Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to sit on the sofa all day with dd?

60 replies

PeriodFeatures · 28/09/2013 15:45

dd1 is 18 days old, i am breastfeeding and when she isnt feeding she is asleep.

I have managed to get up, get dressed by eight, go out and shop chores etc in between feeds and cuddles and the nice stuff.

the past 2 days dd has wanted to be cuddled and fed constantly and doesnt want to be put down and gets a bit fussy on my boobs...

I feel a bit out of control....

I also cant be bothered to move unless i need the loo or nappy needs changing.

I feel slovenly..but its o.k isnt it just to sit here with her curled up on me, eat ice cream and one finger type on mn and kiss her head? will she ever be put down again?

should i be doing something?
..

OP posts:
HoneyDragon · 28/09/2013 15:47

Stay on the sofa and sniff her, you lucky thing Envy

peppinagiro · 28/09/2013 15:51

I've been lying in bed bfeeding and dozing with my 12 week old DD since midday :-/ i have a bag of percy pig sweets and MN as sustenance. I call it a successful afternoon's work :)

BitchyRestingFace · 28/09/2013 15:53

YADNBU. You're doing everything you should be. Enjoy it (and her).

AgentZigzag · 28/09/2013 15:55

Boot that control out of the door, and just revel in your gorgeous, cuddly, tiny toed baby Envy

purplewithred · 28/09/2013 15:56

Ooh I'm well jealous. You are Doing It Right.

Chusband · 28/09/2013 15:57

Wish I'd done more of this when mine were newborns!

mumof2aimingfor4 · 28/09/2013 15:58

Totally not unreasonable, enjoy every second, they are precious. I go to the point of taking a pot of tea and a pint of milk to the little table by my sofa so there's less reason to move!

NameyMcChanger · 28/09/2013 15:58

I have a smelly 12 year old who's just scoffed my packet of party rings if you want to swap ??

SecretWitch · 28/09/2013 16:02

From the sounds of it, you have done far too much. You need to slow down Woman! Please take one tiny nibble from one of her toes for me..

Donkeyok · 28/09/2013 16:04

Haha Namey. When I had my first dd I was trying to make romantic meals and Deliah's cakes for when my dh came home. I didn't realise I had PND and was in denial that my life had changed. 'Slovenly' is not the right word sensible and wonderfully lucky. My ds says get off when I go in for a cuddle. Get as many as possible in now. Remember when you see other young mums out and about it might be the first time that week. No to guilt, nasty emotion no place for the sleep deprived nurturing mum. Enjoy Smile

WineIsMyMainVice · 28/09/2013 16:12

You are definitely doing everything right! Stay where you are and keep up those cuddles! I am impressed that you've even left the house to be honest!! Just enjoy this time and good luck with everything.

Daphneisazombie · 28/09/2013 16:13

Enjoy. I did exactly that with my dd. In fact we're still snuggled on the sofa now- although she's 2.5 and scoffing chips!

Sammie101 · 28/09/2013 16:22

I have so much housework and stuff I need to do in my days but I put it all off just so I can snuggle my DD on the settee! She's here with me now, just fallen asleep Smile

mrscog · 28/09/2013 16:24

YADNBU! What you've done today was all I did for three weeks. The 'slobbing' is essential for recovery from labour.

MinesAPintOfTea · 28/09/2013 16:28

You are not slovenly, you are feeding and providing reassurance to your beloved DD. DS won't sit still for more than 2 minutes to cuddle now unless he's getting fed. Enjoy, she will be up and off and independent in no time.

You maybe need a pack of biscuits and a water bottle, but the sofa is where you should be.

Sure there was a study somewhere that showed children who are cuddled more are less clingy.

MinesAPintOfTea · 28/09/2013 16:29
  • Oh and I stayed there for the best part of 6 months. DH would come home from work to find me MNing whilst DS slept on my shoulder. You can go out to a group/the shops, but for most of the day he was in my arms on the sofa. It was lovely.
Original poster
PeriodFeatures · 28/09/2013 16:50

God, it's so hard to change?! This is the first day since about day four that I havent done any chores or gone out anywhere.

dh back to work soon.

I was trying to make romantic meals and Deliah's cakes for when my dh came home

I can see myself doing this too ^^

It'll be ok...

thanks for reassuring.

I went to a group last week and the mums were Shock that i'd gone out.

OP posts:
mrsjay · 28/09/2013 16:53

Grin @sniffing the baby

stay put your baby is so little for a very short time enjoy her and do what you feel you should your instincts is telling you to sit and sniff hug the baby

Amy106 · 28/09/2013 17:00

Relax and enjoy your baby. You are exactly where you should be right now. Smile

ThePerfectFather · 28/09/2013 17:03

I can't believe this even needs to be asked!

mrsjay · 28/09/2013 17:06

when i had my first baby nearly 21 years ago i did this with her my mum and others said i was being lazy i should be doing the washing ironing blah blah meh i didnt listen to them

nickelbabe · 28/09/2013 17:07

YANBU!!!
Of course!!

what a lovely thing to do all day Grin

nickelbabe · 28/09/2013 17:08

PS however, YABU to be doimg chores with an 18day old.

that's not your job anymore. your job is feeding, eating, sitting and staring at the baby, repeat (maybe go to the toilet) forever

TrinityRhino · 28/09/2013 17:12

omg why did you even get dressed woman!!

seriously, enjoy, they are so small and so 'not able to talk back' for such a short time

please sniff head and nibble toes for me Grin

TrinityRhino · 28/09/2013 17:13

sniffing baby head is just wonderful

Swipe left for the next trending thread