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Irrationally annoyed by a Facebook post

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irritatedgrumpyarse · 19/09/2013 18:31

Namechanged as this one definitely has the potential to out me.

Friend on Facebook posted this today - why on earth is is irritating me so much? If it had been written by an observer of the event I would get it.... but to write this sort of gushing crap about yourself I find, simply, weird.

Had an eventful start to the day, heading home from dropping DD in school I noticed a large group of children and a girl on the floor, I pulled over to find out what had happened as other adults turned up, we sent the group of children to school to get a teacher one adult rang her mum and an ambulance (as she had banged her head and hurt her arm).

I went into first aider mode, we got coats and blankets from some of the neighbours, a big umbrella from ours and I took my help for Hero's hoody off and gently placed it under her head and injured hand. (That's community spirit when you need it) :)

The girl was visibly distressed so kneeling in a puddle I calmed her by getting her to concentrate on slowing her breathing and spoke calmly and stroked the side of her forehead, she calmed down, the Paramedics eventually arrived and whisked her off to hospital.

Hope the girl is OK and on the mend soon, now for me it is back to the normality of everyday life, according to DS though I am a hero (he saw me looking after her as he got on the bus :)

A lovely thing to do, wasn't it? If that was one of my DC I'd be relieved and grateful that someone had stopped and taken care of them.

It's the way it's written I think, so bloody humble and worthy. Was there any need for telling the world your hoodie is a Help for Heroes one? Kneeling in a puddle? Seriously?!!

I know IAprobablyBU, it's Facebook, yada yada. But it keeps appearing in my feed and really annoying me. Seriously thinking about blocking her to stop it! She's a really nice girl usually. Am I being awful?

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JohnSnowsTie · 19/09/2013 22:20

Part of the reason I came off Facebook was because of someone like this. It did our relationship a favour for a while as I wasn't reading her attention/validation seeking updates and therefore I had nothing to get irrationally irritated by...

But once she cottoned on to the fact that I was no longer part of her adoring audience, she started EMAILING me her updates!!! So every so often I get an email titled "My Facebook Status - for those not on Facebook".

Gee, thanks. The really is no escape.

pictish · 19/09/2013 22:22

"My Facebook Status - for those not on Facebook".

Good grief! Really? That is hardcore.

makemineamalibuandpineapple · 19/09/2013 22:27

We could make a MN name for it, I'm thinking hagging for humble bragging btw YANBU these sorts of posts make me irrationally angry too. Also the ones that go into the minutest detail of what they have been doing for about 15 lines. They are the sort of people who post up to six times a day. Yes, I am looking at you sister's friend!!

JohnSnowsTie · 19/09/2013 22:28

She is hardcore, when it comes to keeping the world up to date with the minutiae of her life.

Gossipmonster · 19/09/2013 22:31

Last year I was on my way to work and I came across an upturned car in the middle of the road with a lady trapped inside

I stopped my car and smashed the window and helped the elderly lady trapped inside out. Her arm was clearly broken in half (the bones were sticking out) so I put her in the recovery position, stopped the blood from her arm and covered her in a (oily) blanket from my car until the ambulance came. While we waited I phoned her husband and chatted and kept her calm and he arrived as the ambulance did.

I then disappeared and went to work.

I have never told anyone that before now other than my partner.

Surely it's just what you do? As a fellow human being?

SPBisResisting · 19/09/2013 22:32

I am crying laughing at the age uk bloomers and "get off the cross love".
In fact I'm starting to feel a little faint...

ThisIsMyRealName · 19/09/2013 22:32

mysticminstrel - hilarious!

Reminded me of many years ago, when I called an ambulance for a man who had passed out in the street and was bleeding from a gash in his arm. Everyone else was just walking past but I thought I should do 'The Right Thing'
When the paramedics managed to wake him, he said "Get the fuck out of his house, intefering cunts...." He then threw up over the paramedics shoes.

I didn't put that particular good deed on facebook. facebook didn't exist

SPBisResisting · 19/09/2013 22:35

Im wearing m and s knickers in case anyone needs the detail for their subsequent update

Kamchatka · 19/09/2013 22:37

I had one this year that read "I am disappearing off for a nice holiday, but thinking of all those who will never be able to go on holiday and thinking how lucky I am."

