to think that if you turn up to someone's house with no warning you can bloody well put up with whatever their house looks like?

[Adikia]

FIL and SIL were in town shopping earlier so popped in to say hi on their way past as we've just moved to a new house and FIL wanted to see how DD was getting on at school as he's not seen her since she started, which is fine, I like FIL but SIL has really pissed me off.

She spent the whole time commenting on things like my uni books being open on the table, washing hanging on the clothes horse in the kitchen, toys on DDs bedroom floor (which DD had been playing with when they knocked) and boxes in the corner of the dining room and worst of all the dog being in the living room when she came in! (she doesn't like dogs).

If i'd been expecting her then I would of tidied up, made sure the washing was dry and put away and put the dog in the dining room but surely if you turn up unexpectedly then you know there is likely to be the odd sign of people living there/half finished housework? or is everyone elses house completely spotless and ready for visitors 100% of the time?

Sometimes, I find that a well-timed FUCK OFF works with rude people.

I do hope when she is blessed with children, one day, that she has at least one that is a velcro baby with no apparent need for sleep.

Remember, revenge is a dish best served cold.

Love your FIL.

How boring she must be, unless she us superwoman, to have time to do everything. Despise her smallness if mind.

Zillion..just follow the aroma of baking and the gleam of sparkling windows.

She clearly lives in cloud cuckoo land!

At the moment my house is pretty spotless 99% of the time, however this is only because I'm on maternity leave awaiting our first dc so i am bored making the most of having a tidy house while i still can!!

Love your fil!!

She's going to teach her kids to tidy up? Yeah, good luck with that, the cheeky cow.
But your fil sounds fab.

of she is BU!

what a bitch!

if there's a next time just tell her:
"you are welcome to improve the state of my house - put toys away, fold clothes, hoover up...your choice!"
cheesy smile is a must!

and apparently there's a website where you can order poo sent to anyone with the message "Someone thinks you are a SHIT! "

Before we had children DH used to tell me that "our child" would never have a tantrum in a supermarket. The only reason this is now true is because we shop online and she's tantrumming elsewhere...

Before we had children DH used to tell me that "our child" would never have a tantrum in a supermarket. The only reason this is now true is because we shop online and she's tantrumming elsewhere...

when I was pg with dc1, we knew she was going to be really well behaved AND sleep through the night within a few weeks of bring born.

Didn't happen....

Apparently Sharon Osbourne sent the contents of her son Jack's potty to someone once.

Yanbu, your house sounds tidier than mine when I'm expecting people!

Send her round here. She can stare in horror at my mountain of pots which I maintain is proof of my culinary skills and my cat will brew a fart specially for her.

If i'd been expecting her then I would of tidied up, made sure the washing was dry and put away and put the dog in the dining room

I wouldn't have even done that! My house, you want to visit, accept it as it is or don't come. My guests should be coming to see me, not my house.

I don't even notice mess or anything in other people's houses, I'm just grateful to be invited:)

Droppers inners should be banned anyway. My mil loves to drop in and it drives me mad. She tuts and fusses and starts to tidy and fiddle with stuff. I told her last time it the mess on the coffee table was an art installation for ds homework and shouldn't be touched:)

Your sil was very rude to comment though. We know a couple who don't have dc and there is practically a thought bubble over their heads when they arrive, and there are toys about, dc are being a bit difficult, tv on, dh and I ignoring the shouting for once and having a coffee together. They judge us without actually speaking.

btw we have 6 kids. if the house is particularly messy when people turn up (expected or not) I quote Joey after he ate his date's cake:
" I'm not even sorry"
and it's true. I'm not. I do not feel guilty or ashamed.
in fact I don't give a flying monkey's left bollock what anyone thinks.

I do wish I could have a tidier house, and I do make an effort, but it takes so long to clear up and no time at all to mess it up.