I'm sure I am but it pisses me right off

[MrsWinklepicker]

My ILs do not have and have never had a dishwasher. I, on the other hand, would not be without mine. Whenever they come to stay, after having a cup of tea they will go and wash their own cups up, or their bowls after breakfast or whatever. It really gets on my tits. I have a cocking dishwasher, it's going to be turned on anyway to wash up my bowl which you haven't touched, so why wouldn't you just put your things in there. Or, better still, stay out of my kitchen.
aibu to feel a bit stabby?

I think you're being weird, but going by this thread it seems owning a dishwasher does that to a person. I wash up in the sink, I do the rinse, I also leave things to soak. In my own kitchen though.

YANBU, MIL does this and it drives me crazy.

But people who are not familiar with dishwashers are going to be reluctant to touch them. They don't know how it works. They don't know where the cups go and what goes in what rack. They don't know how to open the door.They don't know if what's already in there is waiting to be washed or is clean and needs to be unloaded. They don't know how full is too full.

to be fair - they are trying to be helpful! I think you are perhaps a touch U. Just a wee bit.

Would you run a dishwasher with just a few things in it then?

Chusband you are so right. There is a dishwasher at work, I don't go anywhere near it. Wash my own mug and stay well away from it.

My ILs have a dishwasher, know that we have a dishwasher, and still do this anyway. Have a cup of tea, wash the cup. Cup gets left on draining board. Me or DH come along to load the dishwasher and are so used to just gathering up anything left around the sink area that clan cup gets put in anyway. Waste of water and washing up liquid really.

^ Clean cup. We don't have a clan cup.

I know it'd be easier, but I, personally, have a problem with dishwashers.. I prefer doing things by hand.

My ILs do this too, I don't know why it makes me grit my teeth and mumble under my breath, but it does -- drives me crackers !!

My ILs have a dishwasher (we don't) but rinse everything before it goes in, and then run it on a rinse cycle before adding any glass wear and then finally putting the damn thing on.

TBH you could wash, dry an put away in less time.

Apparently this is all essential otherwise the glasses go "milky" this was blamed on BIL until recently for drinking milk in glasses, but the blame has now shifted to the dishwasher.

I'm convinced they don't actually know how to use it properly, but I know better than to get involved.

My ILs and my mum do this. Its just their generation I think. Like someone above said, if this is your only gripe about your ILs then you are very lucky indeed.

I got used to a dishwasher then moved back home when my parents did not have one. I chucked my cup under the sink a couple of times. Just shows what habits can do to you.

MIL does this too, bless her, we just take the things she's rinsed off the drainer and pop them in the dishwasher, its a bit annoying but not worth the stress.

I do this at my il. They have a dishwasher we don't. I'm trying to help so I do the washing up. I'm probably making mil stabby in the process.

At least they fecking wash up! I have people come who leave their dirty crockery in the sink

YANBU

We have a draining board. Since the dawn of time, it has been used to ALLOW CLEAN STUFF TO DRAIN. So why do my ILs insist on putting their dirty cups and spoons on it, rather than on the other side of the sink where stuff gets piled up before it goes in the dishwasher. Sometimes they even move some clean, draining stuff out of the way to do this. I don't get it - do they not see it? Do they see it but feel their way is so much more right?

Why would you wash them again?

my mum has a dishwasher but she insists on soaking everything in the washing up bowl first. It has backfired on her though, as it annoys my sister and I so much that we now don't bother helping clear up after a meal.
Wow, just typing that makes me feel stabby.

DH puts things in the sink, when the dishwasher is on. Why? Put them on top of the dishwasher ready to go in it, therefore not getting the stuff wet and causing extra bending/carrying of/for the dishwasher-filler

Really? They are just trying to help surely? I think your overreacting

You lot are mad!!! Dishwashers use 10 times as much water, electricity, loads of detergent, salt and god knows what. What's wrong with washing up by hand??

Bull shit. Use google. They actually use less water and power.

I would do this - because I don't have a dishwasher and so am not used to them (I dislike them with a passion) I wouldn't do it to piss you off - I'd think I was being hepful

I think having a dishwasher does something strange to your brain. Everyone I know who owns one is weirdly anal about it- must be stacked a certain way, can't let anyone else do it, etc etc. Wheras I don't have one, and feel very relaxed about washing up. I don't like doing any, but hey.

Less water than one bowl of washing up water and less detergent than one squirt of fairy? How's that then? I got a water board leaflet the other day which says a normal dishwasher load uses 35 litres of water, and a washing up bowl is 8 litres