...just so I can have some company and a moan? Have n/c for this
My SIL is slowly turning into a nightmare. She is DH's sister, and the only girl of the extended family. She has one DD, aged 3, who is very much petted by all the family.
I used to get on well with SIL until DH and I announced our engagement almost 2 years ago. Since then her behaviour towards me has become increasingly strange. We got married in July and are not planning on TTC for another few years, however SIL is constantly making enquiries after the 'honeymoon baby' she seems to think we are trying for. This would be irritating enough, but the comments are made in quite an aggressive, sneering manner- it's hard to describe, and I don't think I am being over sensitive
She seems to 'fall out' with me constantly- yet i don't even know when it has happened! A few days ago we were all at PILs, and she was very off with me, and made lots of loud remarks about our wedding photos, which we have only just got back, 'when are we going to see these amazing photos then' etc. After she left, MIL informed me that SIL was very offended because she was not the first to see the photos 
She also was offended that her DD was not asked to be a flower girl. Her DD is a bit of a handful, who had to be taken out during the ceremony as she was shouting as we were speaking our vows, and trying to run up to us at the altar.
I just think it's a shame she's such a PITA because the rest of the family are lovely. DH cousin thinks that SIL is very jealous of me, but I have no idea why? I've only tried to be nice to her- I have one brother and always wanted a sister, and had initially thought it would be lovely to be close to a SIL.
There has been other things too which I don't want to get into, as it would be recognisable to anyone reading, but it has got to the point where I do not enjoy being in the same company as her and I am fed up of her nasty comments.
The thing is, i think it will become ten times worse when we do have a baby
AIBU?
AIBU to ask for your SIL horror stories?
heftydumpling · 11/09/2013 11:59
Sil No.1 went bit odd when dp and I got engaged - we'd been together for 7 years at that point so it was hardly a surprise. She completely ignored the fact. I remember her coming around with brother at one point, to our house full of 'congratulations on your engagement' cards and not a word! Couple of months later she and brother went on holiday and - surprise - came back engaged!! She then went into overdrive to arrange wedding before ours. We had no involvement in any arrangements beyond being told when/where. Fortunately I'm really not bothered by any bridezilla antics and she then returned to 'normal'. Most odd.
Although thinking about it, she did tell one friend at my wedding that she was going to have a baby and when asked when it was due gave a date over 12 months ahead - after next holiday? She was probably relieved to have her dc first or I could have got into trouble there too. I did manage to offend her by turning down her offer to go baby shopping when I was about 8 weeks gone - had slightly scary start to that pregnancy and was so sick was off work until 20 weeks, not certain at that point whether or not I would keep baby. Inconsiderate me.
And she's the nice one - sil No.2 was always very friendly and generous - suffocatingly so. She always seemed to be trying to 'buy' us, no matter how hard I tried to get her to stop. Turns out she was funding this by stealing from anyone and everyone, ourselves included. She would have seen dh, myself and two dc under two out on the street as long as she could continue pleasing herself. She ended up making herself and dc homeless and told everyone it was my fault. Lots of very odd behaviour over the years and none of it was ever her fault, it was always someone else. We dont have anything to do with her anymore (her exdp took charge of dc and we do have contact with them though 
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Wow that got long, apologies, I think you may have opened a whole can of sil-worms 
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Frillsandlaces 
what a bitch. And I'm sorry about your darling boy xxx
I have 2 SILs. One is DH's sister and one is DH's bro's wife. Both lovely. Nothing to report.
However, I have 3 XSILs. All XH's bro's wives.
One was lovely.
One was okay, but hard work.
The 3rd was jealous of me, i think. Not sure why. We were stoney broke and couldn't afford a pram for DC1. Tried to save while preg. but kept having bills to pay. As her DS was nearly 3 when my DD was going to be born. She offered me her pram as a lend. She said she had no where to store it so i may as well take it for when DD was born. I was so grateful, and promised i'd look after it and give it back when DD had outgrown it. When DD was 2 weeks old she demanded, through MIL, her pram back as she had changed her mind :( Left me with no pram and no money to buy one.
There never was an explanation. The pram just sat and mouldered in her loft. I'll never forget that.
Mine always makes snide comments about everything DH and I wear/like/do. Everything she likes is superior and she is very rude about our lack of taste/style/money. But if DH dares to comment negatively in reply all hell breaks loose - tears, screaming, getting MIL involved to tell him off.
It's caused by MIL and FIL ultimately - they pander to her constantly, she is very obviously a favourite child, and DH is very obviously not, for no reason I can work out. They make grand declarations of love/support/help, but when it comes down to it, they always put SIL's minor needs/wants above DH, even when it's something important. It really hurts him 
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My very lovely mother has been reduced to tears many times by the sheer nastiness of the vile woman.
Your poor mum . What is wrong with these women???
I seem to have had immense bad luck with my SILs. I don't speak to any of them.
My ex SIL told me after I got pregnant that she wouldn't speak to me when I announced my pregnancy. She said that when I was no longer pregnant se would resume speaking to me but I was not, under any circumstances to talk about my baby.
I talked to my brother about it, obviously not wanting to cause upset to her if they were trying for a baby, and he told me she just didn't like me. Which made sense as she spent all her time making passive aggressive digs about my weight, looks, clothes etc. They sadly finished quite shortly after that, I miss her 
My other SIL and I haven't talked for about 2 years. She decided to tell me one night that she had a son who was stillborn, showed me a picture of a baby who just looked asleep, told me his name, told me about his funeral, then asked me not to talk about my angel children in front of her as it upset her so much.
Turns out it was all a big lie and she said she did it for 'attention'. Once I found out that what she said was a lie, she told me that she would take my brothers children and run off with them and he would never see them again if I told him what she had said. He and I no longer speak either as he decided to stand by her.
Then there are my husbands sisters. When my little girl died we asked to store her pram and cot at one of their houses until we decided what to do, the other one lived about 200 miles away. The one who lived far away never called, sent a card, emailed, nothing at all, then passed on a message through SIL 1 that she wouldn't come to my daughters funeral either, she, apparently, couldn't afford to come.
2 months after my daughter died I asked DH to go and get the pram and cot. When he came back he told me that SIL 2 had come up and got the cot and pram as her son had got someone pregnant, they decided, as we weren't using them, it would be OK. I'll never speak to them again either.
I can only hope my younger brother will find someone lovely when he gets another girlfriend so I can have one SIL success story.
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