to be upset that no-one has really cared about my youngest starting school?

[CinnamonAddict]

My 4 yo has started school last week. All our relatives (except one) live abroad, where a huge fuss is being made of school starters (party for relatives, special cake etc).

We didn't hear from anyone, both grandmas, uncles, aunt, no one called or send a card, nothing.

At first I thought ok, they may have send a card but it's not here yet, but it's a week now so I can assume they have either forgotten (in the 3 weeks since we have seen them during the holidays) or don't care.

AIBU to feel quite sad about that?

Children start school all the time - does it really elicit a big fuss from anyone except the parents?

Sorry but YABU

Your child won't really care if overseas relatives have made a fuss of their first day of school or not. Of course, it is lovely that the family around him make a fuss but more than that is of little concern to a four year old.

I nearly forgot to collect my 3rd DD from school after her first day at school . Not my best bit of parenting.

Awww, cinnamon, I wondered whether you were from Germany. I think a Schultüte should be mandatory, and when we have kids and they start school I am going to make their grandma buy them one

It's a shame you didn't even get a phone call from them to see how the first day went!

I could list a few of the customs that make us forriners about the British but we're usually polite enough not to comment on.

Seeing as it's open season to mock other cultures customs....

Just had a quick Google and the Schultüte tradition seems really lovely. As it's a big event in your family's culture, it must have been very hurtful that your relatives didn't acknowledge it, especially as they marked it with your older children.