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Original poster

You don't have a drinks party the same night as a slumber party

66 replies

Atavistic · 12/09/2013 19:40

My DD is invited, along with 4 other class mates, to a sleepover in another 8 year olds house. Another mum, not a mother of one of the sleep over girls, has texted me to ask am I going there for drinks tomorrow night. She received a text today, from the host mum, inviting her to a drinks party there ( women only) the same night as the sleepover.

I think this is really odd. Am I overprotective? My DD woke up upset and crying the last time she stayed. It's not the child's birthday, and the Mum doesn't drink. I really don't want to start WWIII, but I will really have to go against my gut instinct not to cancel.

I really need to count the votes. AIBU?

OP posts:
ILetHimKeep20Quid · 12/09/2013 19:43

So the mum won't be drinking?

Screwfox · 12/09/2013 19:43

i htink its a BRILLIANT idea - the kids wont sleep anyway

TweenageAngst · 12/09/2013 19:44

I would say a sleepover with 5 eight year old girls would require a drink or 7 just to get through it.

DawnOfTheDee · 12/09/2013 19:44

This mum is having a 'drinks party' but doesn't drink herself? Have I got that right?

Cluffyflump · 12/09/2013 19:44

Do you think there are going to be drunk people there?
The mum in charge will be sober, so unless you really believe it will be a crazy, drunken do, I think you should let Dd go.

kotinka · 12/09/2013 19:44

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WhereYouLeftIt · 12/09/2013 19:45

On the face of it, yes, YABU. You've said that the host Mum doesn't drink, so she is going to be sober all night. Why should she not have some friends round that evening? In what way does that affect your daughter's sleepover?

"My DD woke up upset and crying the last time she stayed."
WHy did this happen? Are you worried that it may happen again?

BoundandRebound · 12/09/2013 19:45

Yes you're overprotective

They're having a drink not getting 'shitfaced' and having a student party

Are you just cross that you haven't had a text yet?

ILetHimKeep20Quid · 12/09/2013 19:45

Unless they are going to strip off and start bare knuckle boxing due to too much booze...

BrianTheMole · 12/09/2013 19:45

I'd need a drink with that many kids to look after. But the mum isn't drinking anyway, so it shouldn't be a problem?

peppapigmustdie · 12/09/2013 19:45

If the host Mum isn't drinking then I don't really see a problem.

Screwfox · 12/09/2013 19:45

if dd is a wuss then dont send her

RedHelenB · 12/09/2013 19:46

Why unreasonable - drinks party doesn't equal getting smashed out of your face presumably?

curlew · 12/09/2013 19:47

Am I missing something? I don't see a problem.........

livinginwonderland · 12/09/2013 19:48

Sounds good to me.

Yonionekanobe · 12/09/2013 19:48

We often used to stay at friends houses if their parents were having a party my parents were going to and vice versa. There'd usually be lots of people. All the kids would watch a video and eat/drink in one room and the adults would be in the lounge/kitchen. We would sleep there, I guess falling asleep long before the adults finished their party, and be picked up te following morning. Very happy memories indeed - particularly of this scenario when we loved in Germany (Dad was military) so I would have been 8 or 9.

So on that basis YABU. But maybe I'm missing something we should be concerned about in these here modern times as I'm taking about the late 80s Smile

littlewhitebag · 12/09/2013 19:49

I fail to see what the problem is here. Are you narked because you didn't get an invite?

peppapigmustdie · 12/09/2013 19:50

If the other Mum's invited have their dc's sleeping there, It is doubtful they will be getting shitfaced either. It sounds to me more a case of, come over with the kids and stay for a drink.
Not all night Tequila Slammerfest!

hettienne · 12/09/2013 19:50

I don't see the problem either. The children are 8, not 3 - they will entertain themselves. The mum isn't drinking, so what is the problem?

AcrylicPlexiglass · 12/09/2013 19:50

yabu. Sounds like a great idea.

Original poster
Atavistic · 12/09/2013 19:51

No, mum won't be drunk. She will, however, be in a totally different part of a large house, seeing to her adult guests.
I think you do one or the other, and try to do them well.

When I go for a night out, I don't like to have kids buzzing around, and when I'm hosting my kids' friends, they're my priority.

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mrspaddy · 12/09/2013 19:53

I'd imagine they will be having a drink of wine or two... The mother is not drinking. Cannot see what damagecan be done. The mother just probably wants abi of adult company for an hour as it pull be a long night for her.

Really wouldn't worry. How much damage can a few sensible mothers do???

usualsuspect · 12/09/2013 19:53

What's the problem?

Just how big is this house?

Screwfox · 12/09/2013 19:55

i dont think you need to worry about the hostesses hostess skills IYSWIM
how she entertains the guests is none of your beeswax

ILetHimKeep20Quid · 12/09/2013 19:55

They are 8, not 2, they aren't going to fall down the toilet

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