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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that by the age of 32 you shouldn't be getting so drunk you throw up everywhere?

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RolandCat · 08/09/2013 16:54

A friend got so drunk on cocktails last night she was throwing up everywhere.

It was embarrassing.

She isn't 18. She is 32 and IMO she should know her alcohol tolerance level.

AIBU to think there comes a point where you stop getting so paralytic that you can't take care of yourself?

Her husband has spent the day looking after her and their 1yo dd. Which is fine if she were actually ill but this is self inflicted. She would be moaning like mad if the boot was on the other foot and he had spent the day lying on the sofa hungover.

AIBU to think she needs to grow up?

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beals692 · 08/09/2013 20:50

"How come this is bad but generally its OK to have a few glasses of wine every night? I know many more people who do that, and its a lot worse for their body than an occasional night out."

I personally don't have a few glasses of wine and wouldn't recommend doing that every night...However, that is what you are doing to yourself and your own body in the privacy of your home. People who go out and get paralytic, vomit everywhere, spoil other people's nights out, expect low-paid cleaners to clear up after them, make workers the next morning have to dodge their way around the pools of vomit in the streets, expect their friends to always be curtailing their night out dealing with a drunk, vomiting friend when they should also have a right to be enjoying themselves on their night out - these people just have a complete disrespect for everyone else and put their own desire to get hammered before anyone else. What you do to your body is your business, what you inflict on everyone else is another matter.

IntoTheLight · 08/09/2013 20:52

Why do you actually mind OP? Your friend had childcare (her DH) and took the day off - where's the problem? Happens all the time between couples.

This is such a 'Her at number 32 never gets her washing out before noon'-type complaint. Your disapproval is about making you feel better about your lifestyle choices by running her down.

KingRollo · 08/09/2013 20:54

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RolandCat · 08/09/2013 20:55

It annoys me because I find it embarrassing to be around someone that drunk at that age.

We're hardly teens anymore.

If you can't drink it then don't. Its not rocket science.

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IntoTheLight · 08/09/2013 20:57

OK, you just seemed quite judgemental about the mother-with-a-hangover thing.

VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 08/09/2013 20:57

at the slightly on the fence woman.

I overdid things horrifically after both DC, especially DC2 because he was BF and my tolerance had more time to go back to seriously lightweight levels.

I think I might have had MN to thank for that. There was a complex and scientific thread with clever people doing the maths and working out that you'd have to drink three bottles of wine to harm an older BF baby.

Not that I drank three bottles you understand, but given that I was also suffering from a tooth abscess, it gave me the go-ahead somewhat.

Fairylea · 08/09/2013 20:58

Are you sure she's not hugely depressed and hiding it well? Drinking so much sometimes signifies all is not well. I went through a spell of being almost like a second teenager when dh left me. I was aged 29, binge drinking and supposedly having the time of my life. Then going home and sitting on my sofa and crying on the days I didn't see anyone. No one knew.

redrubyshoes · 08/09/2013 21:00

Never, ever make a sweeping statement OP. You mind find it comes back to bite you on the bum.

She might be holding your hair back as you talk to god down the big white telephone one day!

Jengnr · 08/09/2013 21:01

I think you should knock around with other people. You clearly don't like your friend.

Purplerain80 · 08/09/2013 21:02

So what? If you find it embarrassing don't be around her when she does. Simple as long as she's not doing it every weekend then like others have said leave her to it. She's the one dealing with the hangover not you.

ilovechips · 08/09/2013 21:29

YABU to be so judgey, I wonder if she knows her "friend" is judging her...

lljkk · 08/09/2013 22:08

imho, it's revolting behaviour at any age.
Never did understand the appeal of drinking to become legless.

CrispyFB · 08/09/2013 22:16

Cocktails make you far more likely to puke (and have horrendous hangovers) than most other forms of alcohol. Especially if you're mixing the drinks a lot! All that food colouring and added sugar as well - you get a blood sugar crash which is never going to help nausea or how you feel the next day.

It could well be she just simply misjudged. Or had an underlying sickness bug even, you just don't know. Unless she's doing it all the time, shit happens. Especially if it's an exceedingly rare night out with friends!

Haven't puked through booze in years myself, and certainly not since having children 7 years ago, but I can easily see how it could happen under certain circumstances which aren't necessarily wholly irresponsible ones.

Charotte31 · 08/09/2013 22:23

If her OH is ok with looking after her while she has a hungover then what does it really have to do with you??

eretrew · 08/09/2013 22:23

YABU so she got hammered so what, she had childcare so it has no impact on her children.

FreudiansSlipper · 08/09/2013 22:27

oh please it is not all the time. ds saw me puking up in the loo on more than one occasion his nanna laughing and telling him that his mummy can not hold her drink

if it is all the time and she has to drink to get very drunk it maybe that she is feeling anxious, drink can give you confidence

i am sure her dh is having a good moan

LilMissSunshine9 · 08/09/2013 22:34

Urgh my work colleagues are the same... its quite regular too. They go out drinking all night and then call in sick the next day and I end up doing their work because I don't drink and therefore am at work. Although on one particular night I did take pleasure in hearing about one particular colleague who was so drunk he picked up some random bottle of water off the floor and drank from it- little did he know that same bottle of water had been used to wash some pigeon poo off someone else and was full of pigeon poo bits ( we were in a park)

WilsonFrickett · 08/09/2013 22:40

Oh god, my DH has finally joined MN. Nice try Mr Wilson, especially changing the details round so no-one works out it was actually me, aged 42 with a DS8, who was throwing up in the beautiful, new sink last night.

Tell you wht though, three glasses of prosecco at a lunch with friends sorted me right out, but thanks for not putting that bit in, wouldn't like people to judge me, a mother and an aged one at that, for drinking.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 08/09/2013 22:41

:) wilson

commuterbelt · 08/09/2013 22:44

love the alcohol detector ad at the top on this thread!

Alisvolatpropiis · 08/09/2013 22:44

I can kind of see where you are coming from Op but we can't all be perfect.

To be honest she probably feels 1) godawful 2) mortified today.

If you're concerned why not have a nice non judgemental talk with her?

specialsubject · 08/09/2013 22:45

it's not really the behaviour of anyone who is much fun to be with. Parent status doesn't matter. Drunks are really boring.

Next time, put her in the recovery position next to a gutter and leave her to it.

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 08/09/2013 22:46

I ended up hurling after a night on shots last xmas. I am much older than 32.

I have no shame.

ohforfoxsake · 08/09/2013 22:54

I'd have thought not being 21 and being a parent were exactly the reasons for getting oh so drunk

We still have kitchen discos. And dance on the table. I rarely drink but last time I retched at the sight of the recycling bag containing the bottles. The sheer number was impressive.

If I am too old (and older than you AIBU subject - much older) then shoot me now.

I have never claimed to be classy.

YABU. Live and let live.

grumpyoldbat · 09/09/2013 00:21

I've never understood the urge to get drunk but tbf in terms of parenting her DS was being cared for by a responsible adult.

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