to think that if you turn up to someone's house with no warning you can bloody well put up with whatever their house looks like?

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FIL and SIL were in town shopping earlier so popped in to say hi on their way past as we've just moved to a new house and FIL wanted to see how DD was getting on at school as he's not seen her since she started, which is fine, I like FIL but SIL has really pissed me off.

She spent the whole time commenting on things like my uni books being open on the table, washing hanging on the clothes horse in the kitchen, toys on DDs bedroom floor (which DD had been playing with when they knocked) and boxes in the corner of the dining room and worst of all the dog being in the living room when she came in! (she doesn't like dogs).

If i'd been expecting her then I would of tidied up, made sure the washing was dry and put away and put the dog in the dining room but surely if you turn up unexpectedly then you know there is likely to be the odd sign of people living there/half finished housework? or is everyone elses house completely spotless and ready for visitors 100% of the time?

What do you mean by 'comments'?

Did you point this out to her?

She is an idiot.

YANBU! She is clearly a twat!

Did you tell her to wind her neck in?

Even if they were invited, it's pretty rude to comment and hint of untidiness....

To do so when uninvited, rude and weird.

What did you say to her?

She can help you tidy up then if she's that bothered.

heck even when i'm expecting people it is often a 'take as you find us' situation!! homes are for living in, not for showing off!

I have a great cushion hung up in my house which says 'excuse the mess, my children are making happy memories' - seems like a good philosophy to me!! (within reason!)

YANBU

How rude to comment.

By comments - to DD 'you need to tidy your room, look at this mess'
to me 'oh i can't stand things being left on my dining table' 'He's bigger than mum's dog, cant you keep him in a different room?' 'doesn't it annoy you having clothes in the kitchen?' 'when I have kids I'm going to teach them to tidy up after themselves'

FIL told her that if she didn't like it she knows where the door is and is welcome to piss off (I do love him) so I just said 'you do know when you have kids I will remind you of all this, don't you?' and left FIL to explain to her what a twat she is.

Your SIL is an arse, but your FIL sounds like a hero!

Typical that she doesn't have kids but knows everything.

Tell her to hurry up and reproduce while she is still the authority on child rearing and housekeeping.

I like the sound of your FIL!
It sounds as if, between the two of you, you had it covered!

Love the, 'when I have kids, I'm going to teach them to tidy up' comment! That's my favourite.

Soppy bitch!

Your house sounds like mine does after I have tidied up for visitors

I love the cushion . She sounds incredibly rude but FIL sounds lovely so just let him deal with the necky cow.

What a mean spirit. This is an active house being lived in. Tell her if you'd have know they were coming of course you'd have tidied up. She could have offered to help you. I still have unopened boxes in the garage from moving 2 years ago its a slow process and not helped by her ignorance.

You should get a sign on your wall like mine, it says:

"My house was clean last week, sorry you missed it"

Next time say "I've been concentrating on teaching them good manners..."

That hardly sounds like a mess, are you all supposed to sit round and not do anything for fear of unexpected guest?

I would be tempted to call on her uninvited but if she has no kids maybe her home is always pristine.

doesnt even sound v messy
to me

lol blue nice one

I'm liking FIL.

Please do remind her when she has children.

YANBU.

Thanks White