'd give her 1 last chance and tell her boyfriend to get her to mention e.g. if she doesn't like fish/tomatoes whatever.

no harm in actually pointing out I think in advance if there's something you really don't like.

I eat and have ate most things and would think it height of rudeness to refuse to eat it but I can't say for sure if I have actually not eaten anything. I try it though. and make an effort to finish it. only polite to do so.