Kissing goodbye at school

[OneToThree]

AIBU to think it's not on to make your child give you a kiss goodbye before going into school when they clearly don't want to?

My ds 6 doesn't want to and I wouldn't dream of making him.

[PeppermintPasty]

spelling fail

[PeppermintPasty]

-my own I meant!

[onadietcokebreak]

What TEE said.

This is an interesting article although not the one I was searching for.

edition.cnn.com/2012/06/20/living/give-grandma-hug-child/index.html

[mrsbingle]

Hell yes. I smother my son in kisses. He gets the giggles.

[OneToThree]

Good article onadietcoke

[Lweji]

It's our job as parents to be embarrassing.

If he doesn't want a kiss, at least some form of physical contact is mandatory.

[notanyanymore]

Ha! I called 'see you later snugglebum' across the playground to DD the other day, LOVED IT!!

[ExcuseTypos]

YANBU. If someone doesn't want to kiss you, then you should respect that.

I have DDs at uni and we still kiss and hug when saying hello and goodbye. However, having a nephew who positively winces if any adult looks likely to kiss him, I know to stay well away. A threat of a kiss is a very good way to make him behave

[Thisisaeuphemism]

I agree- the freedom to kiss or not is important to me!

[Sianilaa]

Both my boys would be very upset if I didn't kiss them goodbye every morning. But then, they are only Reception and Yr1 age so plenty of time for that to change.

Though I plan on doing it forever :D

[Madamecastafiore]

I normally do kiss DS (nearly 9) goodbye each morning but today he was standing with a boy who is a ultra competitive little brat and you could see DS was squirming bless him - he did the eyebrow raise when I went in for a kiss so just gave him a little squeeze. The relief was palpable by the look on his face.

[edam]

My ds is 10 and still happy for me to kiss him in public. Thankfully. I keep thinking he'l get embarrassed and make me stop sometime soon but so far he's OK.

[Thisisaeuphemism]

You kissing them is different from making them kiss you.

[onadietcokebreak]

I now refuse to make my children kiss or hug anyone. Shame my mother just doesn't get it.

[SugarHut]

DS is 5. And majorly influenced by DP's 16yr old DS. DS is therefore 5, and in his own eyes James Dean cool.

Nothing gives me greater pleasure than hearing the school bell, seeing him glance up with the look of crap, where is she?.... and watch him try and sneak in to the school unobserved.

I ALWAYS observe In swoops moi, usually alarmingly fast from behind. Me: "Bye bye darling!!!!" (bear hug from behind) DS: "Mum. Get OFF." (through gritted teeth, cross face) Me: "Of course Mummy will give you a kiss!!" (loud enough for the whole playground to hear, clamp DS between knees and headlock) DS: "Mum, Getttttoofffffffffff!!!!!" (trying to look cool, now laughing like a chimp) Me: "Mwah! Mwah! Mwah!" (Miss Piggy style, all over DS face)

Then without fail whisper in his ear "Always remember...." and he replies (rolling eyes) "Mummy loves you" I do this every time I leave him.

DS is then released. He pretends he hates it Actually, I see his little buds watching his face as he creases up during the Miss Piggy onslaught, and they are half laughing, half wishing they could join in with their mummys.

[Jellybeanz1]

Awwh Sugar do you leave Chanel lippy on his cheek?

[SugarHut]

I wish...it's the school run...I'm more likely to leave him with a questionable looking brown smear across his face because I've driven there munching nutella on toast

[OneToThree]

I still think its quite selfish to do it when the child doesn't want it.

My ds was happy for me to kiss him goodbye in reception but not after that.
I always say bye, love you, have a nice day. He's fine with that and if he is then I am too.

[cocoplops]

Luckily mine still do at 5 and 8. I wouldn't if they don't want it. My MIL dropped my 5yo off and she was miffed that he wouldn't kiss her on the lips, only the cheek!

[QueenofallIsee]

My 8 yr olds don't and my 15 yr old is getting to what I call the 'luvvie' stage i.e. she has gone full circle since being little and now hugs and kisses on cheek as a greeting to anyone and everyone

Littlest boy (6) will whisper - quick kiss Mum now, after checking no one is watching.

[lisylisylou]

At end of school yesterday in the playground I let out a little scream yesterday! My kids come running out and up so fast that I thought dd (7) was going to headbutt me in the stomach! She's like a little battering ram lol. Then my ds (9) comes out running up, he hugs me and then lifts his feet off the floor so he's dangling like a chimpanzee. Then the coats and bags get flung at me and they run back off into the playground to play tig!! The parents just stare and laugh now!!

[womma]

I make sure DD goes into class with a big lipstick kiss on her cheek every day. It's my motherly duty.

[grabaspoon]

Sometimes my charge 5.11 wants hugs, kisses the whole shebang other times he does a little wave and skips off without any interaction :( Why do they grow up :(

[Jinty64]

Dh took ds2's (16) hand to cross the road recently. To make it worse they were right outside the school gates. Ds will only take a lift to school from me now!