Friend of DH arriving on a Sunday at 7.34am

[Fairy1303]

My DH is a nice person. (read, mug.) friend was supposed to come over yesterday to talk about a business they are in the process of starting up. Friend cancelled. last minute.

Friend tried to re-arrange for today - no time given.

Today, we are child free, we went out for the night together last night. As our youngest is 12 weeks old, our lie ins are pretty precious to me.

We also have in laws coming over for Sunday lunch, so busy morning.

So when friend tries to rearrange, DH says non - committal 'oh mate, we're pretty busy tomorrow, got parents coming for lunch and busy morning.
Could possible spare an hour or so before but another day would be better.'

Response: 'ah ok.'

Then this morning, 7.15am - DH gets a text - 'Hi mate - I'm on my way. Be with you at 7.30ish.'

So now he's downstairs!!!

AIBU to be so fucking angry I ripped DH to shreads this morning and would honestly like to go down there and explain to this prick exactly how unwelcome he is?! Gahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh fucking fuck fuck fuckprick.

I reckon you need to open the door and say, oh well we really must get on, and you'll have to get going, otherwise you'll be laying an extra place at the table.

You should have told them to wrap it up after an hour, or the minute that FIFA stuff started.

Dont be a mug in your own home!

You need to ask friend to leave.

Tell him it is not on to visit people at 7.30 on a sunday morning to play Fifa.

I'm the "business venture" person in our house, so I'm far more likely to be the DH in this scenario than the OP.

I just asked DH what he would do if someone I was planning to work with showed up at our house at 7.30, when we were meant to be having a child-free lie in, to have a "meeting" and we started playing computer games.

He said he would "tell them to piss off" and be really pissed off with me for letting them in.

He's pretty mild-mannered. :o

And no, I don't feel "controlled" by his expectation that I treat him with consideration.

This person has no boundaries (and neither does your dh it would seem).

Your husbands cue to wrap up the meeting game play was you asking him to nip out for potatoes. He did not take the hint, but left you to "entertain" this mate. What twats.

He took his mate with him to get the potatoes.

The FIFA continues.
He has told mate he will need to leave at 11 so we can get on. I am still so angry but judging by some responses on here perhaps I am BU.

Business is IT (they work together doing similar) - some sort of diagnostic/help desk type thing.

Fairy as someone with a gaming husband you are not being unreasonable.

I would be having a go at him and the friend now.

What?! How is your DH going to cook/clean/get ready for his parents if he's playing with his friend until 11?

This has made me angry. Tell the friend to get out.

So his friend is going to take up 3.5 hours of your busy Sunday?

PLAYING FUCKING COMPUTER GAMES?

And you think you are being unreasonable?

I think you need to take a closer look at who is the mug in your relationship.

Hint: it's not the guy having his mates around to play FIFA all morning

Join - he has not done this before. And trust me, he is going to get the bollocking of his life.

And actually, I don't think IABU, but I have been told by some that I am controlling and being very unreasonable, so I was trying to be at last vaguely objective.

From sad experiene, if I had someone turn up for a 'new business' meeting at 7.30 on a Sunday morning, i would be assuming that they were likely still drunk from the night before and hadn't really been to sleep. You might just check what time he opens the first bottle/can of beer. And check any business plans formulated this morning with a fine tooth comb.

What a pair of idiots.

I'm not sure that's entirely fair, cozie! The dh more or less told him he could squeeze him in for a couple of hours, and implied it would have to be before the planned lunch took place. I still thnk op's problem is entirely with her dh.

Cancel lunch.

Seriously.

Your dp has been up since 7.30 playing computer games rather than help prepare.

I would be fuming and simply leave him to do lunch and take a book to a coffee shop.

YANBU

It sounds like the friend has some sort of social boundaries issues.

When they get back from the shop tell the friend that next time he wants to call on your DH that he chooses a less anti-social time.

You are perfectly at liberty to do this as your morning was disturbed not just your DH's.

Then when the friend has slunk off. Feel free to bollock DH.

I am quite looking forward to the bollocking he is going to get (and deserves actually).

I dont blame you op, this was meant to be your child free time together and your dh and his friend ruined it. They were not even talking business but playing fecking games. Yes I would be livid tooat my Sunday being ruined

Please give us a verbatim account of the bollocking, OP!

YANBU. Your DH's friend is inconsiderate and sounds a bit thick, not to mention a bit sexist ('the wife'? )

And your DH sounds like a child. Takes his mate with him to buy the potatoes? Spends a 'meeting' playing games unless you come down to ask him to do the household chores?

Bollock away

I would have yelled STFU repeatedly until the console was silenced. I would then have called DH upstairs and told him to ask the person to leave. If he refused, I would have put on my dressing gown and evicted him myself.

Why did either of you answer the door?! You should have just ignored it and the text.

I can't believe you are still making lunch.