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Am I miscarrying?

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Beavie · 28/09/2013 21:11

Sorry to hijack Aibu, I know I'm not bu for once but really need some words of advice!

I'm currently sitting in a&e, where I've been for over 2 hours now, as I am 6 weeks pg and been bleeding intermittently for over 24 hours now. It's bright red blood mixed with mucus (sorry if tmi). It comes in waves and stops and starts and the waves seem to be getting heavier. I've also had a dull pain in my abdomen most of the day, although this has been intermittent too.

Dp is insisting we stay here until we are seen even though it's a bit of a waste of time as far as I'm concerned as we've been told we will not be able to get a scan tonight so I'm not sure what they can actually do. Add to the mix a cranky toddler who should be in bed and I'm feeling pretty fed up. I just want to go home and get in the bath which helps with the aching. Anyone got any words of advice?

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pigletmania · 30/09/2013 15:04

I know you want to know either way so you can begin to move forward.i felt in limbo when I was bleeding and having to wait for scans at EPAU. With ds I started bleeding and thought it would be a 3rd loss but I was scanned and they found a heartbeat

pourmeanother · 30/09/2013 16:11

Ah, bless you. It's a horrible feeling. None of us can predict the outcome.

Let us know how the scan goes tomorrow. At 6 wks there is a chance they can see things clearly via an abdominal scan rather than an internal one. If that's something that sounds more appealing then just ask them to try it that way first.

Xx

lotsofcheese · 30/09/2013 16:44

Oh, you poor thing. Our local hospital (a regional centre) also has a "48 hrs bleeding before seen" policy & it feels like an eternity.

I've been there twice & the not knowing is definitely the worst. In some ways, finding out for definite is a relief as at least you can move on one way or another.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow & crossing everything.

pigletmania · 30/09/2013 17:09

I had to have the vag cam when I was bleeding at 8 weeks. Get them to try the abdominal first as its less invasive

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Beavie · 30/09/2013 17:41

Don't worry, I will definitely report back tomorrow. Yes the not knowing is awful, either outcome is ok but I just want to know which way I'm going here. Dp is already heartbroken and I'm more worried about him than me. The bleeding seems to have got heavier this afternoon, which I'm guessing is not good.

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pigletmania · 30/09/2013 18:55

When you mentioned cramping and still heavy bleedingit does not sound good, in my inexpert opinion. With both losses I had that. Big hugs, good luck tomorrow Smile

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 30/09/2013 23:02

Good luck tomorrow [hugs]

Catsize · 01/10/2013 04:10

Will be thinking of you OP.

Amy106 · 01/10/2013 05:06

Thinking of you and hoping for the best. [hugs]

MaccaPaccaismyNemesis · 01/10/2013 07:56

Thinking of you today OP

Purplefrogshoe · 01/10/2013 08:50

Good luck OP

Featherbag · 01/10/2013 10:38

Thinking of you today, hope all goes well x

Mojavewonderer · 01/10/2013 11:49

Good luck op, I hope you are ok.

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Beavie · 01/10/2013 13:15

Well! Even more confused now. The abdominal scan couldn't pick anything up so they did trans vaginal. They found an embryo and sac and what looked like the flutter of a heartbeat . But the embryo was sitting lower down than it should and was measuring more like 4-5 weeks than 7 weeks, which is confusing because I'm sure of the dates. Did more bloods will get results later.

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pourmeanother · 01/10/2013 13:23

Oh wow! Well that's great news! Has the bleeding eased now?

pomdereplay · 01/10/2013 13:30

That is some hope to hold on to. Hang on in there Beavie. Best of luck.

Christelle2207 · 01/10/2013 13:46

Good luck hope you get positive news. These early scans are rarely conclusive x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 01/10/2013 14:42

A heartbeat is really positive. Smile Fingers crossed for you. xx

pigletmania · 01/10/2013 14:51

That is fantastic, it is great that there is some hope Smile

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Beavie · 01/10/2013 15:23

Don't seem to be bleeding today, a little bit first thing but not since then.

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Beavie · 01/10/2013 19:12

Just spoken to the epu nurse, my blood test results are back. My hormone levels have only risen very slightly since Saturday so it seems that I am miscarrying. Feeling gutted. Thanks for all the support on here xx

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Beavie · 01/10/2013 20:03

Aaargh! Just had another call from the nurse who has spoken to the registrar, who has decided that my results are too inconclusive to know for sure what's happening, so they want to scan me again in 8 days time! I will actually go crazy waiting that long I think. I seem to be getting completely contradictory information, as earlier she explained that if my hcg levels have dropped or risen slightly then I am miscarrying, and that's what is happening, but now she seems to be saying that is not necessarily the case. I am really confused.

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ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 01/10/2013 20:53

I'm so sorry Beavie. I've been where you are and agree that the not-knowing is the worst bit. I'll keep sending hugs and best wishes your way for as long as you need them.

lotsofcheese · 01/10/2013 21:01

I'm so sorry to hear that. 8 days must feel like an eternity. Would they agree to repeat another HCG level in a few days? It's so hard being in limbo, especially for so long.

Chusband · 01/10/2013 21:07

Good grief, 8 days is an absolute eternity in this situation.