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Irrationally annoyed by a Facebook post

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irritatedgrumpyarse · 19/09/2013 18:31

Namechanged as this one definitely has the potential to out me.

Friend on Facebook posted this today - why on earth is is irritating me so much? If it had been written by an observer of the event I would get it.... but to write this sort of gushing crap about yourself I find, simply, weird.

Had an eventful start to the day, heading home from dropping DD in school I noticed a large group of children and a girl on the floor, I pulled over to find out what had happened as other adults turned up, we sent the group of children to school to get a teacher one adult rang her mum and an ambulance (as she had banged her head and hurt her arm).

I went into first aider mode, we got coats and blankets from some of the neighbours, a big umbrella from ours and I took my help for Hero's hoody off and gently placed it under her head and injured hand. (That's community spirit when you need it) :)

The girl was visibly distressed so kneeling in a puddle I calmed her by getting her to concentrate on slowing her breathing and spoke calmly and stroked the side of her forehead, she calmed down, the Paramedics eventually arrived and whisked her off to hospital.

Hope the girl is OK and on the mend soon, now for me it is back to the normality of everyday life, according to DS though I am a hero (he saw me looking after her as he got on the bus :)

A lovely thing to do, wasn't it? If that was one of my DC I'd be relieved and grateful that someone had stopped and taken care of them.

It's the way it's written I think, so bloody humble and worthy. Was there any need for telling the world your hoodie is a Help for Heroes one? Kneeling in a puddle? Seriously?!!

I know IAprobablyBU, it's Facebook, yada yada. But it keeps appearing in my feed and really annoying me. Seriously thinking about blocking her to stop it! She's a really nice girl usually. Am I being awful?

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thebody · 19/09/2013 19:50

Grin zzzz, wonder if she really needed to call an ambulance for a banged head and arm. still she sounds caring if a pita.

zzzzz · 19/09/2013 19:56

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pictish · 19/09/2013 19:57

Oh yanbu, that status makes me puke as well. She just wants people to gush at her about how wonderful she is. Blerk!

dollybird · 19/09/2013 19:57

i thought it was a puddle of blood! Agree with you OP

InkleWinkle · 19/09/2013 20:01

My sister may have posted this. It sounds exactly like her.

Unfortunately I can't check as I unfriended her on Facebook for this very reason!

pictish · 19/09/2013 20:02

I like how she includes that she knelt in a puddle. 50 extra marvellous points for kneeling in a puddle I think.

And a Help for Heroes hoody? Look, she's clearly a charitable sort with no thought for herself in her willingness to come to the aid of the others. For the hoody alone, 100 marvellous points.

I bet she's one of those people who is always wearing a tubi grip somewhere. Don't ask me why I think that, I just do

AngusAndElspethsThistleWhistle · 19/09/2013 20:04

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goodasitgets · 19/09/2013 20:05

Most people would have posted something like
"Bloody woman fell over in front of me. Got pissed wet through, had to ring an ambulance and was late for work. Great"

thebody · 19/09/2013 20:05

Grin blue Peter badge! face book needs a vomit button. often thought this would be a good move.

pictish · 19/09/2013 20:07

Great tip to read it as Alan Partridge!! Grin
That has made me laugh right out loud!

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Kikibee · 19/09/2013 20:10

Brilliant, I wish I knew her just so that I could chortle Grin

JohnSnowsTie · 19/09/2013 20:11

I was always taught that if you do a good deed, bragging about it afterwards completely undermines it.

It's about the victim, not the Samaritan!

garlicbaguette · 19/09/2013 20:12

I know IAprobablyBU - You are, but I had to fight myself not to BU as well! I really dislike British self-deprecation. It's very damaging. But I am British, I do it to myself, and like a Brit I expect other people to do it to themselves. But I am wrong. It's very nice to be proud of what you did, and to tell people about it in a celebratory manner.

I kind of admire her for doing just that :) Plus, what someone else said about needing to 'frame' the experience in her own mind. She may have been feeling shaken, doubting whether she'd done all she could, that sort of thing. So the post may well have been therapeutic.

Xollob · 19/09/2013 20:12

You could post 'Oh what a shame about the puddle. My Great Aunt used to leak when she was in shock too' Grin

garlicbaguette · 19/09/2013 20:13

Had she implied she was an angel of mercy while everyone else stood around being useless, maybe she'd have been off-colour. But she didn't; she was nice about everybody.

garlicbaguette · 19/09/2013 20:14

Grin Xollob

SubliminalMassaging · 19/09/2013 20:17

YANBU at all - that would make me want to punch her. Lovely that she did it (but who wouldn't?) but horribly smug and self-satisfied to crow about it in such detail.

I have a friend on fb who writes the most bizarre longwinded nonsense which feel more like lectures from the pulpit than a status update, so I feel your pain.

RunDougalRunQuiteFast · 19/09/2013 20:19

Xollob - brilliant!

MistressDeeCee · 19/09/2013 20:36

She sounds lovely an' all, and she did what most would do. In fact she sounds like the kind of person who'd walk barefoot over hot coals & through raging forest fire to save someone else from harm. Its the padding out of the story and putting up on FB in a ' now I'll sit back and await my due adulation ' aspect that makes me roll eyes. I dont want to think too much about the puddle comment.! Maybe Im just too cynical Hmm

Beeyump · 19/09/2013 20:40

Oo, Subliminal, I'd love to see a sample of one of the sermons.

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ThisIsMyRealName · 19/09/2013 20:52

She is doing this facebook thing all wrong.

She should have posted something along the lines of: "Wow, what an eventful day!!! Thank goodness the ambulance arrived when it did!!!'

She then should have waited for at least an hour whilst people posted increasingly worried comments asking what happened and if she was ok.

After a suffecient number of comments, then, and only then, should she tell the story about the girl beig injured and her basically saving the day. (No need to menton the hoody just yet)

Finally, after around 10 comments (minimum) teling her hw brave she is and what a hero, she should ost something which appears modest but reinforces her matyr status
i.e. "Oh it was no big deal really, i'm just glad i was there to help. Only problem is my knees are killing me from kneeling in the puddle to help! Haha! Oh and my fave HFH hoody is ruined because I put it under her. I'll just buy a new one, at least i'm donating even more money to a good cause, Ha!"

She really needs to improve her fb attention seeking technique Wink

But in all seriousness i'm sure the young girl and her parents were very grateful for her help. And i think it's normal to want others to think you're a good person

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 19/09/2013 20:55

She did the right thing and I'd be thrilled if someone took care of my child so well in that situation but my god what a self rightous mare she is! the added details about the puddle (coulda been worse. coulda been dog poo) and the help for heros hoodie sound so... like she made it up or something or is writing an article for a trashy mag.

Hassled · 19/09/2013 20:58

ThisIsMyRealName :o. You've managed to summarise FB in a single post :o