Am I miscarrying?

[Beavie]

Sorry to hijack Aibu, I know I'm not bu for once but really need some words of advice!

I'm currently sitting in a&e, where I've been for over 2 hours now, as I am 6 weeks pg and been bleeding intermittently for over 24 hours now. It's bright red blood mixed with mucus (sorry if tmi). It comes in waves and stops and starts and the waves seem to be getting heavier. I've also had a dull pain in my abdomen most of the day, although this has been intermittent too.

Dp is insisting we stay here until we are seen even though it's a bit of a waste of time as far as I'm concerned as we've been told we will not be able to get a scan tonight so I'm not sure what they can actually do. Add to the mix a cranky toddler who should be in bed and I'm feeling pretty fed up. I just want to go home and get in the bath which helps with the aching. Anyone got any words of advice?

I hope this is not too negative a post but I had a mmc earlier in the year. I should have been 8 or 9 weeks and when I had a transvaginal scan all they could see was a sac which was much smaller than it should have been. I think my HGC levels were very low as well.
However, of the fetus is smaller than a certain size, NICE guidelines say that they need to scan again in 7 days time before they can confirm the mc just in case you have your dates wrong. I knew I had my dates right and hated that I had to wait an extra week before they could start the managed miscarriage procedure.
I hope this isn't the case with you but it may be worth phoning them to see what exactly is going on. I was told that they couldn't officially tell me I had mc'ed until the second scan but they certainly inferred this was the case. I hope everything works out for you and that you are ok.

Thanks allboxedup, yes I get the impression that's what is happening, they are covering themselves just in case I have got my dates muddled, but I am 100% certain I haven't.

I asked if they could do another blood test any sooner than next week and they said they will do one on Thursday afternoon, so I will hopefully know by Friday morning at the latest whether my hcg levels are rising any quicker.

It's the worst time - hope you get through this ok.

Oh Beavie, what an ordeal.

Many of us have been through what you are experiencing (sort of) although you're going through a long drawn out process with no answers when you really want them.

If it helps, keep talking to us and we'll keep offering our thoughts and suggestions.

All the best. X

Thanks, in my heart I already know the answer. Dp is refusing to accept that it's not looking good which is not helping, he is in a right old mess about it :(

ih Beavie I am sorry. My bloods were a nightmare during my 1st mc. Kept limping slightly upwards but nowhere near what they should. Back and fore to the hospital. :( I knew it wasnt good but you cling on to that tiny scrap of hope . :( Huge hugs to you and your dh.

Big hugs beave, ow awful, having to wait. Big hugs

Have a and I am really sorry, I know you just want to know either way

Thanks all. I never imagined a mc to be this drawn out and confusing. It's not like that on the telly and in books is it? At least if I get definite bad news I can cheer myself up with a bottle of wine and crack on with my Ucas application.

OP, I'm not sure if this is an appropriate thing to say, but there is good support on the miscarriage & pregnancy loss boards, if you want to take a look. Many of the ladies are going through similar situations & can help. I hope I haven't offended or upset you by saying that.

Take care & I hope you have some answers soon.

Beavie, I've had 2 'small measuring' EPU scans for different pregnancies which turned out ok. I don't want to give false hope, but even when I was sure of my dates both times I was told I was 1-2 weeks earlier than I thought, only for the measurements to have caught up by 12 weeks, verifying my dates.

I'm so sorry this is happening Beavie.

It's a horrible thing to go through, dragging it out just makes it a whole lot worse.

If you are 100% with your dates though, it doesn't seem it could be anything else.

I am really sorry :(

Thanks featherbag but when you combine that with the cramping and bleeding it's not looking good. I know that I'm not not pregnant anymore, I had a bit of a bump (I get big ridiculously quickly with my pregnancies) and it's gone. My boobs have gone back to normal. I am 100% sure.

Not feeling too bad today. A bit hormonal but that's probably to be expected.

Sounds like a dreadful situation. Huge hugs x

Wishing you strength through this awful waiting x

Keep us posted. x

I have been following your story.

I think you're incredibly brave. That word gets overused, but I genuinely think it applies to you.

Will be thinking of you over the coming days and weeks.

Thanks for the support everyone, I really appreciate it. I know I will have moments where it's hard to deal with but I am so ridiculously busy at the moment that I'm not going to have a lot of time or opportunity to get down about it. And I have two beautiful girls to be thankful for, so I know I'm a lot luckier than some people.

Another blood test to look forward to tomorrow, I'll keep you all posted x

Thinking of you, big hugs

Oh god! Ok I need to just have a quick vent now. As if having a miscarriage wasn't bad enough, over the last three days I have also had to deal with 2 separate letters from tax credits saying they've overpaid me and I have to pay back £800. Then today, I set off with my dd2 to go to an auction (I buy and sell books), and as I was nearly there (it's quite a long drive) dd2 suddenly voms EVERYWHERE in the car. Masses of it all over herself, the seat in front, the seats next to her, the floor, my college books, her car seat. I cleaned her up the best I could and said we should go home but she got upset and wanted to go to the auction, so I hastily went to a charity shop to cobble together an outfit for her as she was totally nekkid. Got to the auction which was a complete waste of time because by now I'd missed the lots I wanted to bid on. Dd has a tantrum that we are not buying any books.

On the way home in torrential rain, the driver's side wind screen wiper stopped working so I had to drive home leaning onto the passenger side.
Spent the afternoon trying to clean the sick out of the car, in the pissing rain.

Walked the dog and you guessed it, got caught in more torrential rain and soaked through to the skin.

Got home and started feeling queasy, went to the toilet and had the most yielding half an hour I have ever spent in a toilet, it appears I have dd's sickness bug and I have been shitting water and vomiting violently. Now in the bath feeling very sorry for myself, listening to dp's FUCKING SNORING.

That's about it. Rant over.

Oh actually not quite, being sick means I will miss another day of my access course tomorrow, having already missed Tuesday for the scan, which is going to mean I have loads to catch up on :(

Oh Beavie :( be kind to yourself, is your DP able to look after the kids while you rest? for you.

Nope he's a teacher so he can't take time off easily...and they already gAve him time off the other day to go to the scan. It'll be just me and dd2 in the house of sick.

Just a technical question, having done my daily hour of searching the internet for mc related stuff. I get the impression from forums that 'the main event' is yet to happen, and i can expect some really heavy bleeding. So far it's just been like a really light period. Is this always the case? Just want to know what I'm in for :(

Sorry to hear that :( I've not experienced it myself but from what I gather it's not always the case but it is most of the time. If you are mcing, they should scan you in a little while to make sure you haven't retained anything (I think). As I say, I haven't experienced it myself so I don't really know. Sorry to put it so crassly :( there's a thread for advice about miscarriage, I'll have a hunt and find it for you. I read it myself when I was bleeding during my pregnancy and it was very helpful to know what to expect.