To think this man at the cinema was plain nasty?

[WombatCat]

Dh and I watched a film at the cinema on Saturday night.

There was a young man a few rows back from us with very vocal Tourette's. Obviously it was distracting to most people around him, but once the film started I didn't find it an issue. However, one man decided to tell him to shut up and "isn't there a special showing you could go to?"

Quite a few people appeared to be in agreement with him. I now wish I said something.

Luckily, in one way, I doubt my ds will ever be that self-aware. He's only recently stopped stripping off in public if he gets wet. He's 18.

My DD thinks being angry is the funniest thing ever...which makes discipline hard..so she would giggle and attempt to say "very naughty" and "hello" noisily

Gosh, now I'm puzzled by Oblomov's post
That seems to be a strange reaction from someone with an autistic child. Would you not just think, hey ho that's the way it goes sometimes, the same as, I guess, you would hope people would think if it was your child making a noise involuntarily.

notyomomma - if you are 'privately annoyed' be a person's disability then you are lacking in tolerance at best....

A lot of saints on here. Can't even be privately annoyed now

but I would tolerate it because they cant help it, I wouldnt say anything, I wouldnt tut as that is appauling, I would just get on and watch the film.

If you're expressing your annoyance on a public forum, you aren't being privately annoyed.

If you were privately annoyed none of us would know about it would we?

im talking about a hypothetical situation. personally I most likely wouldnt be bothered because I can switch off to stuff like that (like my gran) but I can understand that it would annoy other people.

I am not saying 'disabled people annoy me' or anything of the sort that you seem to imply

If people with disabilities annoyed me, I would post about it on a forum that had parents of disabled children as members.

Wouldn't*

usual, i nearly flamed ya there

Somebody has to go to a special screening, don't they? It clearly isn't inclusive of everyone if somebody who needs a quiet environment to hear the film and somebody who can't be quiet are in the same showing. As there already are special showings for people with hearing impairments, it seems more sensible for those who need a quiet environment to go to the special showing.

but people with disabilities don't annoy me. I have just said that but you choose to ignore that q

noise at the cinema (any noise) annoys me greatly but I would tolerate it as they cant help it.

people with disabilities don't annoy you. As long as they are nice and quiet.

Freya
So that would be a special showing for the man who shouted?

The young man with Tourette's was not needing quiet.

Are we back to Ignoramus Screenings?

So behaving and thinking like a reasonable person is now considered to be saintly?

polishes halo

Intolerant screenings ARE actually the answer here..like quiet carriages.

i'm so saintly, I don't post to people with disabled kids that their kids noises really piss me off

Now quiet carriages really piss me off - because they are anything but usually.

Us again,

We'd like to draw everyone's attention to our recent This Is My Child campaign.

In particular this quote, "I wish people would stop referring to Tourettes for added comic effect in trivial conversations. The reality is that Tourettes is heart-breaking." Gunznroses".

As ever, please report any posts that you think break our talk guidelines.

The person in question could well be a Twat (with a capital T!) but DD1 is socially awkward and is sensitive to noises. If a man was making a noise through no fault of his own, we would end up walking out (which is fine with us btw, the onus is kind of on us) due to DD1 not physically being able to cope. As she has got older, it's become obvious she's very awkward as a result of her disability and I can almost imagine her doing this as she doesn't have the grasp about it being his own disability and his right to enjoy a film as much as all of us.

But... If he is a Twat (and I admit, the above is unlikely- but quite possible with DD1 whatever I do) then it is disgusting. Dfriend has Tourette's. I think telling her to stop ticcing would be like telling someone to stop breathing or whatever, it's natural- in her case, it's not what the majority do, that doesn't mean she can stop it and it doesn't mean she SHOULD have to stop it. She has a disability. She is a human being and has as much right to enjoy watching a film as me.