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Original poster

To think ONE holiday ONCE in term time should be allowed

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SilverStreak7 · 09/09/2013 16:02

Basically we booked to go away on a Sun Break (don't buy and newspaper but did buy for the vouchers) and only date we were given was next weekend .. We didn't think it would cause a major problem as my older two , when younger, came on two such holidays with us with no problems .. Now though Im given a letter (with a form to fill in) and letter says if permission is denied Id be liable to a fine or court action .. Some will say we have had six weeks for holidays, which is true, but Im on a limited income as only me and my boys and term time holidays are very expensive and I want them to at least have one holiday away . . This will not be a regular thing . ,probably won;t go again in term time.

To be more reasonable I have said if Homework is given I will make sure it is done and ready to be handed in on Tuesday

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Rudejude7 · 09/09/2013 16:15

If DC are in primary school YANBU, if they are in secondary school YABU.

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SilverStreak7 · 09/09/2013 16:16

I don't but I don't expect snide remarks either such as the one whose daughter is a Teacher . .A Teacher, I imagine, can well afford the over inflated holiday time holidays ..

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Sirzy · 09/09/2013 16:16

Like i suggested why not just go after school on the friday?

Rudejude7 · 09/09/2013 16:16

If DC are in primary school YANBU, if they are in secondary school YABU.

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SilverStreak7 · 09/09/2013 16:16

1 is Primary school and heard nothing from the school so I will ring them tomorrow

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MamaTo3Boys · 09/09/2013 16:16

Me too! I guess I'm just gunna have to save for longer and hopefully go in 2015 fingers crossed

GreatNorthRoad · 09/09/2013 16:17

I have never taken dc on hols in term time and dont plan to, but realistically np-ones going to fine you for 5(?) days if their attendance is otherwise good

DidoTheDodo · 09/09/2013 16:17

Holier than thou?

I brought up three children on very little money (SAHM) - actually £30 a month when all the bills were paid and no, we didn't have holidays.

Now my offspring are older and have left home my choices are different. But I'd always put my children's education and the law ahead of a holiday.

If you don't like the responses, and aren't prepared for some people to disagree with you, don't ask the question in the first place!

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SilverStreak7 · 09/09/2013 16:17

Its a thought Id take on Board if it comes back as a definite No, Sirzy . . Not a bad thought actually .

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Bowlersarm · 09/09/2013 16:18

Personally I don't think parents should have the right to take their children out of school for a holiday. There are enough reasons they have to have time off school anyway, illness, appointments etc.

So I think YABU in your thread title. You also say you've done it several times before, so it's not really a one off?

NonnoMum · 09/09/2013 16:19

Just to let you know that the rules re: holidays changed recently (starting this term).

There is no point in arguing with the school, they are just following the rules from higher up the chain. They can't sanction holidays (although they might have done before).

Therefore you have three choices:

Go and risk a fine
Don't go (or only after school and get back before Monday)
Or lie - your childen were too ill to make it into school.

DidoTheDodo · 09/09/2013 16:19

Snide? Me? ;)

Shakirasma · 09/09/2013 16:19

My boss and his family have just been on a weekend at Butlins. They left after school on Friday, then came back very early this morning to get the children to school.

Is this a feasible option for you?

SoonToBeSix · 09/09/2013 16:20

Yanbu two days at primary level will not make a difference to your dc's GCSE results. The memories will make a difference to their childhood though.

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SilverStreak7 · 09/09/2013 16:20

In YOUR opinion LaurieFairyCake . Opinions are like buttholes, everyone has one . .,

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MamaTo3Boys · 09/09/2013 16:21

I don't think it should be a problem as long as the children have a good attendance and are on track with their school work.

Parents that constantly bring their children into school late and don't make sure they do their reading/homework are doing more harm than those that do and want to go on holiday for a few days

LaurieFairyCake · 09/09/2013 16:21

Why would a teacher 'well afford the inflated holiday prices' Confused

Are you confusing them with bankers ? Grin

We're teachers, we can't afford to go on holiday - and it's not a right or anything- manage fine without it.

With the lovely weather we've had all summer there was no real need for anyone to go anywhere

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SilverStreak7 · 09/09/2013 16:21

It is a one off since these rules come in . . I last took two of my children on a break in circa 1999 ! Want to shoot me now ??!

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McNewPants2013 · 09/09/2013 16:22

How do you know about other people's income.

I did go away for the summer holidays a weekend 50 minutes from home, did a caravan share so cost £150 to rent Friday-Monday with a bit of spending money.

I don't agree with taking children out of school for hoildays unless its for a wedding that will only be 1 time only thing.

LaurieFairyCake · 09/09/2013 16:22

If you had a kid from every class off every week of term it would make group work impossible.

It's also really disruptive.

Not opinion, fact.

5madthings · 09/09/2013 16:22

They can authorize it for 'exceptional circumstances' this is at the discretion of the ht as it always has been.

Its a pita and an issue we are now battlinhg, we have been told to go and have a good time but they worn authorize it despite a letter from DPs employer verifying he couldn't take leave in school'hols and one child being injured meaning he was on bed rest all summer and a letter from hospital to confirm.

My letter does not mention fines and it says enjoy your break!!!

RightsaidFreud · 09/09/2013 16:23

Who ever said its the LAW for your children to be in school, that can't be right. What about all the children who are home schooled? I doubt their parents are being hoiked into court by the police.

Bowlersarm · 09/09/2013 16:24

Blimey OP, I think you've made your mind up. Rather aggressively.....

ZingWantsCake · 09/09/2013 16:24

Grin @ full of Saints! that is a whole new level of insult!Grin

why do you ask a question if you don't want to hear the answers?

ask for the absence to be authorized. if they don't give it you there are 2 choices:

  1. go and have unauthorized absence
  1. don't go.

sorry, but it couldn't be simpler.

LaurieFairyCake · 09/09/2013 16:24

That's some age gap of 14 years since you last took some of your many children away.

How old are the ones you want to take now?

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