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to sit on the sofa all day with dd?

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PeriodFeatures · 28/09/2013 15:45

dd1 is 18 days old, i am breastfeeding and when she isnt feeding she is asleep.

I have managed to get up, get dressed by eight, go out and shop chores etc in between feeds and cuddles and the nice stuff.

the past 2 days dd has wanted to be cuddled and fed constantly and doesnt want to be put down and gets a bit fussy on my boobs...

I feel a bit out of control....

I also cant be bothered to move unless i need the loo or nappy needs changing.

I feel slovenly..but its o.k isnt it just to sit here with her curled up on me, eat ice cream and one finger type on mn and kiss her head? will she ever be put down again?

should i be doing something?
..

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chocoluvva · 28/09/2013 17:13

According to my mum, when she was born the new mum wasn't expected to do anything except feed the baby for three weeks. She was mostly in bed. Another woman - sister, mother, neighbour; whoever was on hand 'ran' the house and changed the baby's nappies.

This was in a poor, rural community by the way. She didn't have house staff!

Rachel778 · 28/09/2013 17:13

No YANBU ..

They grow so fast so you do what you are doing , :)

KFFOREVER · 28/09/2013 17:14

Dont move from that sofa. Enjoy every minute with your beautiful newborn.

valiumredhead · 28/09/2013 17:25

That's what you are meant to do!Smile

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PeriodFeatures · 28/09/2013 19:05

According to my mum, when she was born the new mum wasn't expected to do anything except feed the baby for three weeks. She was mostly in bed. Another woman - sister, mother, neighbour; whoever was on hand 'ran' the house and changed the baby's nappies

My mum said this too!!

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Meglet · 28/09/2013 19:08

yanbu.

BF with a newborn is the only time in my life I have tolerated sitting down. Telly, snacks, pj's and peace is what you need.

HopeClearwater · 28/09/2013 19:11

Treasure this time! And what chocoluvva said. It's the only time you can do it.

FortyFacedFuckers · 28/09/2013 19:19

I am so jealous enjoy every minute of this lovely precious time.

Silvercatowner · 28/09/2013 19:23

Mine are 26 and 24 and I can't sniff them any more. It's be a bit weird. Honestly, enjoy it. It doesn't last long and it will NEVER happen again.

Melonbreath · 28/09/2013 19:28

Wow. You made it to the sofa, I'm seriously impressed. I stayed in bed propped up with pillows just feeding, sniffing and dozing

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PeriodFeatures · 28/09/2013 19:34

god, i feel really bad now that ive been doing things,,,,i hope she hasnt felt ignored :(

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PeriodFeatures · 28/09/2013 19:36

and i feel bad for feeling frustrated today

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WandaDoff · 28/09/2013 19:37

Oh I wish I could have a few of the newborn days back with my babies. Envy

Enjoy every moment you can, because it doesn't last for long.

Impatientwino · 28/09/2013 19:38

Aah enjoy chilling with your newborn - it goes so quickly! Reading your post makes me want another baby!

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dingit · 28/09/2013 19:40

I still sniff my Ds. He's 12. Admittedly it's not aways that nice! Treasure every moment.

mrscog · 28/09/2013 19:47

Of course she won't have felt ignored! You sound like you're doing a great job, but we're just making sure you enjoy the 'relaxing' time too (esp as it's a DC1 - I don't think it can possibly be the same with a DC2). FWIW I probably didn't get out and about enough after DS was through the tiny stage and once the newborn phase was over spent many lonely days just sitting around at home.

WilsonFrickett · 28/09/2013 19:57

Now, now, no need at all to feel guilty for doing things. Some days you will want to go out and about, some days you will want to stay home and not move, either is absolutely fine. I used to have a little station with a pint of water, the remote and my phone and just sit and sit and cuddle and feed and sit. Very happy times. But I also enjoyed popping out and making a big event out of going for a pint of milk and letting the old ladies cluck over DS undoubted beauty

You stay on that couch for as long as you like.

DoJo · 28/09/2013 20:05

Wow - I couldn't even sit that soon after mine was born so we lay in bed and my husband brought sustenance to us and then joined us most of the time! Providing food for another human is a good enough achievement for a day - let yourself enjoy the snuggly time without feeling as though there is more to be done as in years to come you won't remember making umpteen dinners but you will remember staring at your baby, taking a million near-identical photos of her asleep and being continually amazed at having produced an actual baby!

milkingmachine1 · 28/09/2013 20:21

Enjoy every second of it. It is such a precious time.

LovesBeingOnHoliday · 28/09/2013 20:24
Envy If fact don't even go downstairs stay in bed
chocolatemartini · 28/09/2013 20:42

Yanbu. Enjoy!!! My nearly 2 yo never wants sofa snuggles any more Sad

HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs · 28/09/2013 20:53

My DS is only four months old and I'm already missing the 'spend all day on the sofa feeding' stage!! Make the most of it!

Heath27 · 28/09/2013 20:59

No YANBU, those are the best ever times. DH, me and DD9 DD4 are having a sofa, film, buffet food day tomorrow. Cant wait Grin

BuntyCollocks · 28/09/2013 21:19

Psh. YANBU. I still do this and mine is 9 months today.

HamwidgeAlive · 28/09/2013 21:39

My 2yo doesn't really want snuggles any more, enjoy this bit!