I'm sure I am but it pisses me right off

[MrsWinklepicker]

My ILs do not have and have never had a dishwasher. I, on the other hand, would not be without mine. Whenever they come to stay, after having a cup of tea they will go and wash their own cups up, or their bowls after breakfast or whatever. It really gets on my tits. I have a cocking dishwasher, it's going to be turned on anyway to wash up my bowl which you haven't touched, so why wouldn't you just put your things in there. Or, better still, stay out of my kitchen.
aibu to feel a bit stabby?

sparkling mine too! Drives me insane. It's a half size one too!

My Mum claims that she can't fill it, yet will fill the sink full of filthy plates, leave them until it's full, then fill it with water and 'wash' the plates

Wait till they place items on draining board, then take them and put them in the dishwasher!!! Not passive aggressive at all me!

Oh yes def annoying. I think some people of a certain generation sometimes see washing up by hand as a noble activity and dishwashers as a bit of nonsense.

Not me

'Well there's only the two of us' they always say Confused. So? Just use the dishwasher or get it taken out and put a cupboard in that you will use!

They use it once a blue moon when they have visitors but all plates must be thoroughly rinsed, and there is much faff with the loading, and repositioning aplenty. I think they are a bit scared of it TBH.

Don't get me started on the cocking remote control gossipmonster, who on earth can possibly derive pleasure from watching football "live" on teletext (I know it's not called that any more but whatever)? There's 2 hours of my life I not getting back.

Can you tell who's been to stay this weekend...

'The Rinse' sends shivers down my spine. As much as I tell people to leave the mug/glass or pop it in the dishwasher, they insist on giving it a swill with cold water. LIKE THAT IS THE SAME AS IT BEING WASHED.

My mil calls it a 'washing up machine'

Yanbu. It's a bit smug of them I think... like "oh look we know you have a dishwasher but see you don't NEED one .. look we have washed our dishes ourselves!"

Argh.. I would be pissed off too.

I love my dishwasher :)

My in laws have a dishwasher which is only used on special occasions. They would much rather stand in the kitchen for up to an hour washing and drying by hand. Unfortunately it has rubbed off onto DH who annoyingly will wash our plates and cutlery by hand even though the dishwasher is already half-full of pans and cups. And he never switches it on so every morning I get up to a dishwasher half full of dirty dishes. So irritating

Only on MN could a MIL washing their own cup up be called smug.

This place is bonkers.

MrsWinklepicker I know - I would not dream of commandeering the remote in someone else's house

I hate dishwashers. I'd much rather just wash up as i go. Or get someone else to wash up their bits. If every cup, plate, pan and piece of cutlery that got used in our house during the day always got stashed away until the evening, waiting to be cleaned in the dishwasher, i swear there would be nothing left in the cupboards by 4.30!

I do have a dish washer. I have had it for 5 years. It was brand new when we moved in and i have never turned it on. I use it to store my cut glass and Denby

My ILs had a dishwasher before we did, the rules are that dirty plates and cups are left neatly on the worktop above the dishwasher ready to be loaded by whoever lives there, no one else touches the sacred dishwasher.

My ILs are great btw

I do this to my mum. I grew up with a dishwasher, cant remember a time my folks didnt have one.

But having lived out of home for 15 years, Ive never had one (hate them, they stink, make glass smell funny, and wear away the prints), but when Im at my parents I totally forget they have a dishwasher and automatically wash my stuff up.

My Mum does not like this. Oh no.

InSpace if you can wash 12 place settings plus pans in one washing up bowl of water, then fine. But I won't be coming to eat at your house if that's OK. My dishwasher uses 13 litres per cycle and we never put it on unless its crammed full.

My Father commandeers the remote control to watch the horse racing. He has his Racing Post on his knee and will borrow an iPad or laptop to have the updates from the other races on the table next to him! .

I would never dare be so rude in anybody else's house.

My MIL washes things up THEN puts them in the dishwasher. FFS. My life's too short for that shit!

I'd love it if someone washed up stuff....but then we don't have a dishwasher . However, what would (and does) piss me right off would be them washing their own stuff and leaving everything else.

On the other hand, my in laws actually do have a dishwasher, but mil (and therefore anyone helping clear up - her kitchen, her rules an' all) washes everything up before putting it in there....odd? Surely that's what the machine is actually for? Never understood that one....

FreeWee cross posts! I feel your pain....

I hatehatehate unloading dishwashers, which is why even if we had money or space for one I'd say no and buy a spinning wheel instead, much more useful

I'm so glad to hear that dishwasher rage is rife in the mn community

Oh, I'd drive all you lot up the wall

I have a dishwasher but only ever use it if I can fill it up and put it on straight away i.e. if we've had guests round and have used enough cooking utensils/crockery etc to fill it completely.

Other than that, we wash up by hand, dry everything up, put it away and wipe down draining board after every meal.

I know it sounds wierd but I could not do the DCs breakfast and just shove a few dirty plates and cups into the dishwater and then leave them to fester there till lunch....and then add more dirty lunch stuff and leave them in there to fester some more till dinner...yuck yuck yuck My whole kitchen would feel dirty. I'd hate it. I can't understand how anyone else can do it. When I'm at my parents the sight (and smell) of their half full dishwasher makes me feel quite sick...and it just gets left till it's full and just no no no! If I'm going to put anything in a dishwasher, the machine has to be switched on within half an hour of the first dirty dish going in. If that can't happen, then the dishwasher is left well alone!

(but still prefer to wash up by hand, it's quite therapeutic actually )

Dishwashers smell nasty

I LOVE my dishwasher but oh dear God it causes me problems. Well actually no, it's the other bloody people in my life that cause the problems. DH has a very specific anally retentive thing about exactly how the dishwasher must be stacked. Fine, whatever, if it makes him happy. However, he will then put a mixing bowl full of leftover gingerbread mix in the dishwasher without even scraping it out let alone rinsing it, causing all our mugs and breakfast bowls to have baked on gingerbread bits all over them which I then have to wash by hand! he does this every time he does baking with DS. Bastard.

The in laws refuse to use the thing. When they stay, they invariably get up from the dinner table and walk away without so much as stacking the plates. On the very rare occasion they do choose to help out they insist on washing up in the sink and do it so badly that it all has to be done again. It is almost as if they think the actual washing of the plates is what counts not whether or not they are clean afterwards. Mind you, their kitchen is fucking disgusting.

Obviously if you have a dishwasher that's runs an economy setting and you only run it full, then it's reasonably on a par in terms of water consumption. But I think ' I won't be coming to eat at your house' as though we who wash up by hand are dirty cows is a bit