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Kissing goodbye at school

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OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:22

AIBU to think it's not on to make your child give you a kiss goodbye before going into school when they clearly don't want to?

My ds 6 doesn't want to and I wouldn't dream of making him.

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BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 26/09/2013 10:26

Call SS

tywysogesgymraeg · 26/09/2013 10:26

If it embarrassed them, I absolutely would! That's the job of a parent isn't it? Embarrassing your children that is
Grin

Bowlersarm · 26/09/2013 10:27

Depends on the age to a certain extent, but I don't actually think it's a problem.

Yorkieaddict · 26/09/2013 10:28

YANBU, but I will be gutted when DS decides he doesn't want me to kiss him goodbye at school. He is 6, and thankfully quite happy so far!

YoureBeingADick · 26/09/2013 10:29

Yabu! Thats the most fun i have until pick up time. He loves the headlock kisses really Wink

mrsmindcontrol · 26/09/2013 10:30

Did you see me forcing my DS1 aged 7 to kiss me this morning while he screamed GET OFF ME!!! at the top of his voice?
He loves it really *

  • he doesn't. But I think it's funny.
DaleyBump · 26/09/2013 10:32
Biscuit
Original poster
OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:32

The boy was 10 and his dad called him back to kiss him. He so didn't want to.

My dad used to regularly embarrass me and i will try not to do it to my kids.

The call SS comment was a bit silly.

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phantomhairpuller · 26/09/2013 10:34

And it's your business why?!

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OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:35

Thanks for my first biscuit.

I just think its hard enough at school to make friends and fit in. Why would you want to do that to your child when all their class can see.

Not a major problem in the scheme of things I suppose.

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Original poster
OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:36

Not my business and would never say anything but I don't go around with my eyes shut.

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IneedAyoniNickname · 26/09/2013 10:36

My 9 year old year 4 ds would hate it if I didn't kiss him. Most of his peers would hate it!
I'd stop if he didn't like it but I'm glad he does :)

thesnowmanrocks · 26/09/2013 10:36

Smile it's the law, kiss goodbye at school gates. My ds5 still loves it, and as i do and always will he will always be getting a kiss goodbye from me. No matter if he wants it or not. Smile

Sparklysilversequins · 26/09/2013 10:36

Me and dd say goodbye like we are in a rom com, huge hugs and loads of kisses. I will be gutted when she stops wanting to. I wouldn't force her to, no but I think that when they're grown up kids will remember the love and kisses themselves not that they were embarrassed by them.

YoureBeingADick · 26/09/2013 10:37

Yeah my dad did it too- its a rite of passage- happens to us all- its really NOT a big deal. My sons knows its a bit of fun. We do fun in this house. Give it a whirl. You might like it. Wink

TravelinColour · 26/09/2013 10:37

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Tailtwister · 26/09/2013 10:40

Personally I wouldn't force them if they didn't want to. DS1 is fine with a hug and a kiss atm, but he's only 5. As he gets older I suspect he'll change.

Tailtwister · 26/09/2013 10:41

I agree TravelinColour.

mrsfuzzy · 26/09/2013 10:46

my 12 y ds and i like to lark about, before he goes out the door to school we do very theatrical air kisses along with 'see you later darrllling!!" silly,but fun! but i do agree with travelincolour, it's got to be acceptable to both parties.

Original poster
OneToThree · 26/09/2013 10:47

I don't make mine kiss their grandparents goodbye either. I always ask them if they want to.

They do if they do, don't if they don't. No issue with either.

I kiss and cuddle my dcs all the time but only when they want me to.

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Nancy66 · 26/09/2013 10:48

I'm not even allowed to wave at my son any more. That's embarrassing as well apparently.

Tee2072 · 26/09/2013 10:49

Nothing more important than teaching a child that their body is their own.

YANBU

Dobbiesmum · 26/09/2013 10:54

Agree with Tee and Travellin. DS stopped kissing me goodbye ages ago, he now pats me on the head and calls me 'little mum' when his friends call for him in the morning. He's 12 and taller than me My revenge will be sweet...

PeppermintPasty · 26/09/2013 10:59

My ds is six, and I am lucky (to go by what other mothers of 6 yo boys tell me) in that he really is the most cuddly boy, always has been.

In the last year or so, he has been less keen to hold my hand when we're out and I would never force him, nor would I kiss him by force at this age I probably will later ie at 14 when it's super-embarrassing.

What I tend to do when no one else is about is say to him, in a conspiratiorial fashion, "let's hold hands while nobody's looking!". He falls for it loves it and I get my craved contact, needy mother that I am.

sonlypuppyfat · 26/09/2013 11:00

My DS is 14 and kisses me and tells me he loves me even over the phone when he's with his mates.