to think that if you turn up to someone's house with no warning you can bloody well put up with whatever their house looks like?

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FIL and SIL were in town shopping earlier so popped in to say hi on their way past as we've just moved to a new house and FIL wanted to see how DD was getting on at school as he's not seen her since she started, which is fine, I like FIL but SIL has really pissed me off.

She spent the whole time commenting on things like my uni books being open on the table, washing hanging on the clothes horse in the kitchen, toys on DDs bedroom floor (which DD had been playing with when they knocked) and boxes in the corner of the dining room and worst of all the dog being in the living room when she came in! (she doesn't like dogs).

If i'd been expecting her then I would of tidied up, made sure the washing was dry and put away and put the dog in the dining room but surely if you turn up unexpectedly then you know there is likely to be the odd sign of people living there/half finished housework? or is everyone elses house completely spotless and ready for visitors 100% of the time?

Hysterical, love your FIL.

Bops I want a sign like that!

Whispers, it's only that tidy because half my stuff is still in boxes

Don't tidy up because SWtSQ comes.
Don't worry about clothes.
Don't move the dog out unless she is allergic.

Your house is your home and your SIL has fuck all to do with how you live!!!

SWTSQ = she who thinks she's Queen.

she doesn't even have kids!

Miserable woman - you must have been seething! Your place sounds welcoming and homely - and what the hell's wrong with books being on the table? Rude cow - but your FIL sounds wonderful.

Your fil sounds nice. Invite him for dinner at once!

She sounds awful. I would have offered her a glass of wine, in the hope she wouldn't call back:)

Did you consider bribing your dc to throw eggs at each other?:)

My FIL made comments like the SIL when they finally visited three months after DS was born. Yes, three months. They're about two hours away. Anyways, I had no response ready (hadn't discovered MN). I f he tries again it will be either an offer a comments book forf him to put his complsints in writing, or "thanks fil, we're so busy, it would be great if you could put the hoover round". Needless to say now I have the response there have been no comments.

You'll love it when she does have kids. She wont know what has hit her, and you can be as smug as you want!

She just sounds socially inept! Poor woman .

I love your FIL! Mine makes a great big show of moving things off the sofa if he cant sit down (5 of us live in house sometimes things do get left on sofa) and then makes more effing mess with crumbs if he has a biscuit with his tea than the kids do!
Dick!

BeansAndCheese - I have a list of stupid 'when I have kids I'll...' comments I'm going to remind her of. My favourites are 'I'll still find time to do my make up and straighten my hair every day' and 'I won't put up with even one toddler tantrum'

'I won't put up with even one toddler tantrum

What's she going to do? Lock the child in a soundproof room? Put it up for adoption before it's old enough to tantrum? Bind and gag it? Toddlers tantrum. She not going to be able to prevent it.

She sounds like a nightmare. I don't know how you remained to polite. My house and I'm sure many others are the same, is nowhere near that tidy most of the time and people have to take is how they find us if they appear on the spur of the moment.

I don't think there is one genuinely tidy presentable room in our house right now but we've had a lovely time today at a wildlife trust activity building dens, junk modelling, listening to bats, learning about owls, etc. Much better than staying at home making the house beautiful

What a nugget of a Sister in law! My mum does this too though, despite her not being any better herself. So annoying!

I am getting some great ideas for comebacks here, not that anyone I know is so fecking rude. Do let us know more of her parental wisdom, please. .

Ha has he sounds lovely...not.

Your fil sounds fab!

And yes if people just turn up then they find us in whatever state, tho tbh I don't have any friends that would be bothered thankfully.

I already feel sorry for her kids!

Congratulations on getting such a great FIL though!

The correct response to seeing your books on the table was 'I'm sorry if we are interrupting you, we should have called to see if you were free for a visit - how about we go and let you get back to it & catch up another day :)'

Stupid rude cow.

Won't it be great when she has kids, you must do all you can to encourage her to reproduce! When dd was small we were friends with a childless couple, he was quite vocal about how much better behaved his hypothetical children would be, due to his no nonsense attitude... they now have an actual child I am very much enjoying watching.

I do love FIL. I'm so looking forward to the day I bump into SIL in Sainsbury's with unbrushed hair, no make up and the 'but mum, I need that overpriced piece of plastic rubbish by the till' tantrum.
She's trying for a baby so hopefully it won't be long.

I need one of those signs lol

I get up at 3 every morning to buff and reclean my spotless abode, i then bake a fresh batch of organic biscuits, brew filter coffee and put on my best dress. Just time for a wash and set, then i polish the kids and we sit still and silently waiting with ready smiles for unexpected visitors. This way we are never caught out. Do try it.

I was getting all annoyed and was about to post vitriol (seriously, passed over three threads because I would have said Too Much because u've had 1.5 bottles of wine ), until I got to:

I have a list of stupid 'when I have kids I'll...' comments I'm going to remind her of. My favourites are 'I'll still find time to do my make up and straighten my hair every day' and 'I won't put up with even one toddler tantrum'

This comforted me more than the previous DSIL comments. I am now going to just sit back and enjoy. This thread - this karma - just plain write itself.

Providing you PROMISE you'll do this reminding. >shakes finger sternly<

FTR, your house sounds like in way better state than ours. Yes, if we have notice, everything but our own bedroom can be in vaguely great shape, but no notice? You get a drink and one clear seat on whic to sit, and that's it.

No, my house looks like it is lived in.

Lately, I have been decorating and haven't had much time or energy for more than a basic level of cleaning and tidying, so it looks extremely lived in :o

Howstricks! What an inspiration you are!

to line you up in my cross-hairs whist you sit still...

Howstricks address and directions to yours?