Hope you had a nice time love

pictish · 19/09/2013 22:38

I have a male version of this too. Shaved his head for charity, and is now making a big deal about how having a shaved head makes him look tough...like a convict, and how people are avoiding him in the street now cos he looks so mean ha ha ha. With accompanying moody profile pictures from every angle of course.
Well I see him every day, and he doesn't look mean or tough - he looks fine. No one would avoid him in the street.

Today, the shaved head has given him the confidence to intercept a row between a couple on the bus, and put the bloke right about how to treat a woman. I wonder what adventures his shaved head will bring tomorrow?

StElmo · 19/09/2013 22:38

YABU she is quite clearly, Jesus. Bow down

Kamchatka · 19/09/2013 22:39

Big snort at shaven headed dude.
He is very bored with life

Gossipmonster · 19/09/2013 22:40

Please someone use the "get off the cross" comment

festered · 19/09/2013 22:41

Nope, I get exactly what you mean!If that was me I would have possibly put a status but probably something like 'Had to help a little girl today, hope she's okay'!

Her post just glorifies herself. Not cool!

Loopytiles · 19/09/2013 22:42

"My Facebook Status - for those not on Facebook"

rockybalboa · 19/09/2013 22:46

Her actual action was good. Writing about it on FB in lengthy gushy 'aren't I amazing' fashion is just vomit inducing. YANBU. But then I get unreasonably irritated by massive status updates anyway. Some people use their status updates as a very dull blog. FB is for irreverent crap such as commenting on Bezza's fancy jacket on GBBO or expressing annoyance at having stepped on yet another piece of bastard Lego. Essay style updates should be banned along with anything needy and attention like "I'm so cross/upset/insert other emotion which is not expanded upon and requires attention seeking poster to be asked probing questions in response. Grrrrrrr.

Lilacroses · 19/09/2013 22:47

I would find that completely nauseating. People do good deeds like this all the time and don't feel the need to brag like that. I enjoy catching up with friends and family who live in other parts of the world/country but things like this and the attention seeking ones like "fed up" or even worse "now I know who my real friends are....."

bashifuku · 19/09/2013 22:57

Wow, she sounds like such a hero - she would've got wet knees from the puddle and all. I hope her hoody's ok.

I love the idea of emailing round a FB status to non FB people.

Dear Uncle Steve: I've just had a lovely dinner consisting of steak, chips and peas. Please see attached picture of dinner. Am now off for a bath and some telly.

pictish · 19/09/2013 22:57

bash

JohnSnowsTie · 19/09/2013 23:02

Fortunately she tends not to send the one-liners - but the essays take a significant chunk of time to read! (I don't.)

cg13 · 19/09/2013 23:08

She sounds like some type of superhero......now back the normality of daily life now that I've taken off my superhero cape and mask.

I can only assume she has low self-esteem and is trying to pump herself up.

Thepursuitofhappiness · 19/09/2013 23:11

Can you reply with an uber sarcastic response? She sounds so full of herself she wouldn't even realise it was sarcastic.

Such as...

'Wow! You're a hero! I see a nomination for Iceland Mum of the Year coming on!'

bashifuku · 19/09/2013 23:19

Reply saying "Gosh, I would usually just walk past a person lying injured on the ground, thanks for reminding us that even the most ordinary person can be a 'hero'".

elcranko · 19/09/2013 23:51

I love how she pointed out that her hoodie was a help for heroes one! What relevance did that have to the story?!

WafflyVersatile · 20/09/2013 00:01

She did a nice thing. Well done on her for keeping her cool and helping. And I would post on facebook about it too if I'd been her. I agree with the poster who said you need to talk about these things sometimes. And why shouldn't you tell your mates and be proud when you've done a good thing?

However this status would annoy the fuck out of me too. It is very irritatingly worded and blatant compliment fishing. She needs a bit more practice if she wants to excel at humble bragging.

'oooh you are a hero, don't be so modest' was obviously being called for.

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